<p>My best friend and I are both currently seniors in high school. We have been planning on going to the same university (which is about an hour and 15 minutes away) & rooming together next year since October. I recently decided that I no longer want to go to that university anymore, and have decided that I am going to one that is closer to home, for personal reasons. I've also heard from many people about how you should never room with a friend from high school because it ruins your friendship. How can I tell her that I'm not going to the same school as her anymore? I know it's probably going to hurt our friendship, but I'm doing what I believe is best for my future.</p>
<p>Tell her as honestly and as soon as possible. The longer she believes that you are going to school together, the less time she will have to consider other plans for herself.
My general advice is to not base a school decision on another person (unless it’s a spouse, child, or similar commitment). This is an age where people grow and change quickly. College is the time to learn who you are as an individual. Also, people’s individual circumstances- finances, residency- can change plans- like yours have.</p>
<p>Yeah, you’re absolutely right. Thank you so much :)</p>
<p>Yes, tell her soon and make sure she knows it’s not because of her. Just say the second school has more opportunities for you academically and that it lines up better with future careers or something. I know people in the same boat. It isn’t fun but you have to tell her ASAP.</p>
<p>Where should I tell her? I definitely want to tell her in person because I think it would be extremely shallow to tell her by text.</p>
<p>I agree, tell her in person. Just tell her you need to talk to her because your college plans have changed and since she means a lot to you, you want to explain what’s going on.</p>
<p>I agree, tell her in person. Just tell her you need to talk to her because your college plans have changed and since she means a lot to you, you want to explain what’s going on.</p>
<p>I think that “never room with a friend from high school” thing is a myth. I was an RA in college and am a residential hall director now, and friends can live together compatibly. The problem is if two friends from high school don’t have compatible living styles or if they both have a tough time adjusting to the college change.</p>
<p>Anyway, I would explain it the way you did here. Tell her that you’ve decided to go to X University because it’s just better for your own personal development, and that it has nothing to do with her personally, and that you hope you can remain friends.</p>
<p>You’ll never grow if you keep hanging with the same best friend. Tell her ASAP so she can line up another roomie. GL</p>
<p>Invite her over or go out to lunch or something! Make sure you don’t start with the college thing or make it seem like that’s why you invited her to talk about it. Ask her about her intended major and then start transitioning into “I’ve been thinking a lot more about all this college stuff” and then tell her.</p>