<p>It’s the 800lb dream school gorilla in the corner waiting list that’s confusing the issue in our house. My son did make a decision and send a deposit to his #2 school. I will not be relaxed about this until we get a final answer from the waitlist.</p>
<p>To those waiting for the 800lb. dream gorilla to ask them to the ball…even if that happens, I can’t imagine that it will involve merit money. Possibly FA, but still…</p>
<p>Go with the “fine” school that offers money!</p>
<p>I assume those of you whose kids are still keeping their fingers crossed about getting off a waiting list have looked up what the school did last year. I know a kid who is really hoping to get in off the Bucknell waiting list this year. I didn’t have the heart to tell him that last year they offered 2,500 kids a spot on the waiting list, 875 accepted it, and they took a grand total of 9 off the list.</p>
<p>The general CC wisdom is that if you’re waitlisted you really need to move on and make a decision out of the schools where you’re accepted. Worst case is that you have a deposit in somewhere, later get offered a spot at the school you <think you=“”> wanted, and have to decide at that point.</think></p>
<p>We’re waiting on a decision with S2. Last night he said, “I want to go to to school A but I know I should go to school B.” Right now he’s trying to reconcile the difference. The choice is Honors program at a big state school with good academics vs. smaller more prestigious LAC with a stronger academic program (cost is roughly the same). I am pleased that he is giving this a lot of thought and researching both programs. It’s driving me crazy but I know that ultimately it must be his decision, and so we wait …</p>
<p>mommusic, how are you listening in on our family conversations? ;-)</p>
<p>Our situation is a little more complicated … and I can’t go into the details here … but my son visited the big red gorilla and sat down with the admissions guy who was actually very encouraging about potential waitlist spots. Which makes it a little more confusing!</p>
<p>LOL, boy are we waiting…</p>
<p>I would never try to steer anyone to be unethical so please don’t anyone think that’s what I was elluding to. No admissions office is going to want you to double deposit. The issue is your own and what is best for you child. It really only applies here if you have a student that can not decide yet between 2 spots. It would not apply at a waitlisted school as I assume you wouldn’t put a deposit there since you are technically not “accepted” as of yet. </p>
<p>Like some parents on here have said many times it’s just about having to admit that the decision is made. There is a lot of relief that comes with that that once the “button is pushed” or the “envelope is in the mail”. The other thing to always keep in mind is that IF for some reason your child is unhappy after a semester or two- you can always look at a transfer if necessary. This happened to a good friend of my daughter. </p>
<p>Sometimes- the 800# gorilla is sitting over there for a really good reason !!</p>
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<p>Have you told your parents how your feel? I’m sure they have an opinion, and at this point in the game, I think you need it.</p>
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As a parent, I agree completely with toledo. It is their job to guide you, to be older and wiser, to consider things you haven’t thought of. I definitely think they should give you their opinion.</p>
<p>3 years ago, we were in your place. I refused to help D with the decision … I know her well enough to know that if things weren’t hunky-dory, it would be my fault. She agonized between two, finally deciding with a day to spare. After freshman year, she transferred to the one she didn’t choose! She had the best of both worlds, in my opinion. The first school was the perfect place to start, and the second school was chosen because it was the right place for many good reasons. As she looks ahead to senior year, she is pleased with the way everything worked out. Life has a way of doing that.</p>
<p>(with apologies to Marvin Hamlisch)</p>
<p>The stamps will go on tomorrow.
Bet your bottom dollar that tomorrow
we’ll be done. </p>
<p>Just thinkin’ about tomorrow
Clears away the safeties and the sorrow
'til there’s none.</p>
<p>When I’m stuck with a choice between two reaches
I just pull out a coin and flip and say</p>
<p>Ohhhhhh</p>
<p>The stamps will go on tomorrow!
So you gotta hang on til tomorrow
When it’s May!</p>
<p>Tomorrow, tomorrow, I love ya tomorrow
You’re sending my kid awaaaaay!</p>
<p>SDonCC–love it!!</p>
<p>You made my day. :)</p>
<p>Bravo! Bravo!</p>
<p>I’m singing here (under my breath).<br>
Son just did his SECOND decision matrix. Did one when there were 5 schools, now 3 schools. There’s less than 2 points difference. Ready to flip the coin.</p>
<p>Whoops—he is down to 2 schools.</p>
<p>SDonCC…
The song, Tomorrow, from Annie, was composed by Charles Strouse, and the lyrics are by Martin Charnin, not Marvin Hamlisch. 
Enjoyed your lyrics, though.</p>
<p>chilady, whats the verdict? Good luck, hang on tight!!!</p>
<p>No verdict yet. He’s thinking of going to the post office with two envelopes and flipping a coin… wants me to wake him up early tomorrow (today! it is May 1st) very unusual for a Saturday…not a typical Saturday.
I’m spent.<br>
Trying to be impartial but S. can tell which school I favor and which school his dad favors (it’s the other one).<br>
This would have been so much easier if a couple of those April 1st nos have been yeses.
Just one more day…</p>
<p>chilady
for what its worth, post the 2 schools, and get some thoughts from the helpful cc community</p>