<p>Lately, I have been thinking about my life a lot. I realized that I don't have many friends at my school, but let me explain further.</p>
<p>I go to a top public high school in Conn. I used to go to a private school, but switched into the public high school for 9th grade. I didn't know anyone except for four kids from my old school, none of whom I was close with. One of them I really don't like, so I can't hang out with the kids he hangs out with. My other friends all went to boarding school, as was expected. I had and still have a hard time making friends at my new school, and I'm now in 10th grade. </p>
<p>I'm not sure why. I'm pretty friendly and constantly make jokes, but only to people who I'm comfortable around, and around others I don't know I'm now really quiet. I used to be really loud and outgoing, and now I'm reserved. I think one reason is because almost everyone, and I mean this, drinks at my school, and I really don't. I don't know why I have such a hard time getting people to invite me to places. Maybe it's because in one group of friends, I only like half or so. But I don't hang out that much with them, and don't go to parties. It's making me depressed when I feel as though I shouldn't be sad about not drinking and not having friends as a result. I just want to cry sometimes. </p>
<p>Can anyone give me advice on what to do or how to make friends and get invited to places? Please don't yell at me or be rude, it's just frustrating you know. I miss the old me and I miss the times when you could have fun without drinking or being scared to be yourself.</p>
<p>When wondering when a party is, just casually ask. “You guys getting ****faced anytime soon?” That’s a very casual way of asking, and it makes you seem like you’re an experienced drinker. Once you get invited once, you are set. It’s much easier to make friends under the influence.</p>
<p>Lately, I have been thinking about my life a lot.</p>
<p>Honestly, constant introspection frequently leads to depression. I know first hand of this.</p>
<p>Stop thinking about everything and just be who you are. Once when you get to college, things will be a lot better if they don’t clear up any sooner.</p>
<p>Yah, I think you are depressed,
but it’ll go away right?</p>
<p>“The real reason for not committing suicide is because you always know how swell life gets again after the hell is over” - Ernest Hemingway</p>
<p>Seriously, do you guys really care if you get invited to parties or not?
I don’t really care nor get invited anyways; I dealt with that like a long time ago because later on the people who keep their focus will be the boss of those who get drunk & wasted away… We’re all so much better without that gunk.</p>
<p>haha, I party with my bookss, my notebooks, & lap top! Occasionally, I get the icecream out as well, topped with sprinkles, nuts, chocolate, etc… haha, [[ omg. I sound so lame. but i don’t care.</p>
<p>Oh, jw, why didn’t you go to boarding school as well?</p>
<p>Try smoking weed. At my school, everyone drinks, but only the cool kids smoke a lot of weed. Ergo, you smoke weed, you’re cool. </p>
<p>On a more serious note, I don’t think you’re really depressed. Depression is chemical, you’re unhappiness is purely social. If you’re not a complete social ■■■■■■, you’ll be able to find friends through organized activities, like sports or clubs involving a serious commitment. Trust me, if you’re around people a lot, you will get close to them, and you will gain some friends. Don’t expect anything to quickly, don’t be over eager, just steadily work up acquaintances and friendships will come. Other than that, don’t worry about it, when your life seems to have bottomed out things tend to go pleasantly up.</p>
<p>ok well i have one reason why I don’t hang out with the drinking jocks, who I would probably normally hang out with. There is one kid from my old school that hangs out with them, that sorta knows an embarrassing secret about me, and so I try to avoid him, which means avoiding the jocks. Garrrr, this sucks!</p>
<p>Um, if everyone drinks and you are morally opposed to drink and you feel like you don’t have friends because you don’t drink then you’re hanging out with the wrong crowd. Surely there has to be someone who doesn’t drink who will be friends with you. </p>
<p>And honestly, no one can know if you’re depressed. This might sounds stupid, but google “depression test” or something. But the best thing you should do is talk to a counselor at school.</p>
<p>why would you want to hang out with a jock? If the only way you make friends is by flaunting the fact that you play on a crappy high school sports team, then you are a loser anyways.</p>
<p>i agree with beef supreme. i don’t think that you are honestly depressed either. depression goes way beyond sad. if you are depressed, you feel like something is sitting on your chest, suffocating you, and making it hard to breathe. you start losing interest in all the stuff you used to be into, and you feel as if you won’t ever be able to get back to normal. </p>
<p>that being said, you still have the problem of not having friends. i have moved quite a bit and have therefore switched schools many times myself. i have been in the same situation as you many times. no matter how many people at school drink and stuff, there will always be some who don’t. just try to find those people. also, try joining some clubs, particularly those who require events outside of school. if after one of those events everyone is going to go grab some pizza, try to get yourself invited along. join outside of school activities too. don’t know if you are into this or not, but youth groups are usually very accepting of people, no matter what differences they may have. some people from your school may even be in it. </p>
<p>just try to build up the friendships you have now, and try not to let yourself become introverted. it will all be okay soon =)</p>
We’re all so much better without that gunk.</p>