<p>Well, my best friend is going far away to an elite college and I feel empty inside. I don't know if it's just because I'm gonna miss her or if I feel as though I have let myself down b/c I'm not going to a well-known school or both. I just feel as though we're growing apart. She's meeting all these new interesting people and I am and will probably always be in the same state with the same people. I know this is wrong, but I'm hoping she won't like it at her new school (even though I know she alreay does) and will transfer to my school. I guess it's kind of hard for me to realize that we're not going to be together anymore. I don't know how to handle this so I usually try to block it out, but I'm near tears right now. Can anybody help or relate?</p>
<p>simple solution: make new friends...</p>
<p>if she really is your friend you'll be happy for her and hope she likes it at her school.</p>
<p>and if she really is your friend she'll keep contact with you and pretend it's not all that fun.</p>
<p>Recognize it for what it is... she has gone off to a new school, and you haven't... morn it for a bit (hopefully not too long, because that's obsessive) and turn over a new leaf... I suggest learning to adjust to change--not that it's easy, or that you shouldn't deal with your feelings and have them--but life is all about change.</p>
<p>your friend is not letting the friendship get in the way of what she wants to do with the rest of her life... i would suggest doing the same...and try not to get too bent outta shape over it</p>
<p>business is business... you can always make new friends</p>
<p>Yeah, I can always make new friends - if she was just any friend. I'm sorry, but I don't use the term 'friend' very loosely. She's like my sister. But thanks for your advice, anyway. And I am happy for her, just really really sad for us.</p>
<p>Where's she going, anyway? Because I've noticed that Northeasterners consider distances not so far (in respect to other parts of the country) as "really far away".</p>
<p>For example, my friends in Boston think of 30-60 miles as "far away" whereas down here, it's considered a daily commute by many...</p>
<p>there's no such thing as a BFF. Everyone stabs backs, she's just waiting for the right moment. You should feel lucky. Now she will have to come across the country to stab you, and you'll see her coming. Ready your sword.</p>
<p>Have you talked with her about it?</p>
<p>No, I haven't talked to her about it b/c I just want her to be happy. I don't really want to burden her with my problem.</p>
<p>She's going to DC</p>
<p>Oh, that's not THAT far. You make it sound like she's going to Stanford or something. Sure, you won't get to see her everyday, but you can make a trip down there every once in a while by car :-)</p>
<p>Maybe you guys are right and I'm just wallowing in my own self-pity now that reality has finally hit me. I love change, but in very small amounts - thanks for your help.</p>
<p>She can and will notice a change in you and in your relationship. If you can't tell her anything about your thoughts, then she won't be able to understand the change. She could conclude anything. She could even conclude that you don't want to be her friend anymore.</p>
<p>Your friendship does not have to end. My wife's best friends to this day are her two best friends from high school--none of whom went to college together.</p>
<p>That's really good advice and it's good to hear that your wife's situation worked out well. I just don't know how to bring up the subject. Usually saying "I'm gonna miss you alot" doesn't seem to open up the floor for much discussion except " I'm gonna miss you too." Then it gets really quiet. Besides, even though I probably am I don't want to seem clingy.</p>
<p>What would you want to say to her, what would you want her to understand?</p>
<p>Well, besides: "You must transfer someplace closer"...hmmmm...I guess that's my problem - I don't know what I want to say. You can only say I'm gonna miss you so much; after awhile it becomes meaningless. I kind of just want to know that I'll always have someone to lean on no matter how many miles are put between us or where we end up 10, 20, 30 years from now. I just don't know.</p>