Hello, I would like some advice on what to do in my current situation. I’ve been notified that I’ve gotten two girls pregnant in the last two weeks. I’m a sophomore currently but the two girls are seniors. One of them is a girl I’ve been seeing for the last two months(B). The other is my ex girlfriend. I broke up with her after I heard the news. Yes I know I’m wrong by being with two girls at the same time, and yes I regret it. Girl B was skipping pills and she never said anything. However, we talked and she said she’s having the baby for sure. I’ve told her many times I’m too young too have a baby and don’t want to be in their life. After talking about it, she agreed. I was protected with A but she got pregnant somehow.Girl A is going to drop out to take care of the baby. She has been having a hard time in school since she’s getting riduculed for the baby.She really wants me to be in the baby’s life but I don’t want to. My parents are furious about the news. I only have one situation taken care of. Now I need to deal with my ex. She wants me back but I told her it’s not going to happen. I can’t be taking care of a baby right now. If I do it’ll affect my future significantly. I’m doing good in school, have good ECs, and I’m not losing everything because of my ex and her issues.I’m considering doing a paternity test to see if I’m the father but I’m pretty sure I am. So there’s no escape there. I’m trying to get my ex to think like girl B but it’s not functioning right now. I don’t want to ruin my future. Any advice anyone can give?
The best advice I can give you and the young women is to stay in school and finish high school. Try to get the one who want to drop out to at least pursue some program when she can get a diploma. You are all young and the babies will be better off if you parents have more education and can get better jobs. You are going to need to work, definitely during the summer and probably after school to help support the children you created. They deserve a good future, too, including not being disrespected before they even get here. Sure, do a paternity test and figure out with you parents what help you and your parents can provide. There will be three devastated families and working together and keeping the peace will help.
Your life changed. Stop being selfish. It’s not about you anymore. Babies don’t wait and their needs start as soon as they are born. You may need to look at community college and part time work.
It sounds like you’ve had some exceptional ECs!
What kind of advice do you need?
Seriously, your attitude is inappropriate. You are not too young to have a baby. It sounds like you will have children next year, end of story.
You need to man up and be responsible for these two children that you helped create. Both of them. Anything else will render you a reptile. You don’t want to be a reptile. That will certainly ruin your future because you won’t have any self respect.
Calm down. Your life isn’t ruined. It has changed. You have a situation to handle, handle it with honor. You might even try to have a positive attitude about being a good father so your kids don’t get screwed up. You can start by apologizing to the girls. Their lives have changed too.
You can’t think only about yourself anymore. You need to grow up fast. You may discover that caring about people other than yourself is surprisingly quite satisfying. I certainly think it is.
Figure out a way to move on that works for everyone involved.
Good luck.
Assuming this post is for real, I suggest that the OP do his research on parental obligations. He doesn’t have either of the situations “taken care of.” Child support will last until age 18 at least, and the agreement that the OP thinks he had with the pregnant girl isn’t going to hold up legally.
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It’s not. If it seems like the person is living under a bridge (which this one is), flag the post for moderator review instead of trying to engage the user. Closing.