For some people it might be a good place to be, but this situation drives me crazy. My daughter was accepted everywhere she applied, but Princeton. All colleges (but NYU) gave her good scholarships, so they are generally affordable. She didn’t have one first choice college, she liked at least four of them for different opportunities. I know that it will be her choice at the end, but the thoughts about potential lost opportunities killing me slowly. Any advice on how to deal with it? What do you say to yourself? How you just let go all these possibilities and pick up only one? Is stupid of me even to worry about such things?
It is like any important decision (what job to take, what house to buy, who to marry …) you just have to make the choice that seems like the right fit and move forward. You can’t live worrying about the road not taken.
FWIW when my S was making his final choice we re-visited his top few schools during accepted students day and it really helped to make the final decision clear in his own mind. He found that during these visits he looked at the schools with a different perspective – instead of “should I apply? and can I get in?” he was thinking “is this school right for me? can I picture myself here?”
We really wanted out daughter to consider potential future career opportunities as part of her decision. After all, that’s what the point of going to college is. She did consider it, and in our opinion, she made the best decision in that regard.
I don’t know that I’d say you’re stupid to worry, but you can easily make yourself (and her) crazy with what-if-ing. On a philosophical level, repeat after me: There are no wrong decisions, only right for right now decisions. Sounds like she has lots of great opportunities on the table, and eventually she will pick one and make the most of it! If it stops being the right decision, she’ll make a new one.
On a practical level: She should do a student overnight at as many of the options as possible, and meet with professors of interest while there, and then see how she feels, after that. There’s a big difference between school-on-paper and school-in-actuality. A frontrunner will likely emerge. And hey, congrats to your daughter!
At this point, if she likes all her choices, than I would focus on fit, campus culture, the overall vibe she gets, and can she find her people. If she gets that right, she is more likely to be happy once she is actually attending.
All good advice! I would encourage you and your D to absorb @yankeeinGA’s comment about “no wrong decisions, only right for right now”. The build-up to college is so pressure-packed for kids today. I explained to mine that it’s the first time they are not following a set path (elementary - middle - high school, all right in town), so it feels scary and monumental. But they are really just selecting where they get the next level of education, not the concrete path of their life! (Altho it feels that way - one of mine is in a pre-professional program, so I get it, but I felt I had to de-fang the monster.) Here is another hint for after final visits: With both my kids, I encouraged them to make a decsion (without pushing the “button”) and “wear it” for awhile. Tell yourself you’re going to Uni X, tell everyone else (but don’t post it on fb), be that undergrad for a few days and see how it feels. If it’s not great, if it’s not exciting, try on another college.
This is going to make you feel worse but what the heck… 
My older daughter’s friend was accepted into everything…the all tuition paid programs at Duke and UNC, several Ivies, a sprinkling of other great places…and he had to choose one. He did. Then he had TERRIBLE buyer’s remorse…had an awful first semester at the chosen college (thinking he should have been at one of the other colleges) and was even thinking of transfer…but then everything changed in the 2nd semester…he began to understand that was he had was great…now, in Year 2, he’s as happy as he can be. So I guess I would just say that choosing a college doesn’t mean the angst is over.
I love this TED Talk.
How to Make Hard Choices
https://www.ted.com/talks/ruth_chang_how_to_make_hard_choices
Watch it together with your child. Less than 15 minutes.
Thank you very much everyone. Will do everything suggested. It is already easier, understanding that my fears is not some kind of crazyness