Bad idea to transfer after one year?

Transfer Students
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<p>Sorry, this is long and probably the most poorly written thing in the world, and there's no real question, but if you have advice feel free to give your $.02</p>

<p>I'm a freshman at my current school, and not particularly happy. I never really wanted to go here. I was indecisive at application time and didn't apply to many schools, so I had limited options</p>

<p>I go to a southern state school notorious for partying and sports. I'm pledging a fraternity btw. It's all fun and games until you find yourself drinking 5 times a week (not me actually, but everyone else does and it doesn't bode well with me) and its anything else but fulfilling. I want that happy medium of wanting to do well in school and being socially active. At the same time, I think I'm holding back-- I don't like it because I've never wanted to go here and don't want to fully commit to it and start enjoying myself.</p>

<p>Many things are swaying my decision to go somewhere else. I get the vibe that no one really cares about school, and my pledge brothers aren't the best friends to have. I have never said "I'm happy that I go here". Never gotten adrenaline flowing at a football game or had the desire to do a single cheer. I am genuinely unhappy here (I think). I'm trying to keep a clear mind between things-- I don't want to confuse one fun night of partying with this school being awesome. It'll just skew my image of this university and I don't feel like it would be for the best</p>

<p>One school, what seems like the only school, that is high on my radar is pretty prestigious and better than the school I currently go to in every category academically, and they still know how to party. However my ex-girlfriend, who I am still on very good terms with, goes there. I wouldn't doubt that is the reason why that school is waaaayy up there on my list. I don't want to transfer for her, which I've made clear. I just want to go somewhere where getting drunk and laid aren't top priorities and everyone has to be somewhat intelligent to get into the school. The school I'm looking at seems to fit that description.</p>

<p>Re-reading this, it seems pretty clear that with everything I don't like, I should change schools, but the biggest problem is the ex-girlfriend part. Also, I don't want to not transfer because I'd feel like I'm betraying my friends. That's not a valid reason to stay, right?</p>

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<p>If you are genuinely unhappy at your current school, then go for it. You and your happiness comes first. You can always visit your friends. </p>

<p>If you really want to leave you will need safeties.</p>

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<p>You’re clearly unhappy and should probably look into transferring. Although I would usually recommend trying to give the school a chance since it’s probably only been a month or even less since you’ve been in school, I think you’re situation isn’t going to change much. I say that because I think that the social enviornment isn’t affecting you positively. College is what you make it but a social enviornment definitely plays a large role in someone’s college experience. To be honest, I don’t know what schools I would suggest but I would recommend some safeties. With that being said though, I don’t think it hurts to apply to a more prestigious school that would have a higher academic level, like the one that you mentioned. At least that way you would be motivated to do well and be able to excel while still having a social life.</p>