I’m am currently a freshmen enrolled at Rowan university. The first day I got here I was excited and ready for change and parties and meeting new people. I was pretty happy through out first semester until winter break…
I was diagnosed ADHD which is a huge explaination for my mood swings and inability to perform at full potential although I still was able get by the first semester with a 2.8 so obviously I’m not a scholar but I can get work done last second when I comes down to it. ADHD is also known to cause issues with emotion regulation and ever since the diagnoses iv been sort of depressed.
Come the second semester iv been pretty unhappy and Getting a really shitty vibe from the school in general. The diagnoses does bother me but I’m slowly getting over it. I recently have had feelings of just transferring to CC and then Rutgers next but I’m afraid I will be making a bad decision. I just don’t really like the vibe I get here but there’s nothing wrong with the school. Beautiful campus nice rec center, new building in construction but it’s pretty boring. I want to join a frat next year to get my social life going because I do like to drink and have fun but the thing is, not always. Sometimes I’m introverted and antisocial as fuck and sometime I want to chill with everyone and be spontaneous and shit(ADHD). But I just get this vibe that I won’t be happy here and it’s been almost 2 semesters and I still don’t “love” it here. If I transfer I should act now but I’m not sure. Iv made great friends with my suit mates so that probably what has kept me from getting completely depressed but one is transferring and overall I don’t see them as long term friends. (Btw the reason I felt the mentioning ADHD is causes my mood to fluctuate ALOT so my feeling towards this changes on a daily basis. Sometime I want to get the fuckout and sometimes I’m excited for next year so you can see where my problem is)
Sounds like an appointment with the campus counseling center for a few sessions might help you with two things. First you are grieving. You have received a diagnosis that you probably knew was correct before you got it, but once you got it, a whole new reality started for you, the reality that you aren’t 100% normal. That does take time to adjust to for everyone, and now that you know what the problem is, it also takes time to find the best resources and strategies that will work for you. This grief and adjustment process seems to be coloring what started out as a pretty positive approach to your school in the fall.
Second, you need some help deciding what the right course is for for, staying or transferring. A counselor should be able to help you to explore these feelings. Also, regularly talking with your parents about what is feasible economically as well as in your best interest emotionally might be part of this process.
You have made friends and there are things you seem to like about the school. Think long and hard as to whether or not you want to start over or figure out what you need to adjust to your “new normal.”
Thanks. I think your right about everything especially the grieving part. I think you hit the pin on the nail when said that the reality that I’m not “100% percent normal” is getting to me. Transferring to Rutgers wouldn’t make a difference, it’s about the same price since I’m in state. It’s a better buisness school which is the field my major is in and overall a better school and 15 min away but I will have to start over. I will visit the health center for counseling too. Thanks for the response though I it was helpful I really appreciate it.
You are welcome. There is a great Youtube video by Russell Barkley on ADHD, something like 30 essential things parents need to know or something like that. It is parent oriented, but also very good about ADHD in general. The more you educate yourself about the disorder the better you can cope with it. Good luck.
I agree…stay the course…one public college in NJ is not that much of a change over another…and Rutgers is so huge…here you know the campus/people/professors. Your issue isn’t Rowan, it is learning how to deal with your ADHD.