<p>Yes, some schools have gender-neutral housing, and more are adding it every year.</p>
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<p>Some colleges actually do, but I was just using that as a hypothetical example to make a point.</p>
<p>As soon as you get each other’s contact information you should tell him outright. That way, if worse does come to worse, you’ll have enough time to switch rooms and be comfortable about it before the year starts. No reason to have the added stress when your first semester rolls around.</p>
<p>okay, so I’m straight. I’ve been assigned a gay roommate. He hasn’t told me he is gay, however, it is all over his facebook and myspace. I’m not comfortable sharing a bedroom with a gay man. I’m not ready to share a bedroom with a woman either. I’m only 18! By the rankings, this is not a gay-friendly school. I don’t want to be unfriendly and would love to change that culture, however, I don’t want to share a bedroom with a gay man, end of story. Changing the culture for acceptance between two consenting adults is one thing, but forcing me to share my bedroom with a gay man is quite another.</p>
<p>If you don’t like men and you don’t like women, then you should have opted for a single. And a shrink.</p>
<p>talk about mis reading a post…</p>
<p>I don’t want to share a bedroom with a woman means I don’t want to live with a woman…just like I don’t want to share a bedroom with a gay man. Both have sexual tensions and there are enough issues as an entering freshman.</p>
<p>jeez already. no haters, just helpful suggestions wanted.</p>
<p>Amen Plattsburgh, you’re not really entitled to whatever you want when you choose a double. Some guys are gay, some guys are gonna end up with gay roommates. You should have known that when you chose a double (anticipating the response that it’s not always a choice, I think for freshman it is; no freshman wants a single and so any who request one get one, and parents probably aren’t too keen on them since they’re more expensive). If anybody forced you to live with anybody, it was you.</p>
<p>As for suggestions: you’re 18 - get used to sexual tension. If that isn’t something you can handle, then you shouldn’t be living in a college dorm. Anyway, chances are if girls aren’t jumping all over you, this guy won’t be either. So the problem is less sexual tension and more about your own misunderstandings and perceptions.</p>
<p>why do gays want everyone to accept their lifestyle but don’t accept hetero? I ask you this simple question in all honesty. Just like the gay was uncomfortable about hetero, so are hetero uncomfortable as freshman in my first live out of home. Accept not all want so much in-your-face.</p>
<p>Firstly, the OP posted about his realistic worry that a straight roommate might be uncomfortable rooming with a gay man, NOT that he himself was uncomfortable rooming with a straight person. That’s a concern that seems to be pretty much universally shared, at least among the gay people that have posted on this site. They want everyone to accept their lifestyle because everyone, regardless of race or orientation or gender or aura color wants to be accepted. Besides that, if you’re really that uncomfortable rooming with a gay person, can’t you just switch?
Also, gay men aren’t women, just like women aren’t gay men. Don’t generalize gay people; none of them like that :P</p>
<p>PS: The last part of your post was total nonsense. “So are hetero uncomfortable as freshman in my first live out of home.” Que?</p>
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Sexual tensions? Are you sure it’s not just you?
I would think that an 18 year old would be mature enough to know that not every straight girl or gay guy will jump every guy in sight.</p>
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buriedalie, I think he was trying to say, “Just like how gays are uncomfortable with straight people, heterosexuals are uncomfortable as well.” Or something like that…
Which is a naive statement to make. Speak for yourself fresh2013 
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Don’t generalize people. If you yourself are uncomfortable with a gay roommate, then request for a switch.</p>
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<p>Hey I love clay aiken and I’m straight as a pencil. But then again I am also female. Hahah</p>
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<p>Simple as in stupid, yes. Sure, there are a rare few gay people who act negatively towards heterosexuals. But anyone can see that this is out of bitterness and hurt, and is more a defense mechanism than it is a true hatred. However, hatred of your kind is real and stems from stupidity and egocentricity.</p>
<p>It’s also possible by “accept” you mean live in that manner, in which case this is doubly dumb. First because gays don’t want straights to become homosexual, and secondly because nobody has the power to change their orientation anyway.</p>
<p>And kid, how about you work on becoming a better citizen by learning how to write and articulate thoughts before you go hunting down others?</p>
<p>panther124, hate much? your words speak loudly and emphasize my points. You can’t argue without cutting me down. </p>
<p>And actually, I have gay friends who are anti-hetero (in a general sense). They campaign so hard for acceptance that they denigrate any other lifestyle. They’re friends but I wouldn’t want to share a bedroom with them. then again, I wouldn’t want to share a bedroom with my sister, either. That’s my point in a nutshell. Oops, I didn’t capitalize ‘then’, panther124 is going to miscontrue this paragraph, again.</p>
<p>Fresh2013, why are you so sure there would be sexual tension between you and a gay man? Are you THAT hot? </p>
<p>Damn, I’m a lesbian, but if you’re really as hot as you say you are, PM your number will ya?</p>
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They’re “anti-hetero” and still your friend?</p>
<p>That’s like a Jewish person claiming to be friends with a neo-Nazi.</p>
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<p>Yes, I really do hate the arguments you are trying to make. And my arguments were made without cutting you down, that last insult was purely personal and my other points don’t rely on it.</p>
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<p>Really, you have friends who denigrate your sexuality? Either these are the imaginary friends that serve so useful in so many homophobic and racist arguments, or else you’re a very self-deprecating person to be friends with such people. Very few gays like that exist. And you can figure out whether or not your roommate is like that once you get there. If he is, you’re right for wanting to leave. But as of now you’re just stereotyping, so why should anybody respect your wanting to change roommates?</p>
<p>Folks, this kid just wants attention. Ignore him and he’ll stop.</p>
<p>Sexual tension? Stop flattering yourself. Bigots aren’t attractive.</p>
<p>guys I’m so attractive that I’m afraid anyone I room with will take advantage of me, please help</p>
<p>Luckily, there was another thread on this forum answering my questions exactly. </p>
<p>There is nothing wrong with not wanting to share a bedroom with a gay man. There is no prejudice or bigotry. It just …is… Just like being gay just …is… Prejudice or bigotry would be if I actively campaigned against him. I’m not doing that. I just don’t wish to share a bedroom with a gay man…or with my sister either. Is that plain enough for you?</p>
<p>Reducto ad adsurdum arguments and deliberate misreadings illustrate your disrespect. Give respect to get respect. I’m just saying.</p>