<p>hehe i'm not about to post about what parentals do on a forum</p>
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<p>no....my mom disapproves of other asian moms who keep 2 tight a rein on their children....she will get very disappointed and concerned if i get a B, but thats bcuz i havnt gotten a B in years, and only becuase she says that anyone with a slightly higher-than-average intelligence is capable of getting A's if they work hard enough. she believes in setting high standards 4 urself, but she says she doesnt care what i choose 2 become, as long as i'm happy, and if she wont force me 2 take a course or something i dont want 2 take. she trusts me 2 make my own decisions.</p>
<p>but i do know some incredible scrict asian parents, the ones of my cousin. my cousin's mom is obsessed with HYP and watches her children's schoolwork like a hawk. anything below an A+ in major subjects is unacceptable. she forces them to skip subjects and enter things, even if they dont want to. once i was over and she told my cousin 2 practice the violin, and she did, but believing that she was just talking to me, called her down and screamed and hit her. then her sister got an sat score in the 1400's, and she screamed at her endlessly. well, her sister and brother have ended up and Princeton and Harvard, not because they are geniuses but because their mother just drove them like animals. but i think i'd be content with a regular good college rather than 2 have my aunt as my mom.</p>
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she will get very disappointed and concerned if i get a B, but thats bcuz i havnt gotten a B in years
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I can say the same for myself. I remember back in sixth grade, when I kept getting Bs. At first, my parents were really picky about it, but that soon died because I wasn't able to maintain straight As for the remainder of the year. Then seventh and eighth grade somehow seemed incredibly easy for me, and I had no trouble during those years. Then freshman year comes, and there's one B on the first quarter progress report. My parents weren't too happy about that.</p>
<p>Now, I wonder how the situation would've been different if I had kept straight Bs throughout middle school. Maybe there would've been a different reaction.</p>
<p>I don't have strict parents. I've just gotten to the point where I just start a cold war with them if they don't cave, and eventually they cave in.</p>
<p>my parents are not so strict when it comes to grades... what they're strict about is me being in a relationship, going to parties adn going out with friends. for the 2nd and the latter, they rarely say yes. when it comes to boys, they adamantly say that i should not have any intimate contact with any until i'm 30. it's a pure pain in the *** whenever they broach the subject, as if they're insinuating that i'll get pregnant by 18... which i won't</p>
<p>I've already received 20+ hours of lectures (February 13-20, averaging 2 hrs/night) on getting a 2220 on the January SAT and not scoring above 120-125 on the AMC 12. </p>
<p>Because they talk so much, I've developed a strategy of ignoring them while they talk and just continuing my work at the computer because there is no way I can prep for all my tests the next day, do my homework, and pay attention to whatever they're rambling about. </p>
<p>I'm expecting another barrage of lectures after the AIME 2 weeks from now (if I don't get above a 7).</p>
<p>Any solutions on how to resolve this? I'm about to go crazy from their lectures and I've told them repeatedly that if they keep on bothering me like this, I'm going to leave the house for a few days because my grades are starting to drop from listening to them talk so much every night.</p>
<p>Currently, we've reached a temporal ceasefire. (that has lasted for 3 days already, which is surprising)</p>
<p>Why doesn't someone bother to point out to these parents that there are far less successful students that do just fine...or are you at something like Chienkuo, which seems to put out tons of perfect scores and AIME masters each year?</p>
<p>Oasis - Seeing how your parents are obsessed with your scores, shouldn't telling them that your grades are dropping be enough to get them off your back?</p>
<p>I don't know what everyone's definitions of "strict" are, but I think my parents are both strict and liberal. It's an odd balance, and it doesn't always work. Academically, they're strict (but not to the point where not getting A+'s earns me verbal thrashings). However, they're more concerned with my approach than with the actual grades themselves. As long as they think I'm studying correctly and putting my all into my work, a B here and there doesn't bother them.</p>
<p>Socially, they usually let me hang out with my friends on weekends as long as I don't have any major tests coming up. (I wasn't allowed to do anything over April vacation during freshman year because I had an SAT II Bio test coming up...in June. My parents wanted me to read my bio textbook over break.) But I'm pretty much not allowed to do anything on school days, not even TV (this being more of an unspoken rule).</p>
<p>This might be contradicting what I said earlier, but I think that my parents are happy as long as they -think- I'm studying.</p>
<p>My parents dont know my name.</p>
<p>what are you talking about
asian kids ALWAYS complain about their strict parents
what do you think we are?</p>
<p>My parents don't really care. Its sometimes gets me pretty mad how when other parents tell them their children's classes and stuff and ask them what I classes I have, my parents usually have no clue.</p>
<p>Actually, my sister has shown them really bad grades which is why B's really are not a subject of too much concern to them as long as I tried and worked hard. </p>
<p>The only class my dad cares about really is math. Even on SATs he doesn't care what I get on the other sections. All that matters is math...</p>
<p>My parents are hardasses.</p>
<p>My parents are strict, but I think I've pushed the button so much that they've started to give up on me and crack down on my younger brother - poor kid. What I find totally weird is that the only thing that matters to them are my grades and standardized test scores (they want me to take a bajillion SAT IIs this coming October, and they want me to take the ACT even though I got 2320 on the SAT). Nothing about extracurriculars and whatnot.</p>
<p>My parents are terribly strict. It's gotten to the point where I'll stop studying just because they've yelled at me so much and I can't concentrate on school anymore. It definitely showed on my report card for a semester (with like 4 A-'s... a true "failing" Asian).</p>
<p>no, a true asian failing is a B+</p>
<p>hmm, well i come from a strange family. with an older sister who was a student w/ B's and A's and one C... they weren't super strict about school... my parents never pushed me to work harder mainly cuz i got straight A's w/o them having to tell me to or anything liek that... my SAT scores and everythng was beyond anything they expected... i was pushed more by competition btwn peers since we were all trying to be the best... b/c i did so well, it sort of sucks for my little sister and brother who aren't as academically oriented... my sister got a B frosh year and parents yelled and all that other stuff.. now they expect just as much from them... it depends on standards i suppose. my parents never pushed me... rather they pushed me not to take 6 AP classes but i insisted on it...and got all A's & 5's so i definitely proved them wrong. they feared more for my health and well being rather than GRADES GRADES GRADES. i do know a LOT of people w/ super strict parents though</p>
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<p>Well that's good. Because I've never gotten one of those before. ;P</p>
<p>My parents used to be that way but a combination of my explaining to them how grades aren't everything and my brother failing everything (as in Cs, Ds, and Fs not B+s) have gotten them to lighten up. I remeber when I got a B+ in history in fourth grade and my dad was totally ****ed but just the other day, I informed my mom that I got a 2 on the AP Chemistry exam and she just laughed at me.</p>
<p>Theothermuse, are you Asian?</p>
<p>My parents used to be really hardass and yelled at me for not getting good grades, like for getting A- on stuff. I think they still yell at me for that but I haven't gotten many of those from grade 9 to 11. They also yelled at me for not doing my homework, but then they stopped because I got reasonably good grades, and results are all that matter. Then I became a senior and they stopped caring altogether. Probably because I got into college and stuff.</p>