<p>I’m not Indian (Japanese/Chinese), but this thread basically describes my life.</p>
<p>I’m always compared to kids my age so its hard to get used to, haha.</p>
<p>You’re welcome here, Yakisoba. I’m sure Asians go through the same thing.</p>
<p>I love when we have my friends over, and then as soon as they leave…
Mom: “Marshmallowpop, why can’t you be like so-and-so? She has <em>(fill in fantastic grades)</em>_ in every subject!”
Me: “But Mom, I did better than her in -”
Mom: “It doesn’t matter! You shouldn’t be comparing yourself to others!”
Me: Wut.</p>
<p>What is my life.</p>
<p>And for SAT pressure: The first time I took it with no prep, I got a 2140. My parents now think I’m capable of a 2300+, and if I don’t get one, they’ll be disappointed. Lmao too bad I haven’t studied at all.
And omg, I just talked to a cousin and his friends and found out that they consider 1800+ to be a good score. I was just like, “B-but… you’re desi. What?”
/endrant</p>
<p>Indian girl…hehe, I actually want to be a clinician-scientist so we get along. I told my parents I wanted to be a journalist in 8th grade (dumb choice) and they lectured me for an hour about job opps. </p>
<p>But at least they care a lot about my life and education, which is more than I can say for some other parents.</p>
<p>I’m a Desi girl too. Omg, all those Indian kids who are allowed to have bfs and gfs amaze me. Like, how did you have THAT discussion with your parents??</p>
<p>Desi girl here as well! Yeah I always thought they hid it from their parents but I’m not sure…do any of your moms count down to when your going to get married or is that just mine?</p>
<p>Oh jeez, my parents don’t have a countdown, more like the opposite! They don’t even talk about it. There was this one rare occasion where my mom brought it up when we were in India and she was like, “When you’re 24, I will bring you here and we will search for your husband.” I considered telling her that that was not going to happen on my account, but thought against it. My dad on the other hand has never brought it up and he just keeps quiet any time my mom does.</p>
<p>My parents say I shouldn’t get married too early because they want me to find a stable job etc. they didn’t get married till they were like 28 so they expect the same to happen to me. They always joke about finding a rishta from India but they would never do that bc ew</p>
<p>Same. They want me to be financially independent before thinking about marriage.</p>
<p>My dad said not to marry until you’re at least 30. Get a girlfriend, live life, and enjoy during your prime years!</p>
<p>What Indian languages do you guys speak? I’m fluent in Hindi (no reading or writing though) and semi fluent in Gujarati.</p>
<p>I can understand Tamil but I can’t speak it. I can understand and kind of speak Telegu.</p>
<p>lolol dating… pretend my mom doesn’t get flustered even whenever I say I have guy /friends/</p>
<p>I speak Gujarati, and understand most Hindi (but can’t speak it).</p>
<p>Malaise: kem cho? Lol</p>
<p>I’m good, thanks 
I would have responded accordingly, but my phonetic spelling would have been so awful ahah.</p>
<p>My parents surprisingly don’t even care that I have guy friends. I’m just not allowed to hang out with them outside of school.</p>
<p>I’m not an Indian, but I am a Pakistani.</p>
<p>My parents seem fairly content with my 2120 SAT. My mom is encouraging me to go to Bucknell (and I want to go there, anyway), but my dad doesn’t seem to care as much. They pressure me to get good grades (I’m get mostly A’s -unweighted- but I got 3 B’s). I don’t have guy friends. My parents are uncomfortable with my brother having female friends, so they probably wouldn’t want me to have male friends, anyway. The only big conflict between me and my parents is that they want me to be a doctor while I want to be a scientist or a mathematician.</p>
<p>Dude, a 2120 is amazing! Congrats!</p>
<p>Yeah, my parents get a little weird when it comes to guy friends. But they’re pretty cool about it compared to a lot of other parents.</p>
<p>Woah.
I feel like I’m reading my life history here.
I have a 2130 on SATs but I’m trying to bring it up to a 2200.
My grades are pretty good (ranging from A- to A+) and I go to the most academically rigorous school in my state (i got in somehow?) lol.
I dare say that my parents are pretty content with me but never miss the opportunity to keep me motivated. This means non-stop efforts to wake me up by 7 in the summer, tell me to always compare myself with someone better, so I can achieve more, etc.
Financially stability, then marriage. Dating? Only in/after grad school haha.
They give me the freedom to pick whatever my profession will be (as long as it’s STEM, business, or law) but seeing as though there are no doctors in the extended or immediate family, I’m hoping to be the first.
And finally, I am fluent is in Telugu. I can understand Hindi fairly well (thanks to all the movies) but can’t speak it.</p>