<p>I’m a mom so maybe I shouldn’t comment on this thread. I always read “latest posts.” I had several friends get abortions back in the day. I support a woman/girl having options BUT if your friend has always been against abortion and believes in her heart it’s wrong she will have extreme emotional fall out in the future. Maybe not soon but when she’s older and wanting a family it will bother her. I can count at least five mature moms who have for some reason confided in me over the years. I hope she can tell her mother and discuss options such as open adoption. FWIW my teen daughter was recently doing research for teen living and Planned Parenthood can do an abortion for about $500. Some insurance plans will pay. If it’s done early it can be done with a pill. But your friend should really be sure that she is okay with it. If she were in my state she’d have to have a parent approve and she’d have to have a sonogram. Doing nothing is really not an option. She needs to tell her parents pronto. I’m sorry you are going through this. BTW those “crisis pregnancy centers” are a front run by right to life. Planned Parenthood discusses ALL options.</p>
<p>I don’t know your religious beliefs but if she is confident that she wants to get an abortion, I’d go visit the Planned Parenthood place, NOT a Crisis Pregnancy Centre. Those places often spew out incorrect facts and harass and intimidate women. Even if she isn’t confident, I would still take her to PP - they will give her accurate facts on all her choices.</p>
<p>If you feel comfortable going with her (as in it’s not a spiritual or other burden), I would strongly try to help out. She doesn’t seem like she has many friends. I also wouldn’t tell this to anyone unless it becomes life threatening. She confided in you for a reason.</p>
<p>Honestly, having a kid at this age is really, really not ideal for her. Thus, if she settles on abortion, she has no obligation to tell the guy. If she chooses to have and keep the kid or give it up for adoption, it would get out anyways and the guy would be notified. </p>
<p>I don’t know her parents but if they are vehemently not supportive of her, I wouldn’t pressure her into talking to them. Otherwise, it would be good if they’re on board.</p>
<p>I dunno about the judiciary process - how many months along is she? I know some US states have very early laws banning abortion. If the process takes too long, that could cause additional legal problems. Thus, I think if she wants to get an abortion, she would have to start the process soon.</p>
<p>Sorry I’m not much help. I’m sorry for both you and your friend for this tough situation. I would post this on a non- CC site with more mature individuals as well - try Reddit’s /r/twoxchromosomes and (if you prefer) - the Parent Cafe here .</p>