Not Asian here, so ymmv, but depending on how attached your parents are to you (probably a lot, assuming their yelling is just regular yelling and not abuse), I’ve found it helps to remind them that it’s your last year at home and you want it to be full of happy memories, not anger/stress/yelling. Bonus points if you pull out some baby photos to make them sentimental. Try to come up with some things you can do together to change the subject, like the previous post about “love-bombing” – ask them about their job/career fields, do chores for them, have them teach you to cook a traditional dish, play cards or chess or something they like.
Yes, it’s more of the “white” way to express one’s feelings, but parents in all cultures love their children and want to spend time with them. And btw: many of my close friends are Asian, and while the good-grades-then-med-school expectation certainly exists, their parents didn’t even mention Ivies during college app season, just regular “good schools” (which partly depends on your region/high school, honestly). And none of their parents hate them, have excessive anger towards them, or think they’re stupid. Their parents aren’t as warm and fuzzy as Americans are used to, but they’re supportive and loving. So I don’t know if it’s all cultural – the stereotype of the emotionally-distant, demanding Asian tiger parent isn’t always true (I mean, it’s a stereotype), and it’s definitely not an excuse for your parents to yell at you or for you to accept it. Then again, I’m sure there’s a lot of cultural differences I’m unaware of, so I’m sorry if this is all super tone-deaf and unhelpful.
