<p>I stopped trying with non-Indian people when they thought I had a rashon my hands when in reality I had mendhi on ._.</p>
<p>@JerseyGirl999: Cuz Yo Yo Honey Singh “doesn’t white chicks anymore” 
HAHAHAHA YOUR MENDHI OMG I JUST BURST OUT LAUGHING SO HARD</p>
<p>@AnImpAffliction: Can I sing some “Kabira” or “Tum Hi Ho”? Arijit Singh is life, man. </p>
<p>@JerseyGirl999, white people are so weird, omg. I wore a chudhidar to school once and everyone thought that just because I was wearing something Indian, it was a sari. </p>
<p>And my favorite question is “Can you speak Indian?” or “Are you related to so-and-so?”. “Are you Hindi?” is another one. What’s even better is that 80% of my school is white and it’s like 19% is black or Hispanic and then that 1% is Asian. The school in the town next door is like 70% Indian and it’s so nice. Sometimes I wish we had more Indians in my school. Not too many, but some more would be nice.</p>
<p>@sirswish7, I haven’t heard those songs, so go ahead. I just can’t take the dude’s name seriously. Yo-Yo Honey Singh. Who wants to be called that?</p>
<p>@AnImpAffliction: omg that reminds me of this video hahahaha
<a href=“■■■■ White Guys Say to Brown Guys - YouTube”>■■■■ White Guys Say to Brown Guys - YouTube;
<p>@sirswish7, OMG THAT WAS SO BEAUTIFUL I AM ABOUT TO CRY. I’m not even Punjabi but that was absolutely beautiful. POONJAAABIIII.</p>
<p>@AnImpAffliction I LOOOOVE WHITE PPL AT INDIAN WEDDINGS OOHHH MAAA GAAAAASHH
(White girl accent) “Oh my god! What an AMAZING cultural experience 
what do all the colors represent :0”
Me: ummm the colors represent…colors…</p>
<p>Of course no intended insult on anyone I’m talking about the white ppl I know not the whole population in general…if it makes anyone feel better I’m a bigger doofus at any social even in general so ;)</p>
<p>@sirswish - “Tum Hi Ho” was my song for a while. Hahah Honey Singh is awesome, I like the way he says his name in that Punjabi voice. YO YO HONEY SINGAAAAAAAAAAA! That video is incredibly accurate hahahahah. :)</p>
<p>You really can’t blame Americans for thinking that way lol, at least they’re nice about it. It’s like going to India asking one of the kids what they think of American and him/her saying that they’re all fat and lazy.</p>
<p>@AnImpAffliction - I don’t know if I have said this before but my brother’s school has a sizable amount of Indian kids (about 8) and one year one of the girls asked everyone if they wanted to hold a talent show. The idea was a hit and lots of kids signed up to display their talents (ex. singing, dancing, comedy, poetry) for a show that would go on one day during school. In addition to this, you also might want to do is to hold the concert after school for the parents to come to, and make the concert proceeds go to a charitable organization or school in India. This way, if you have IB at your school or need community service hours, the hours that you put into the concert preparing can be used for both. My brother’s school had about 7 performances, 100 students participated (of about 2500 at his school), and about 150 parents were there who paid $10 per ticket and they donated a good $1500 to a school in India. It’s also a great EC. They’ve done this for 2 years and the main performance was always the Indians (and even like 5 Americans) dancing to a Hindi song! I’m going to start the same project up at my current school. I can give you the link to the performance if you’d like.</p>
<p>Hahaha, white people are cool but a few exceptions piss me off.</p>
<p>@apandia, I actually want to raise money for a charity using I-Night. That would be so cool. Oh, please give me the link, that would be great! </p>
<p>POOOONJAAABIIIIII.</p>
<p>@AnImpAffliction - Hahah, yeah Americans can be a little egocentric. Do you have an idea of how much you can raise? Just make sure it’s significant enough to make a mark on your resume to show that you did something awesome. The video is pretty bad actually and only covers the main performance but I’ll message it to you.</p>
<p>Not sure, we have a huge white majority, which might not be good for us. The neighboring school has a huge brown population so it’s a huge success there. We could donate the proceeds to a local charity instead. Idk, we still have to propose the idea to our principal. Thanks for the video!</p>
<p>@AnImpAffliction - “a huge brown population”. Found that hilarious haha. Good luck with the proposal and you’re welcome!</p>
<p>I just watched Ramleela a 2nd time alone, and found it amazing even though if I’m a guy (if that makes a difference). The direction was fantastic, visually stunning.</p>
<p>@apandia, hahaha it’s true. Sometimes I wish I lived there. I could actually relate to more people…I don’t relate to many white people, I relate more to the non-white. And it’s not just me being racist, I find that I have a lot in common with non-white people. But I do have a lot of white friends.</p>
<p>I refuse to watch Ram Leela because it’s just Romeo and Juliet and I wanted to die when I read that stupid play freshman year. But I do want to see Chennai Express, since I’m Tamil.</p>
<p>@AnImpAffliction - hahahah me too, no offense to white people but I can’t strike a chord with them that could make one of them my best friends except for one awesome white kid I knew in Kindergarten. </p>
<p>Ramleela was not a complete match to Romeo and Juliet and the story wasn’t too cliche either but I admit there was some cheesiness. On the topic of cheesiness, we have Chennai Express which is the definition of cheesiness. I still thoroughly enjoyed it because of DP’s beauty and SRK’s hilarious acting. It’s a great watch.</p>
<p>For some reason, I’m obsessed with Hindi movies currently. I just wasted two hours watching Kai Po Che (my favorite movie). </p>
<p>@apandia, hahaha I have a sudden obsession with Hindi songs! They’re so catchy and I listen to them more than American songs. </p>
<p>I also wanna see Yeh Jeewani Hai Deewani even though I have no idea what it’s about. I’ve seen the GIFs on Tumblr and it looks pretty good. I think this is Deepika’s time to shine. She’s in quite a few popular movies.</p>
<p>Just came across this thread, and this is pretty similar to me and my Indian parents. I broke it to my parents that I don’t wanna be a doctor and they said that they were heartbroken… I’m thinking about computer science for practical reasons. I’m kind of under pressure to get good SAT scores (got 204 on the PSAT) but I honestly don’t give a crap anymore. I know I’ll get near 2000 so that’s good enough for me. I’m sick of school-related stuff. When I’m older I want to live completely alone and work and be away from my family for a while. I find it depressing that kids are expected to live with their parents until marriage. And I also want to be free to date but I’m not going anywhere near dating after a nasty experience in 9th grade when my parents found out about my secret bf. I just wanna get away from the Indian culture completely. Gah. </p>
<p>@clarinetvirtuoso, I understand your frustration with your family but Indian culture really isn’t to blame. It’s just how conservative our parents are. They lived in a time when they focused on studies and didn’t frolic with members of the opposite gender. So when they see this new way of living, they don’t like it because they’re not used to it. They’re afraid of what could happen if they let their kids do that stuff. I love Indian culture. It’s a huge part of me and it’s what makes me me. </p>
<p>I don’t understand your parents’ frustration with your career choice. If they wanted you to become a doctor for the high salary prospects, well computer science also gives high salaries. Plus, CS is growing a lot now so it has great job security. </p>
<p>I know for a fact that if I ever become a mother, I will not freak out too much about grades. And I CERTAINLY won’t constantly compare my kid to other kids because that has caused me to mentally break down sometimes and gives me low self-esteem. Also, I don’t think dating is a big deal, as long as it doesn’t distract the kid from school. So I would let my kid have a GF/BF if it didn’t affect their grades. </p>
<p>Wow, kudos to you for having the guts to actually have a secret BF. I would be way too scared of my parents finding out. My parents are so conservative that they get nervous when I text my guy friends. They’re slowly becoming a little chill because I’ve gone to parties with guys and I have quite a few guy friends. </p>
<p>That’s true. However, my parents also don’t let me date because they say “what will other Indians say if they see you out with a boy?” I don’t know if anyone else’s parents are like that but I don’t believe that one should be restrained by society. One should be free to live how they want as long as it doesn’t harm anyone else. </p>
<p>They say that doctors have flexible hours which is good for females, since I would potentially become a mother. Flexible hours means more time to spend with my kids as needed. I don’t know, these days, I instinctively reject every one of their opinions, even if it may be a practical opinion. I don’t know why. </p>
<p>That must suck to be compared to others. My parents don’t do that much but I kinda compare myself to the other high-achieving Asians in my school. I don’t do much in terms of extracurriculars because then I wouldn’t have been able to keep a 3.99 GPA. That brings down my academic self esteem, but don’t you think there’s more to life than just studying, school, and careers? It is a large chunk of your life but there are other things to enjoy and look forward to as well. </p>
<p>I also agree that if the student can handle it, a bf/gf is perfectly fine. When do you think your parents will let you date? </p>
<p>I was really scared as well, and even after they found out, I secretly kept in contact with him. It became too stressful though and wasn’t worth it anymore. We went to india and i actually dreaded coming back, partly because the guy was also very clingy. </p>
<p>I see. Do they let you go to school dances or anything? </p>
<p>And I wonder… What would Indian parents be more opposed to? A child who has a bf/gf, even possibly secretly, or a child who never wants to get married? Because it seems like you’re expected by everyone to marry (hopefully arranged in their eyes) and have children. </p>
<p>Also, I was curious, what are some examples of Indian culture being a part of you?</p>
<p>@clarinetvirtuoso, my parents don’t let me date because they don’t think it’s right. They’re firm believers in arranged marriage. Like, they always say that when you’re in your 20s and old enough to get married, you don’t have the “maturity” to choose someone who is exactly right for you. Obviously, I disagree with this 100%. But I think they just don’t want my marriage to end in divorce.</p>
<p>Oh, well that makes sense. But be whatever you wanna be. I honestly can’t become a doctor. I like computer science (aka sitting in front of a computer all day).</p>
<p>I compare myself to others too. I have an Indian friend who is naturally smart. Like, everything just clicks for her really quick. I take some time to process something I learn before I’m able to apply it. But she just immediately gets it and can apply what she learns. She does a lot of stuff and gets better grades than me. We take the same classes. So it’s a little discouraging but she’s nice about it so yeah.</p>
<p>Hahaha, they let me go to school dances all right. But I just don’t. Like, everyone went to freshman year homecoming but I didn’t. My parents kept asking me why I didn’t want to go. Same thing happened sophomore year and this year. I didn’t go to homecoming and they just looked at me like I was crazy. I just didn’t feel like going.</p>
<p>That’s a tough question, dude. Honestly, I have no idea what runs through our parents’ minds.</p>
<p>Well I mean, I’m lucky to be in touch with my culture. Like, we go to India every 2 years. I may not be fluent in my language but I can speak some of it. I have a lot of Indian friends so there’s quite a few Desi parties. I watch Indian movies and listen to Indian music. I’m just glad that I’ve seen both sides of the world. Like, I feel sorry for some white people (I’m not generalizing, I’ve just seen some white people like this) because they act like America is the only country in this world and they’re so uncultured and ignorant. And they have no desire to see what it’s like on the other side of the country. They would rather live in their nice house wearing their nice clothes chilling in their backyard pool, driving a nice car, and live in their own little world while there’s so much to see out there.</p>