<p>thanks for all the advice! I tend to agree in some way with everything posted although I think I would rather try to gently shape the course of his high school career where I can to optimize his chances for later success… maybe similar to how you would water, prune, or even transplant flowers in your garden. if that means setting him up for Ivy admission, then I suppose that is a happy coincidence. But I’m never going to prune a tulip to a rose, or an oak to a dogwood, am I!?! I do see how you could suffocate or break a child with excessive pruning and I will try to avoid that trap.</p>
<p>To me, that means encouraging him to keep up a good GPA, as was mentioned a few times (even if sometimes he’d rather play video games) - which so far he has been able to do. Personally I wish that our school relied less on the computer for education so that internet and computer games were not such a distraction. But I suppose if they didn’t, he would just have to learn how to control it later.</p>
<p>In addition, I will encourage those EC where he is showing active interest - I think golf might be forcing the issue a bit, but hopefully sailing and skiing will provide that balance to the violin/science/computer programming that he is doing. The violin I don’t think he is passionate about (he does it because he wants to be competent), but the science and computers are from a genuine desire to learn more about those subjects. </p>
<p>I’m not too worried about standardized tests… I guess I may ask him to take the SAT next year just to see how he would do but previous performance would suggest that he would be fine without any additional test prep.</p>
<p>His GC echoed the curricular rigor and gave us a tentative schedule including APs. She told us rigor was more important than GPA.</p>
<p>I am actually realizing I am going to have a bigger problem with S2 - who while probably equally or more intelligent, just is not compliant and thinks that homework is optional even when it seriously drags down his grades. Hopefully he’ll grow out of that…</p>
<p>thanks for all the input!</p>