I’ve been lurking for many months now, and have successfully helped our D navigate through the application process with minimal oops-moments. She is now down to the final two. She has Revisit days coming up and we want to make sure we’re looking at the right things and asking the right questions.
I have searched and read every post on both of these schools. They are both great options, with a lot to offer D. But my question isn’t actually about the schools themselves; it’s about how to make a decision between two schools that literally don’t have any commonality other than BS.
We are lucky to live in an area with a handful of independent schools in reasonable driving distance - both BS and Day. D started advocating to attend a very-well-known local BS in 7th grade - for all the right reasons (wanting more academic rigor, wanting more balance with arts and athletics, wanting to be with peers who care about school). Once we started the process, we realized there were other great schools in our area, and we visited with very open minds. We found a lot of schools with good “fit” (maybe “fit” is partially influenced by geographical location?). But, as we are looking as a Day family, all the schools are quite different, and not all in the same “category”, and we’re a bit lost as to how we make a decision.
For most of the folks on this board, it seems that you essentially end up making a choice between similar schools - at least on paper. Maybe similar size, similar SSAT scores, similar SAT scores, similar gender option, similar arts programs, similar athletic teams, similar vibe, etc. And then, it’s all about gut feel - the Revisit days are the time to soak in atmosphere and carefully observe interactions.
For us, the differences are significant - single gender vs. coed, small school vs. large, different arts programs, different sports options. Both are comparable driving distance. Both have academic rigor. Both will be comparable cost (FA has equalized the difference). Both are schools where D feels fully welcome and at home.
There are SOME differences, but they cancel each other out. For example, one school seems to be more humanities focused, but that is the school that actually requires MORE science/math credit to graduate. There are tradeoffs in arts and athletics as well - neither has “everything”, but both are miles better than her local HS.
So, what advice can you offer to help us make a final decision? Obviously, fit may very well be the deciding factor once the Revisit days are over. Do you have any strategies or visualization tools or a list of probing questions to help us help D to arrive at a decision that won’t leave her forever wondering “but what if”?