Are we that hard to live with?

<p>Hello Everyone,</p>

<p>So I'm feeling really crappy right now because I just had a second roommate move out on me. My freshman year roommate moved out and so has one of my two roommates as a sophomore. I'm not too sad because we generally didn't get along- no fighting just extreme awkwardness- but I feel like it probably has something to do with my personality. </p>

<p>I was wondering if anyone else is or has been in the same situation wherein they have had several people move out on them or that they can't seem to get along with anyone in college. </p>

<p>Thanks</p>

<p>Have either of your prior two roommates talked to you? Any complaints about noise, conflicting schedules, etc.?</p>

<p>No.Both just keep to themselves and then send an e-mail when I’m at home telling me that they aremoving. The only conflict with the second one was that she slept early but there was a compromise on my part</p>

<p>Sometimes students go into rooming situations already on the waitlist for another room. It would be the same situation regardless of who they were living with. Don’t take it personally. They may not be moving to get away from you specifically, but just to get to a better living situation. Perhaps, they were on a waitlist for a single or for a better dorm room. Maybe they want to live with a friend or someone new they met. It may not be that they don’t like you. In my experience, most of the time, it’s because they have another roomming opportunity that’s better.</p>

<p>No the other student was the waitlist and she choose to stay earlier in the year… something just feels off about the way she did it. I would handle things like that face to face especially if it’s nothing personal. My thing is don’t underestimate peoples openness to criticism of their want to self improve. If I’m doing something wrong I want to know. But instead she kept mute until we all left and then sent the email. I’m probably introverted even though I’m trying to change but when people do things like that I get s confused. Why not be up front? </p>

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Because people can be ugly, rude, immature or overbearing when confronted with a possible shortcoming and some people would rather avoid the conflict entirely. Of course, that’s just one possibility. I’m sure there are many others.</p>

<p>If it bothers you so much, why don’t you just ask her?</p>

<p>Don’t take it so personally. There are a million and one reasons why someone might change rooms, and it doesn’t always have anything to do with the current roommate. And even if it does, why should it matter to you? Not everyone is going to like you, and even people who do like you might not want to live with you. You can’t please everyone. It’s just not possible. If you really want to know, then you’re going to have to ask her because none of us have lived with you so no one here is going to be able to comment on why someone would rather live elsewhere.</p>