<p>I'm going to a big state school where a TON of people from my high school attend, and even though I promised I wouldn't do this, I've found myself relying on them to hang out with, because I'm finding it so hard to make new friends. I think it's worse because I'm at such as huge school. You see someone once, like them, but then never see them again. Also, my school is very...southern, white, and Christian. I knew it would be, but I wasn't expecting to feel like I really stand out. I'm in no way depressed or want to leave my school. I really like the campus and the atmosphere, but I really want to get out there and make new friends. Anyone else hanging out too much with old friends and not making new ones?</p>
<p>I don’t see anything wrong with it. If you enjoy their company why shouldn’t you hang out with them?</p>
<p>What school do you go to??</p>
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<p>There’s nothing wrong with hanging out with your old friends. Don’t worry, you’ll make new friends from classes and that sort of thing. Right now you hardly know anybody though, so of course you’re going to hang out with the people you do know. If you’re worried about the same thing in 3 months then yeah, that’s a cause for concern.</p>
<p>Eh if you’re friends with them and enjoy their company then its fine. If you’re just using them so that you have someone to hang out with, then its still not a big deal…as the year goes on people will break out of their high school bubble and open up to new people. And plus theres always out-of-state kids who don’t have any high school friends there so look out for them</p>
<p>No problems with that at all. I still talk to my two best friends from high school, and I’ve actually gotten closer to one of my other high school friends who’s younger than me this year. Just because you enter college doesn’t mean your old friendships have to end.</p>
<p>There’s nothing wrong with seeing old friends, but if you feel like you are using them as a crutch you probably are and should try to make other connections. My roommate last year insisted that she could not make any friends because the school was just too big and she hung out with no one but high school friends up until the end of the year, and she was delusional. She could have made it into the group of girls on our floor that were all BFFs no problem if she’d bothered to really try to get to know them and make herself visible. She felt like she was trying but to anyone else it was really obvious she wasn’t, and that made people not want to put in an effort with her, either.</p>
<p>I’m close to most of the “wisely-chosen” friends I made from High School because I find the idea to be exactly as difficult as it is too. However, I have found only a few friends who attend the same college as me so I hang out with them instead. These “new friends” creation take time and it isn’t very simple. Yet, if you can’t fit in after a year, find a new school.</p>
<p>I’ve been hanging out with my HS buddies because I have yet to make any real connections with people at school. Now that clubs are meeting etc, I should make some headway on that front, but it’ll still take a while. Us commuters don’t have the luxury of living amongst a bunch of potential friends and being a stone’s throw to parties 
but hey at least I have a big room all to myself :P</p>
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<p>I can relate to that pretty easily myself. Commuters don’t really get to live the “college life”, so to speak, especially if you are still living with your parents.</p>
<p>I honestly don’t hang out much with my high school friends anymore, since they all have their own lives to attend to, but I have made friends here and there at my university.</p>
<p>It is obviously MUCH easier to talk freely around friends you’ve known for years than people you’ve just met in college. I absolutely hate having to restrict my words/topics of conversation for the sake of giving off a good first impression, because I’m naturally kind of an *******. This is why I mainly stick with my high school buddies as well, because I feel more comfortable around them. Frankly, I think that most people are acting incredibly fake to quickly gather new friends and to not look antisocial or anything.</p>
<p>So… yeah. In my opinion, it’s perfectly fine to “rely” on your high school friends in college. Honestly, who cares? You’ll eventually find someone new that you truly like, anyway.</p>
<p>“Frankly, I think that most people are acting incredibly fake to quickly gather new friends and to not look antisocial or anything.”</p>
<p>Heck I wish that’s how it was here. First week of school I ate at the cafeteria every day and nobody ever approached me and sat down to eat with me and I’m not Quasimodo so I know I’m not repulsing people.</p>
<p>You know, when I was a commuter student I “adopted a college.” I started hanging out at a different school with some of my high school friends who went there and became friends with their friends, since trying to make friends at my school was futile. That’s actually how I met my fiance.</p>
<p>While I did hang out with a girl from home the first week I made a ton of other friends… It’s pretty interesting/nice because I became uber close with a girl on my floor and she’s probably my beet friend here and her other best friends from home are here so I was instantly accepted into the group and made like 10-15-20 friends like that… Another friends boyfriend was in a frat which was a nice way to make friends since we didn’t just go to party we’d legibly just walk in a go watch tv or something. So ahim</p>