Concerns about 2nd semester social life...

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<p>So all of my high school friends seemed to make GREAT groups of friends during their first semester and I haven't. I have one friend who I work out with a lot, she is probably my "best" friend even though we aren't that close. I had a pretty good group of people I hung out with from orientation week, but most of them commute and had no reason to come to campus outside of classes when all those "getting to know you" events stopped happening, and we went our separate ways. I have a handful of friends who I occasionally watch movies with and my current "main group" of friends has been less than ideal. I randomly started hanging out with them midway through the semester, and since they had all been really close from the start they had a ton of inside jokes and I after months of trying I never really felt like i fit in with them. I got a vibe that half of them really didn't like me. I always had to invite myself along to do things with them and even now they are all talking on facebook with each other about what they're going to do when we get back to school and completely leaving me out. Obviously I feel like it would be best to just cut them out of my life, but I'm kind of worried about going back to school with only 3 friends that are more than simple aquaintances. </p>

<p>I'm planning on joining a couple more clubs, but the club fair isn't for a couple weeks into the semester. I'm just worrying about how I can make more friends when it seems like everybody's friend groups have been tightly formed already. :/ I'm not even really sure what sort of advice i'm looking for, I just needed to vent a little.</p>

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<p>I feel the same as you right now. I have a couple friends that I hang out with on a regular basis, but do not feel extremely close to them as of right now. I am personally planning to go to more club events (like one at a homeless shelter), but I am not sure if that will improve my situation :confused: Hopefully, both of our situations can improve.</p>

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<p>Same here. I was actually about to write a post similar to katrocious’ when I saw this. What kind of colleges are you guys at? I’m at a small liberal arts school, so it should be easy to make more than one or two friends that are closeish, but for some reason it isn’t…</p>

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<p>I go to a small state school that’s considered a suitcase college. It’s in a pretty isolated area and NOT considered a college town or a party school. Most people, including my “main group” leave on the weekends to get the “college experience” at bigger state schools a couple hours away. I kinda just picked this school on a whim without even applying anywhere else and am thinking of transferring for fall 2013.</p>

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<p>I feel the exact way. The only person I can talk to regularly and feel comfortable with is my roommate I met this year, but even then we don’t spend too much time outside of the dorm room/campus. It really sucks and I totally understand how you feel. I also feel like I don’t have time for clubs because my work and school work takes up so much time. My boyfriend also doesn’t live here, so that’s been another struggle. Just try and stay positive and I hope things get better!</p>