<p>Title basically says it all! Especially if the boyfriend didn't go to the same college as you.
Have any of you done it? Known people who did it? Did it work/not work? Details?
I'm just curious. I think it's an interesting question and overall situation.</p>
<p>how far away is the boy? is he also in college or in the work force? still in high school?</p>
<p>I am a first year in college. I have had the same bf since my freshmen year of hs. We got engaged on Christmas. It works because we keep communication open and talk about everything. We also see each other every few works (luckily) and we make time for each other whenever the other one needs it, the same way that a husband and wife team would. </p>
<p>It’s hard in the sense that I am not completely detached from my home life so I cannot completely immerse myself in college life, but at the same time I know that I have some one who loves me unconditionally and there is always someone I can turn to, no matter what.</p>
<p>ETA: It is not for everyone. You need to be a REALLY strong couple and have 100% trust in one another or it will not work and it will be a horrible break.</p>
<p>If by “not the same college” you mean one that’s far enough away to make seeing each other a difficult proposition, then yes, I do have some experience there.</p>
<p>Long distance relationships, especially those in which one or both parties are starting at college, are intensely frustrating, emotionally draining, often expensive, and can impact your academic life substantially if you’re not careful. If all this sounds worth it for your boyfriend, do it.</p>
<p>To add to the advice above: you’ll probably both get annoyed at each other for things beyond your control, like when you’re too busy to talk one day, or you’re having a bad day and you can’t reach him. Practice apologizing in front of a mirror.</p>
<p>As for different-college-same-metropolitan-area, it’s somewhat easier than the above and and somewhat harder than going to the same college.</p>
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<p>I am also adding that you need to expect growth in college- not just in social life (parties) but also in academic life and your views on things may shift. It happens. If you are lucky, you grow together rather than take separate paths.</p>
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<p>This is what I mean by having open communication and being readily available for one another. If you can’t reach them because of work or class, that is one thing. When you can’t reach them because a social activity is getting in the way- that is when stress will begin and there can be major issues.</p>
<p>Long distance relationships aren’t that hard if you’re with the right person. My girlfriend was in high school in DC, I went to California for a semester. We stayed together just fine. We only ever got into “fights” (which were more like arguments that got resolved very quickly) a couple times.</p>
<p>You just gotta communicate well and trust each other. We were able to talk just about every night, which was nice. But the few times we didn’t, we at least texted each other to say what was up, why we’re busy etc. And we talked talked talked TALKED. A lot. One of my cell phone billing statements, I used like 1100 minutes (thank god I use Sprint…). We also wrote letters to each other… well, she wrote letters… I didn’t write as many 
but that’s a good, fun way to show your love for each other. It’s sincere, because it takes a small bit of time, and it’s just a cute way to communicate that’s fallen by the wayside. Try and set up a regular time to talk to each other, it makes it a lot easier.</p>
<p>So basically, if you two are right for each other, trust each other, and communicate well then it’s really not hard at all. We were apart for two months before I came home for Thanksgiving. Now we’re gonna be a lot closer since I transferred schools (not cos of her though), which should be nice because I can see her every weekend or two.</p>
<p>If you both really love each other then it should be fine. I’d say at the very least give it a shot. If it gets too stressful for the both of you then you might wanna call it off. But if it works fine then good for you!</p>