<p>say you have got quite a number of friends. the problem is that you met them under different occasions and therefore they belong to different groups. you have no problem with hanging out with either of them. but these groups don't really know each other, friends in group A don't know about the people in group B. they are not compatible either, since you have got the nerds circle, the sports fan circle, the party goers circle....so you always have to make the choice of hanging out with one and only one of the groups at a time, going to a party with group A means you cannot go to dinner with group B. you feel insecure for doing this because you feel you risk distancing yourself from your friends. but you don't want to commit yourself to just one group of friends.</p>
<p>I'm not a college student yet but I know what you're talking about.</p>
<p>In middle school, I was friends with people from all kinds of groups. Yes, it was stressful to organize stuff and I sometimes felt like I wasn't as close to my friends as people who belonged to an established group were. I guess all of that got to me, and in high school I decided to give up the social juggling and just fall into the nerd crowd. Believe me, it was the biggest mistake I EVER made. I felt so much better about myself and had so much more fun when my "social palette" was diverse. It is hard but life is hard, and it was - for me - by far the better of the two options. Be yourself and be friends with who you want to. You'll feel better for it.</p>
<p>This is why you should have 1 or 2 friends. I would never want a large number of friends.</p>
<p>Well, I have friends in different circles, but I've never felt a problem with inviting them all to do something together. Like, I've got my best friend from home, and my best friends at school/friends from swing dancing, and friends from an organization I'm in... and at least a few people from each one is coming to my birthday party in a few weeks. I'm not worried... looking forward to it being really fun actually! </p>
<p>How do you know your friends won't get along? You never know!</p>
<p>I totally know what the OP means. My friends come from all different circles and walks of life and some, i could easily introduce to each other and make that work swell, but others, its like mixing oil and water. Tough things to do, but you just gotta deal.</p>
<p>I completely understand. I had my rowing friends, my Aerospace Engineering friends, friends I randomly met, and my dorm friends, with only a couple falling into more than one group. As the year goes on, the begin to get to know each other through you, but I haven't felt like I have one big circle of friends yet.</p>
<p>It's really foreign to me because I went to a really rural public school system and spent thirteen years with the same close circle of friends.</p>
<p>Yeah i know what you mean... i have like my korean friends in korea, i have my middle school friend group, high school friend group, church friend group, and asian group, and my college asian group. I don't know how to mix them so i tend to keep them seperated because I'm not too terribly good with introducing people to each other.</p>
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<p>I think most people have come across this problem at some point in their life. The solution is very simple; decide what your priorities are, what friendships are the most genuine and enjoyable, and act accordingly. </p>
<p>And remember, spending time with one group doesn't mean you're telling another group to take a hike. If handled correctly, you get the best of all worlds.</p>
<p>Yes and my nerdier friends are more dependable.</p>
<p>(SP).</p>
<p>I really don't care... Just do what you want or introduce one at a time. If they don't like them, then so what, they don't have to hang out with them.</p>
<p>Whatever..</p>
<p>This is why I get most of my friends off online forums these days (at least the friends who I put some emotional investment into)</p>