<p>On the see forums I constantly hear of Ivy obsessed parents pushing their kids so much. Some whine that they aren't living up to their parents' expectations. Sometimes I wish it was like that. My parents are the complete opposite. They want me to stay in state at a college I can easily get into. I want to be challenged in college, though. I don't like the schools in my state. There's one excellent state school, but I'm not good enough to play D1 athletics. I push myself so hard in school and my sport because I want to go to a top D3 school, but my parents push me to not take hard classes and they claim the schools here are better than the ones I am interested in. It just frustrates me. Sorry this was so long. I needed to rant. I usually don't post threads, but I wish my parents understood. I'm first generation, so my parents aren't really knowledgeable on college in general. I'm not working hard in school for nothing, after all.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t know. My mom died in a car accident when I was 2 and my dad was murdered 9 years ago. But what I will say is don’t care what your parents think, they aren’t always right and they really don’t know everything.</p>
<p>“But I guess that’s the real circle of life. Your parents faked their way through it, you fake your way through it”</p>
<p>But my parents are kind of similar. Not that they REALLLLY want me to stay in state, but they don’t even seem to have considered that there ARE schools out of state. My state flagship is considered the best instate school (we don’t have many private universities and certainly no extremely competitive ones) so basically everyone who wants to go to college and is a good student plans their entire high school schedule and activities to this specific school’s recommendations, and people treat it like a death sentence if they don’t get in come senior year. So my parents just kind of assume ill go there, so when I bring up more competitive out of state schools, they’re just kind of like “…whaaat?..” I basically have to do all the research for colleges and applying on my own since they don’t really know anything about it, especially since my mom went to community college and my dad didn’t go to college at all.</p>
<p>^ Same here. Neither of my parents have a degree. </p>
<p>I don’t live on the East Coast, so the privates here aren’t competitive. My first post sounded kinda selfish. I just really had to rant to people that might understand. Most people at my high school end up at one of the local community colleges. Some get in to one of our two competitive state schools, though.</p>
<p>The grass is always green on the other side.</p>
<p>My mom didn’t really want me to go to college, my stepdad said community college was okay, and my dad just kind of let me do my own thing and didn’t say anything. I was always my own source of motivation, and I’m glad I am like that because in college many of my friends will have to learn to work without mommy or daddy telling them to. Sometimes I wish I had someone helping me along the way. It was really frustrating doing the admissions and financial aid processes alone at some points, and I didn’t have all the advantages my friends and peers did, like getting to actually visit colleges. However, it made me a more mature person whose ready to deal with the real world without having someone to fall back to. I think going through things like this alone helps show someone’s commitment to pursuing a harder, more challenging education.</p>
<p>For the last four years my mom and dad have been purposely putting me down because I didn’t get into the smart high school (well, I got in for 10th grade but decided not to go) and it was kind of depressing. Now I got into college and my mom is trying to push Harvard. I applied but don’t plan to get in, and I expect her again to bother me for the rest of my life about it.</p>
<p>My parents, especially my mom, are pushing me to attend school at the flagship state university because I live practically 25 minutes away from it. It’s a great school and has a fairly good ranking, but I want to branch out and keep myself open to other possibilities. Recently I’ve been thinking about attending school out-of-state (I’ve been researching the schools in California), and my mom always tries to change the subject or comments on how expensive it would be and how I’d have to take on so many loans. I do understand where she’s coming from, but I want to live life on my own and have experiences of my own.</p>
<p>My parents tell me to do my best (example: B in math is good, but B in history means I could be doing better). They’re the type that will support me in whatever I choose to do, and don’t really care where I go as long as I’m happy.</p>
<p>Yeah, same here. My parents really want me to go to an in-state (Rowan University) more than anything else.
I understand their perspective. I mean, they are looking out for my future, and don’t want me to have massive student loans or anything. That’s great. And Rowan gave me a near-full-ride, so I’ll definitely consider it. That being said, I’m only willing to sacrifice so much college experience for monetary savings.
You have to consider all of the costs and benefits. Quite frankly, if I get into Cornell, and I get anywhere near the aid I should get, I’ll go there before Rowan in a heartbeat. The benefits of going to somewhere like Cornell way outweigh the extra $10,000-$15,000 per year.</p>
<p>Fastneutrino, what benefits exactly are you talking about? For engineering, the field I want to go into, there isn’t much of a pay difference between ranked 12 school and ranked 3rd school, nor is there a difference is job availability. I’m pretty sure schools like Cornell WANT you to think that the benefits outweigh the $60,000 extra (sounds like ALOT more when its put together) that you’ll take out in loans or of your parents money, when in reality they don’t. I hope you people realize colleges don’t give a **** about YOU, they care about your money.</p>
<p>Well my mum doesn’t want me to leave the country for college, but that’s the only way I can really relate.
She’s also very unsupportive of the things I want to do. She’s threatened to disown me if I become a dentist, a vet, a history writer or a politician. The latter two I’m seriously considering.</p>
<p>if it makes you feel any better, my stepdad is like that too.</p>
<p>my stepfather basically told me I only have one school choice (which technically isn’t even a choice, since there is only ONE), and it’s this one in-state school. I aim for JHU or ivies, but he’s like “Nope. You ain’t going there”. Also he’s so lazy and unsupportive. Like I was planning to sign up for an AP calc class in the morning and he was like, “I’m not going to waste money to let you drive. I’m also not wasting money on an AP class (Ironically, he still let me sign up for 4 AP classes)”. Another thing is that whenever I talk about college, he basically cuts the entire conversation short emphasizing that I am ONLY going to this one school, no other.</p>
<p>So I can’t even dream in my house )’:</p>
<p>I kinda agree with them, but I want to go a different state school, but he’s like NO. :(</p>