I’m currently attending school 3 1/2 hours away. I am a sophomore in my second semester and I am having extreme anxiety issues. The frustrating thing is I was completely fine last year! I have so many things that I could say, I’m afraid I won’t get to them all, but I will try. I think that I had a whole bunch of major changes last semester which cause so much stress building up, but now my anxiety just hurts me. I have always been a happy go lucky girl and I’ve never worried this much in my entire life which is extremely frustrating.
Last semester was the most academically challenging for me. I also moved from a dorm to an apartment, had many issues with my roommates and my boyfriend of 2 years and I were having issues. Those issues with my boyfriend are resolved now, BUT because I am so anxious I overthink everything and am constantly trying to figure out what are my anxious overthinking thoughts and what are actually accurate… I feel awful because I don’t want to drag my boyfriend into it, and I really don’t want to push him away because I love him so much. But at the same time, I get scared that what happened last semester will happen again. I’m just worrying about EVERYTHING. Not even just things about my boyfriend.
And another thing, I AM seeing a counselor once a week at my school. I started in February and I think it has been helping, but I just want the anxiety to go away.
Another thing is my boyfriend and I used to text all of the time like all day, but I think we are growing up and maturing and he doesn’t like texting as much anymore, which makes sense… But since we are doing long distance how do I know when we aren’t talking enough? It’s so hard… Especially with my anxiety.
Hey, don’t stress so much. Remember that one day you’ll be happy with whatever it is you want to accomplish. College is very very stressful, I am beyond stressed myself. However we can’t let others conflict with our goals. Work hard for the good grades and you’ll be awarded. Maybe having a boyfriend right now isnt a good idea with the stress but dont let that get in the way of trying to do good in school. Dont get the impression of “i’m not okay i have anxiety” get stuck in your head. It’s all in your head, you just have to learn to tell yourself that you are strong and okay. Hope this helped.
Hey! You’re very similar to me. We’re the same year, I actually have recently begun dealing with anxiety, I also see a counselor once a week and believe me its hard.
Anxiety is not uncommon. I had a conversation with a friend of mine and she said “take it one day at a time” that simple phrase really resonated with me. She understood that I wasn’t intentionally overreacting and she was working to listen. That night I felt great. I cleaned and reorganized my room, redid my bed etc it felt like a new beginning. And I also ordered food, my fortune cookies said “you’re never to old to dream. Dreams bring hopes” and “Look around yourself. Your answer is nearby” for me these were both huge. I can’t point out why but they were- maybe they’ll help you too.
Anyway, just take it one. Day. At. A. Time. Every minute, every hour that you feel okay is not just “normal” look at it as a victory; you did it.
If you ever need someone to talk to please feel free to message me and best of luck
I’ve been dealing with a lot of depression and anxiety this year too, and I also see a counselor. Like @Jazzii said, it is really hard, and just frustrating when you feel like you’re not making any progress.
Three things that have helped me were 1. Meds, lol, always something to consider if you’re finding your anxiety to be debilitating. 2. If you Google search “CBT Thought Record,” I’ve found them to be really helpful when I get a thought that I just can’t stop obsessing over, or I’m not really sure why I’m feeling anxious. It helps you figure out what the thoughts are, why they’re bothering you, and more rational / realistic ways to view whatever situation you’re in.
And 3. When I get really anxious, and then I’m beating myself up for wasting time worrying, I always try to remind myself that it’s okay. It really is. We all worry from time to time. Some more than others. It doesn’t feel good, but you don’t have to fight it or wait until it goes away to live your life. I know it seems like the opposite of what you want to do–just letting it happen–but when you tell yourself that life can go on, and you can still be happy with a little anxiety, it’s not such a consuming issue, you know?
As for your boyfriend, I guess it depends on what specifically you’re worried about. That you’re doing something wrong by not talking to him more? That he’s drifting away from you? Maybe it will help if you’re just honest, and tell him, “I know we don’t get to talk as much as we used to. And I wish we could talk more / I’m fine with giving you your space. But how do you feel about it?” And go from there. Best of luck to you! >:D<
2 years down. 2 to go. Half way there! It goes so fast. There are so many people who would want what you have. Be happy and relax. I can’t help with relationship issues. But isn’t it nice to not have to spend all day texting about nothing?
