online lover

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>ok I know you guys are thinking that liking somone online without meeting them is probably insane. But, I do like someone and I only know her online. And, even though I havent met her, I feel we have a connection, and sometimes I feel that it's more than a crush, which is a scary thought. But I can't help it. She's so wonderful and smart and nice.</p>

<p>god I'm pathetic.</p>

<p>I know she feels the same way, but we don't really know what to do. The other problem is that I'm going to college next year, and she's only a junior. She's worried that in college I will meet girls who are better than she is. And, I doubt this is possible, but meeting girls in college is unavoidable.</p>

<p>I just don't know what to do. She likes me a lot too, and we know we want to be together, but we're both just confused.</p>

<p>Does anyone have any advice for me or have felt this way?</p>

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<p>A couple of questions- are you sure its a girl...are you sure of the age...are you sure of anything? much much much too risky</p>

<p>If I were her parents, (if she is who she says she is) I would tell her to run fast in another direction from an unknown online romance....</p>

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<p>Errr....yeah.....kinda creepy</p>

<p>Do you live near each other? You have to at least try to meet, I would suggest a very bright and very populated place.</p>

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<p>When reading her messages, you should examine the tone? Is she trying to persuade you? Is she pressuring you to meet her?</p>

<p>Frankly, it sounds too good to be true.</p>

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<p>I met my boyfriend online, and have been with him for almost 2 years. I was a sophomore and he was a junior when we met, and he's now finishing his first year of college, scratch-free (that means no sorority girls!). I'll be attending the same college next year. Despite the entire country between us (Hawaii and Pennsylvania), we've managed to spend a lot of time actually together, and everything worked out for the best. </p>

<p>So yeah, be wary, but don't shut out the possibility.</p>

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<p>A week ago, my local police held a "computer-crime" seminar with all the online dangers...... i'd be prepared for a pedophile! : 0</p>

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<p>Here's a related question: do those creepy online pedophiles chase teenage males at all? I mean, there's always a lot of media coverage about creepy old guys stalking and meeting up with teen/pre-teen girls, but I don't think I've ever heard an instance of this happening to a guy. Is this just the media being weird, or does it really (almost) never happen to guys?</p>

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<p>the police showed us files of a pedophile who had been arrested in our area a couple weeks before the seminar...</p>

<p>EDIT: they have a friggin' computer crime team in our area, bc apparently, i live in the hotbed for pedophile meetings : /</p>

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<p>Yow, guess I'm just lucky, then. :P</p>

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<p>has anyone here seen napooleon dynamite?
the op might be running into a "la fawnda" situation...</p>

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<p>I've known my boyfriend for around 3-4 years now :) I talk to him on the phone like 4 times a week. He's 20. I'm 17 in September. We're going to my senior prom next year together :)</p>

<p>long distance relationships can work. Your situation seems to be of how much you like her. So, How much do you like her?</p>

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A week ago, my local police held a "computer-crime" seminar with all the online dangers...... i'd be prepared for a pedophile! : 0

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<p>Besides not going, how does one "prepare" for a pedophile?</p>

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<p>Well, whenever I hang around with someone I don't know very well alone, I get my friends to "accidently" bump into us. During a movie etc etc. Or you can let your friends follow you without him knowing. </p>

<p>it's really fun stuff :D</p>

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<p>So next year your school will let a 21 year old go to the senior prom? Really?</p>

<p>So you are 16 dating a 20 year old? Really?</p>

<p>OP: don't get to infatuated with someone you have never met...be very careful and very realistic...even if you have seen pictures, etc. You know how people exagerate the truth on THIS website....</p>

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<p>yes, yes. I wasn't aware that proms put age limits.</p>

<p>We also send mail to each other. Presents for xmas, bdays. I've called his home phone and spoke to his mother occasionally, his doggy :D etc</p>

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<p>get iron chastity briefs with a lock. : / (actually i meant be psychologically prepared that the girl you might be chatting with could be a man) BUT she could still be a she... what do i know?</p>

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<p>I guess they must not, but many schools do, and I can understand why. </p>

<p>As a mother I would have a problem with it, but I am not your mom</p>

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<p>Personally, I think meeting people online/having online relationships is lame. But that's just me because I need to see someone on a regular basis. However, I know of some people who have had some online relationships, and I don't think it's all that uncommon or anything bad.</p>

<p>I think it's easy to think you're falling for someone over online conversations, when it may really not be the case.</p>

<p>But as some of the other posters have said, it's worked for them, so I don't think you should rule out the possibility of it working.</p>

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<p>in my experience (just with friends and stuff) a lot of people act differently online than they would when you're talking to them in person</p>

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<p>wow just be extremely careful and be prepared for disappointment. If she is real than you can't ignore the fact that you are totally holding each other back, give the girls in real life a chance. I don't know I guess I don't understand your "relationship" but if there isn't really any way you guys could be together you might as well it end like you'd pull off a band aid, quick! you'd be suprised at how quickly you can forget about someone you've never met.</p>