I go to a big state university two hours away from my hometown and four of my five closest friends at college are from my high school. My only other friend I would consider a part of my inner circle is my roommate, who came from out of state so we kind of latched onto each other.
Anyway, the four aforementioned hs friends all have different groups. For instance, one is a freshman so I hang out with him and his freshman friends sometimes, another lives in a house with 6 roommates so I go over and hang out with them a lot. So my hs friends aren’t all friends with each other and I have multiple different friend group options to hang out with.
But still, those hs friends and my roommate are the only ones I can really hang out with one on one. And I’ve basically used them as a crutch to meet a lot of the other people I do know.
I haven’t really decided if this is a problem or not. Sometimes I feel conflicted, but i also usually have several different options for plans every night so I don’t know. Is this a reason for concern?
I have a hard time bringing myself to socialize in class so I’ve only really made one solid class friend that I ever hung out with outside of class. But I am on the newspaper staff and I have a leadership position in another club. This is my first semester at the newspaper so I haven’t formed any close bonds. My HS best friend and his roommates are all in the club I’m in so I have a lot of friends there but I feel like that doesn’t count.
I tried to rush a sorority this semester but my grades were too low and I got cut (bad first year- things are better now)
Should I put myself out there? What more can I do?
You have at least 6 people you can hang out with on a regular basis, so I don’t see a problem. It’s worth realizing though that you are going to notice more and more that you have less interest in your hometown friends. You’re in a good position. Expand your horizons by getting involved in volunteering, a campus religious group, or a job. I think you will be fine.
You have friends. Try not to overanalyze it. Enjoy it. Stay open to meeting new people as opportunities come along. There’s something very comforting about having some “old” friends. Remember in many small towns some people have the same friends their whole lives. That’s as wonderful as meeting new people all the time.
Hey, it is what it is. The good news is you have friends. Just keep journeying through life and you will meet friends along the way. I agree…don’t overanalyze it. Northernmom said it best. It’s all good! Relax.