She probably can’t pass up three days at the beach! She might even bug out on Saturday morning to go fishing. I’d definitely ask again to make sure–she wasn’t sure she was coming to start–she might have changed her mind by now. Especially considering she might get “stuck” with “mom” by herself (works both ways!). I’m not one to fish normally but fishing trips where someone else baits my hook and worries about bringing the gear are another matter.
Buy extra sunscreen.
I think you’ve got some interesting museums nearby you that could easily make for a fun morning out.
Your S and GF may already have a plan for her time Saturday morning but maybe you could have a stash of ideas ready to offer if there seems to be a plan:
sleeping in!
2.beach morning
3.visiting your favorite coffee shop for breakfast
a drive around the area or stops at anyplace notable
She’s not 19 - assuming she is around your son’s age (25?). She is hopefully more mature that she doesn’t look at the situation as getting “stuck” with her BF’s mom!
Sounds like you’ve got the basics covered (sleeping arrangements and food desires/needs) so I would say that I’d offer a glimpse into your family. One night/morning cook a favorite meal and play a favorite game. Tell stories about your ds. You’re not only trying to get a handle on her; she’s trying to get a handle on y’all.
Ds1 only brought one girl “home” – we met her in a neutral city where he was busy coaching a team in a tournament. We got an Airbnb to share with her while ds1 was at the team hotel. We went out to eat and ds met us and his brother who flew in to meet her, too, afterward and played a family favorite card game and drank the local favorite beer. Went so well. They are now married and, in fact, I am writing this in their home. Ds2 brought a gf home from college and she got the same treatment. This one, thankfully, didn’t last, but it was the same thing – took her to favorite restaurants, cooked ds2’s favorite dessert, played all the family games. Great time was had by all.
Who knows whether this one will the The One, but I think it’s serious enough that he wants you to meet her, which speaks well of y’all’s relationship. Let us know how it goes!
Yeah, me neither. A pedicure would be a big no for me!
You seem to have things well in order. Have fun! I can still see my now daughter in law walking into the kitchen of our house (they drove down for the weekend). and meeting her for the first time years ago. I was taking a pizza out of the oven! I liked her right away!
My folks (well… dad) loved showing old slides at some family get-togethers, including once when I brought a girlfriend home from college. That was just great – plenty of great photos of me wearing diapers, being fed, slobbering… smearing a popsicle on my sister’s face… putting Noxzema on my sister’s face (“Look mom, Rachel’s a clown!”)… etc.
So if you have some really great old photos (or… slides) of your son sitting around somewhere, be sure to embarrass him with them. hehe
I made the mistake of asking my nephew’s “friend,” what she thought of an elected person. I was pretty shocked at what she said and told her she was young and when she got older she would see the light.
I kind of wish I hadn’t asked, but at the same time I was glad to know. It really killed the joy, though. My nephew was pretty mad that I asked, but fortunately I wasn’t his mother!
Of course it went nowhere between the two of them. Phew.
Buy yourself a big box of chocolates, and lock yourself in your room occasionally and eat some.
As for the girlfriend, put her to work. Ask her to set the table, sweep the porch, walk the dog, answer the phone, prep some dinner…it keeps you busy and feels less awkward, but awkward is how it goes.
Go for walks with your husband to rant about whatever. Return with a smile. expect your son to act like an idiot at all times. (6 months is nothing. Nothing. )
Ah memories! My first meeting of my inlaws was a multi-day trip as well. They lived in a very touristy area, so we spent quite a bit of time touring which filled the time. I think the only potentially awkward time is Saturday morning if your son leaves for most of the day. I’d check in on if she’s planning on sleeping in, going to the beach etc as I’d want a plan if I need to entertain her.
I wouldn’t ask her to cook for the family or anything like that. Too much pressure when she doesn’t know you.
For Saturday, if you have a normal routine, maybe say “I’m going to go for a walk, then heading to the farmer’s market, then to get some lunch. If you’d like to join me for any or all you’re welcome to, but if you’d like to hang out at the pool or beach instead, feel free” (or something similar to that).
If it makes you feel any better, the first time my son’s GF met us, we’d gone hiking and then came to our house for awhile before heading out to dinner. We were having a little snack around the kitchen table when one cat started to puke and then other cat started to puke too (not a normal occurrence). Poor girl just kept on eating… It must have been love, because she came back soon after that, and spent close to a week.
I’m all about asking for light help. Or giving light tasks if she asks if she can help. Setting the table, clearing the table, getting water for the table, could you grab the _____________ out of the fridge, set the salt and pepper on the table. That sort of thing. I’m not going to ask her to cook or sweep the porch or anything.
