Long distance=doomed?

<p>Akajjred's post got me to worrying about something similar; sorry to post on the same topic, but I would really appreciate any advice. I'm going to college literally across the country from my boyfriend. Our career paths are more or less opposite. We went to the same high school, but for the next four years at least it will be a struggle to get in the same time zone once in a while. The most important thing for us is that we don't end up angry or hurt eachother. (Okay, it's really weird to be typing this to all you random people, please understand) We believe we can make it work, and that it's absolutely worth the wait. But common wisdom seems adament that long distance relationships are a ticket to disaster. Is this really true? I don't know anyone who's been in such a relationship, so I don't know what to think. Thanks guys.</p>

<p>Long distance is really tricky because your physical needs aren't meant. Meaning you won't be able to hold,hug, or kiss your man for a long time, or do hanky panky moves ;). Not only that, but college is a place where there are soo many guys that share the same interest as you and plus they're pretty attractive! I think you should open up the relationship.</p>

<p>Why don't you each go to your respective schools and see what happens? I think you'll find out if it's going to work out or not fairly quickly. If you decide to stay together, there's always breaks...</p>

<p>I was in a long distance relationship similar to the situation you're describing. To be honest with you, it will be the HARDEST thing you have ever tried to do. I'm a very conscientious person and I allowed my loyalty to my girlfriend to infringe upon the fun I was supposed to be having in college. As a result we broke up the summer after my freshman year.</p>

<p>My advice to you...don't continue dating your b/f if you have any reservations or doubts about your future together. If the thought of "trying it out" crosses your mind...you have already lost. You will end up wasting your first and most important year in college (freshman year) like I did. As others have mentioned, every college in the country is filled with suitable b/f candidates. No matter how good of a situation you think you're in with your high school b/f, don't allow it to cloud your judgment. The pickings are NOT slim in college like they are in high school. Just keep that in mind.</p>

<p>I can see the logic in both choices, but realize emotion is going to play the largest role in your decision. If at all possible try to remove emotion from the equation and think realistically. Maybe consult those closest to you for their unbiased opinions. Hope some of this helped. Good luck with whatever you decide.</p>

<p>Open relationships solve all; all of the love and none of the betrayal and jealousy....</p>

<p>I think an open relationship is a bad idea for many people. I know I wouldn't be able to function in one, in fact, I find it rather insulting.</p>

<p>Er, what exactly is an open relationship? Is this something like a "no strings attached" theory?</p>

<p>Yes. It means you're free to see other people. It seems like a very bad idea</p>

<p>i know quite a few people that made situations simmilar to this work</p>