Almost 17 And Still Without A Boy Friend. (Should I Be Worried)

<p>I always thought it was weird to want a significant other in general. It’s like the [Reverse</a> Bel Air](<a href=“http://xkcd.com/464/]Reverse”>xkcd: RBA).</p>

<p>I’m 19 and never had a girlfriend. I’m in that group of people who just don’t care enough about having a girlfriend to bother with it.</p>

<p>Relationships are draining–physically, emotionally, psychologically… and financially.</p>

<p>Therefore, it’s not wise to rush, to end up making a badly thought out decision. You’ll regret it deeply.</p>

<p>if you make bad decisions you get enough practice to make good decisions later, is how i always saw it</p>

<p>Im 16, and I had my first real kiss when I was 14. Very late compared to most of my friends, but I don’t live in the US and I guess here the culture regarding kissing/dating is somewhat different. I wouldn’t say I have a boyfriend, but i’m involved with someone now. Usually I don’t label my relationships, I just don’t see the point. =P</p>

<p>You shouldn’t stress about not having a boyfriend. Just enjoy life. You don’t need a bf to have fun! =D
And if you are worried about never having been kissed, just ask a guy out and kiss him.</p>

<p>I’m 16, never had a serious girlfriend before, although I am… in the process of nurturing a relationship and seeing where it goes. </p>

<p>Without knowing anything about your personality, looks, etc. I’m assuming that none of them are negatives/turn offs.
You don’t have to be the one who’s waiting for the white knight in shining armor. Guys can be pretty shy about girls, which is frustrating because both sides might like each other, but nothing ever happens like they do in the movies where they just magically know that they like each other. You can be the instigator of a relationship, buck the trend and ask a guy.</p>

<p>^^ In the U.S kids start going out when they’re 10. -.- It’s ridiculous.</p>

<p>I think that I may intimidate guys or turn them off. I am about 5 ft 10 in… And I’ve always had a nice, quaint, but shy personality.</p>

<p>I just turned 17, and I’ve also never been kissed/had a boyfriend.
Middle school- awkward stage, absolutely no self-confidence
High school- couldn’t see myself with any of those guys, still lacking some self-confidence</p>

<p>Now, I just need to learn how to initiate. I finally kinda have this thing with a guy, but I’ve been too nervous to ask him out. Hopefully I’ve gotten some guts over the summer.</p>

<p>Hahahaha, well I haven’t. Back in 3rd grade I declared that I would have an arranged marriage. Then in 6th grade I told the mom of the guy I liked that people shouldn’t date until after college. Maybe I’ll become less narrow-minded and try getting one senior year.</p>

<p>Rosebuds, do NOT be worried!!! My daughter is 19 and just got a BF for the first time this past year, her sophomore year. She never even kissed a boy before that. I know it can be frustrating, especially when your friends are “attached”. It will happen when you least expect it…</p>

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<p>And OP, don’t be worried. Random hook-ups that you can only remember with (untagged) FB pics are more fun, anyway. ;)</p>

<p>Disclaimer: I am not serious.</p>

<p>Don’t even let relationships phase you. If it’s a good one, it will happen naturally. You don’t have to “make pros and cons” or anything like that, relationships just happen when two people “click”, I guess. Good ones at least. I had never been close to a relationship until I was 16, and then I just met a girl who I really enjoyed hanging out with and talking to.</p>

<p>^^ haha, agreed.</p>

<p>and anyway, most people in this thread are around 17 years old. Come on, its kinda early to worry about serious relationships…
Just go out and kiss a lot, not worrying about the possibility of actually marrying these people. =P</p>

<p>I actually tried to get all the awkward new relationship obstacles out of the way in high school…I can’t imagine going to college and having my first girlfriend there. Dating was harder than I initially thought, so I’m not sure you can just jump cold turkey into college dating where people expect a certain degree of experience.</p>

<p>Hmm… idk. I’m 16, and I had my first girlfriend at 14. But my first relationship was childlike and whatnot. I’m single right now.</p>

<p>It’s really not a big deal. I don’t like when some guys at my school pick on some of my friends because they’ve never “gotten any.” It’s more obnoxious than anything really… I mean, those same guys picking on them can barely string a logical sentence together because they’re too busy getting wasted/stoned on the weekends. Just know that your future is probably looking alot brighter than most of your classmates and that, once high school and its novelties are over, you will find a “significant other,” as they say. :D</p>

<p>I’m 18 years old and I have some friends my age who are yet to receive their first kisses. You shouldn’t worry all that much. Besides, most relationships and flings at this age are all shallow and meaningless, anyway. I know I sound like an old grandma, but wouldn’t you rather find someone amazing a little bit later in the game rather than squander your precious time on a boy who isn’t even worth it?</p>

<p>I’m a 17 year old black girl too. Yeah, I’ve never been kissed or had a relationship but then I’ve never really tried. Just lately, i realized that I only ever wanted a bf because I felt social pressure to get one and that all of the guys I professed to “like”; I really only felt “lust” or friendship.</p>

<p>I do feel like it may be hard to find white guys that like black girls. Definitely not impossible, I know a good many white guys who will only date black girls. But then I know many who really don’t even think about it. But that’s just from what I’ve seen. I think it’s a bit easier to find black guys that like white girls. This is from my experience living in a pretty diverse area, and being a white girl that is more inclined to black guys.</p>

<p>^ I need to find those white guys you know. :)</p>