<p>The school in high school is nothing compared to stress I go through with people. It's like I have no friends. I can't to antone and ii is really depressing. It's not really being alone it's that fact that I feel rejected. I feel like no one wants to my friend.</p>
<p>Are you a freshman? Because if that's the case? Things will get MUCH better. Even if your in 10th, things tend to get better as people realize that youre not in middle school anymore.</p>
<p>I hear Dashboard Confessional is popular for this kind of feeling.</p>
<p>Other than, I'm sorry to hear that you feel that way.</p>
<p><a href="mailto:05hang@simsbury.k12.ct.us">05hang@simsbury.k12.ct.us</a>
^ zero fiver</p>
<p>iam93157</p>
<p>i'm a good listener :D lets talk</p>
<p>Wow...that's was EXACTLY how a felt a year back, and I was a h.s. Junior. I hated the feeling of walking alone in the hallway, or sitting with people I didn't know in the cafeteria, listening to their talk of dances, dates, movies, etc. I felt like an outsider, distant and separate from the high school hierarchy/cliques--it was so late into high school that I felt that it was futile to try and make friends at that point, and no one cared to be my friend anyway. Not only did this feeling of lonliness affect me emotionally, my grades actually began to nosedive in the most crucial year of h.s.</p>
<p>On the first day of senior year ,Sept. 8 to be precise, I did something crazy. After I bought my lunch at the cafeteria, I just found a group of people, (I could identify who they were, but didn't know them personally then), introduced myself, asked if I could sit at their table, sat down, and began to converse. It was that easy! Less than a month later, these same individuals planned my 17th birthday party for me, the first b-day party I had since 7th grade, and we've still remained close friends (and btw, my GPA shot up from a 2.833 to a 4.4--being socially healthy translates into good grades). Unfortunately, I'll be going off to college next fall, so I've enjoyed the company of these new friends (most of them juniors) for a short while. :(</p>
<p>miaprincess225...do you know of any other girl or boy who seems lonely and sits alone at the lunch cafeteria? Be on the lookout. Since he/she probably feels the same way as you, you two can easily relate to each other, and start a friendship. That person will probably be thrilled that someone was willing to talk to them.</p>
<p>Best of luck. Please feel free to send me a private message or AIM.</p>
<p>I was like that all throughout high school. I never went to my senior prom or any homecomings because I didn't even have friends to go with. Right now I get lonely but only because I chose to, I never really met my personality match anywhere. It's nice that people offer to take me out but I feel they do it because they feel sorry for me. This year has been a big change for me, now I make my own money, I went to NYC and went to a club for the first time! Also I just learned how to swim which I consider a big milestone. The past still haunts me but I'm happy that I'm improving every day.</p>
<p>geez, I feel that way right now. anybody wanna talk on aim, please do... i'm getting lonely right now...<em>sniff</em></p>
<p>I felt like that for years, but trust me, it will get better. Maybe it will get better tomorrow, or maybe it will get better only when you graduate and go off to college: a fresh and new social situation, where no one knows anyone else and everyone is equally lonely, often helps get you out of the no-friends bind (one person I know once described trying to make friends when you have none as akin to trying to find a job with no work experience). But trust me that it WILL get better, even if it doesn't feel like it yet.
Don't forget, though, when you are happy and socially comfortable, what it felt like to be the outsider. I remember spending years wishing that someone, anyone, would just come and sit down next to me and actually talk to me, give me a chance. No one ever did. Nowadays, now that I'm comfortably a part of my school's social group, when I see people standing in the corner, I like to go over and talk to them, no matter how shy or socially inept they seem. It sort of feels like I owe it to my miserable 13-year-old self.</p>
<p>for years, i tried to isolate myself to hide my insecurities because the issue i was dealing with personally was so uncommon, i don't think anyone in my school was ready to hear it just yet. because of this experience, i learned to be independent and to stand up for myself more...now, i can actually converse with people and laugh because i feel like if i ever feel let down, that i can actually defend myself- albeit, in a civilized manner, as always. i have a long way to go still, but i'm proud of how i've handled my situation thus far. at this point, i don't feel confident enough to tell anyone about what i'm going through, but i will get there, maybe in college. i felt like before, i used to be the victim in every situation, but now i'm the victor because i'm on top of things.</p>
<p>the thing is, i absolutely hate being alone. walking to class alone, walking to lunch alone...--i just hate it. what can i do to be more confident and walk where ever i want without feeling bad? also, how do u converse well? what kinds of things do u talk about?</p>
<p>i wrote a very longwinded message but it got erased. basically, i said that confidence can either be acquired by artificial means (by forcing yourself to think a certain way) or through overcoming a tough experience. i acquired it the second way, as i learned to confront the unfamiliar situation i was put in. however, you can also condition your mind, but you have to be deliberate about it or else it won't work. when you find yourself walking in the hallways with your head down, just distract yourself from thinking about the immediate situation. think of current events, or something. after two weeks or so, feeling confident might be second nature to you. if you're still not confident, which can very well be the case for many, just pretend like you are, because your demeanor as seen by others influences their perception of you...which can in turn influence how your perceive yourself. write in a journal, if you must. that's what i did to overcome a tough experience. i forced myself to write on a daily basis because i found it helpful in organizing my thoughts and providing stability. it's also scientifically proven to reduce stress, so it's worth a shot. for me, it was a hard habit to get into, but after a week or so, journaling became part of my daily routine. in fact, i took it with me wherever i went so if i felt particularly frustrated, i could just take it out and start writing. sometimes, it also helped distract my mind from negative thoughts, because i'm always on the look out for unique experiences to write about.</p>
<p>how to converse well? if you don't have a topic in mind, just state how you're feeling, because you have to be true to your emotions. just say "i don't really know what to talk about...are you good at small talk?" maybe you find that the other person doesn't like small talk either. you know, i came to the US not speaking very good english, which made it harder for me to seek out friends. even now, i don't feel i have very close friends, but like i said it's because of an unusual circumstance that 99% of the population can't relate to. however, i do try to talk in class even if i stutter sometimes. just have courage.</p>
<p>I know the feeling you have to go through. Infact I felt the same way. I was lonely and miserable and there was no one I could talk to. External situations like moving to a different state almost every year, not being a native english speaker and having low self confidence contributed to my feeling that way. But the thing you have to realize is that only you and YOU can improve your situation. You have to take the initaitive and meet new people and talk to them, they won't come to you. I tried this method at my new school and now I don't have any trouble making new friends or meeting people. You can talk about school, test, sports anything you like. You have to be confident in yourself and try to make each day your best. Try to have a positive outlook and say hi to people, they won't bite, I promise.</p>
<p>I can't believe I got a good amount of post went I wrote my message so bad.</p>
<p>miaprincess225, what year of h.s. are you in? If you are a freshman, sophomore, or a junior, don't despair, you still have time to make new friendships--I made friends in the beginning of senior year, so don't despair. And if you are a senior, when you go off to college in the fall, you have a chance to make a fresh start completely re-invent yourself.</p>
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<p>As an ex-loner, I can relate to how you feel. Unfortunately, many misguided folks think that shy and introverted people are anti-social, arrogant, or unfriendly. Although this assumption is wrong (you and I are none of those things), YOU have to take the initiative to make friends and make conversation. Like I said before, find someone else who seems as lonely as you. Also, it's a good idea to join school clubs, sports, etc.--they are great ways to meet people with similar interests.</p>
<p>Hope this helps!</p>
<p>y'all can be my friend. i hang out in my car at lunch and eat and do math</p>
<p>that's pretty hawt, the school lets u do that stuff?</p>
<p>hell yeah, our school is lax. we go off campus for lunch everyday and the local restaurants have cheap lunch deals for us. we have a pretty lenient dress code and its pretty cool. sometimes we have drag races during lunch, but the cops stopped it last semester. lol</p>
<p>dang... must be ol liberal california at work over there... drag races during lunch, hilarous!</p>
<p>lol yeah its pretty fun! lots of parking lot accidents though, especially during the spring for some reason.</p>
<p>miaprincess225...it's a good idea to find out about any new students at your school, as they also feel lonely and want to meet people too--this year I befriended a sophomore who moves to my school from TX, and she was thrilled that I was the first person to take the initiative to talk to her. Also, try participating in some extracurricular activities you're interested in.</p>
<p>Best of luck!</p>