<p>Ok, this is probably the most shallow, stupid, moronic, stereotypical question a girl could ask but... are boys at boarding school all weird nerds? I don't really think so, but does anyone know about it?</p>
<p>From what I have saw and have experienced, all boys at boarding schools aren’t the typical nerd in your basement on a Saturday playing dungeons and dragons trying to become a level 12 warrior from Asgard or something( just exaggerating here). But, the boys will be smart because if your goin to BS u most likely won’t be dumb, and even though the boys are smart they are athletes too, because at Groton, or any other school, there probably is a sports requirement for every semester, or trimester if we’re talking about a school like Lawrenceville.</p>
<p>I have visited quite a few boarding/prep schools, and while everyone is very academic, a majority of the boys who attend are well-bred, preppy, attractive, and New England born and raised. Most are athletic, and since prep schools are so diverse, you get everything from lax-bro blondes, artistic guitar players, and foreign hotties 
Trust me, there is no shortage of attractive guys at boarding school! Plus, they are not only attractive, but also smart and driven enough to attend.</p>
<p>Take it from a girl at prep school…the boys that care about their grades aren’t necessarily the cutest, but they are still attractive. The boys that girls fall gaga over are the ones who couldn’t care less. If you’re a smart girl, you like a smart guy.</p>
<p>@laughalittle You are so right. I can’t even fathom the number of times I’ve heard those words from my mother. </p>
<p>@manatee1258 First of all you’re a girl (this is a generalization because not all girls necessarily care). Most likely between the ages of 13-15. Thinking about how the guys are is expected (I know I thought about it… A LOT). I wasn’t completely sold on the idea of boarding school until I visited and saw some of my prospective classmates first hand. 
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<p>I’m not going to lie. There are going to be “nerds”. Based on the school you attend there could be more or less. But what is the exact definition of a nerd? Do you mean dorky or awkward in appearance or in personality? Because (especially at BS) there are going to be smart guys. Whether you consider them “nerdy” or not is a matter of preference and opinion. </p>
<p>Also, weirdness isn’t always a bad thing. Most of my friends are somewhat “weird” and I can assure with you there is rarely a dull moment when I’m with them. </p>
<p>I actually do not attend BS yet (nor have I gone on revisits) but most of the schools I visited had a decent number of relatively attractive guys. Some schools had more of the athletic, attractive, well-bred, preppy types (-heart melts-) and less of the “classic nerds” while others had quite the opposite. Yes, it does matter who you are in school with but that shouldn’t turn you off from a school that would fit you perfectly if it weren’t for all of the “nerdy” guys.</p>
<p>Here’s another thing you should remember: Personality over looks. Looks are helpful, they are what catches your eye but personality is what captures a heart. As you get older looks will fade but a warm, loving personality won’t fade quite as fast.</p>
<p>Haha I love this question! I was waiting for my interview at Hotchkiss last fall and THE CUTEST guy was sitting right across from me on one of the couch things (if you’ve been there, you know what I’m talking about) and he kept looking at me and I about died. I kind of wanted to say hi to him but that probably wouldn’t have played well when the AOs who were interviewing our parents at the time saw us talking haha. My mom said his parents were super sweet, though. My guess is there’ll be some good-looking ones, but they may be full of themselves. Of course, the perfect combo is awesome personality + hotness = dream guy but then this is obviously quite unrealistic. Haha:)</p>
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<p>@aubreygal – You’re describing my son and you haven’t even met him yet! ;)</p>
<p>(Can a mother say that? This thread is hilarious!)</p>
<p>At the top BS, the boys are, on average, older than the girls because of the prevalence of repeat boys.</p>
<p>From the other perspective, DS is disappointed in the number of girls whose fathers have apparently forbidden them from “dating” (such as it is as BS), telling them that they aren’t shelling out $50K for drama and heartbreak–they should only be focusing on academics, sports, and what they were sent there FOR, which is NOT adolescent relationships. The girls are friendly and invite DS to sit by them in class and at events, but they do not want to be asked to the dance or considered attached in any way. He says this “rule” seems to loosen in the upper grades, but he and all his freshman friends are really bummed by this.</p>
<p>Parents: What have you told your sons/daughters about dating at BS? Seems like daughters are being told something different than sons.</p>
<p>Y’know, if a girl really wanted to date at boarding school, I don’t see how her father’s going to stop her. I wonder if those girls aren’t glad to have the excuse–not because of your particular son, mind you, but because they don’t really want to date yet. I think some kids see enough drama played out on facebook to be a little more cautious than we were when it came to plunging headfirst into those crush relationships that rarely turned out well. </p>
<p>I’ve always told my kids that my close friendships with both boys and girls in high school ended up being much more positive and fun for me that my forays into dating…so I guess I’m on the side of friendship over casual dating, especially in a fishbowl like bs. I wouldn’t attempt to enforce any rules about it from afar however!</p>
<p>Has anyone mentioned the awkwardness of practically living with the guy/girl? Convenient if you’re madly in love, but not so much when you’ve broken up. Just sayin’.</p>
<p>@ChoatieMom Hahahaha! :D</p>
<p>And I think that, goes for both guys and girls, if s/he is mature enough and wise enough to know what and what-not to do while ‘dating’ or even ‘flirting’, they should be okay. Most of us applicants have lots of willpower, determination, and motivation to succeed in life - and that level of dedication starts even before boarding school. As social as I tend to be, I will definitely not let a silly topic like boys deter me from my schoolwork and extracurricular activities; never have, never will. That being said, I think it’s all fun and games if the child has enough street smarts to know how far to go in relationships, because seeing your ex whom you ‘loved’ would be awkward, but if you never let it get to that level of seriousness (which, in all honesty, there is no ‘love’ at such a young age IMHO) I don’t see the harm. It’s all just about boundaries and setting rules for yourself before you go, such as not doing anything that would get you in trouble according to the handbook and not letting a heartbreak interfere with your classes. BS is supposed to be high school on steroids: all the good parts of (reg.) high school + amazing education, opportunities, etc. A huge part of a regular, raw, high school experience is being able to do the normal teenage stuff as far as flirting and dating and such. But of course, this is all IMO and I could be totally wrong, but that’s just what I think. :)</p>
<p>I clarification for all: I am a guy and am a SEXY GOD :D…jk not that shallow but there do tend to be some nerds here at BS, but the majority of kids are academic and athletic</p>
<p>So I feel like I’m reading Seventeen magazine. </p>
<p>Boarding school boys are cuter than average in my opinion - probably because they tend to dress so much nicer and tend to be fairly fit due to athletic requirements and all that campus walking. Intelligence is appealing, too. </p>
<p>Kids at boarding school definitely get involved with each other and there is more dating (I know it’s no longer called that these days) between grades than is typical at public schools. I haven’t heard of many kids being forbidden to “go out” while at BS. I think, over time, boys and girls develop much healthy relationships with members of the opposite sex since they are living around each other more. They see each other at classes and 3 meals a day. That hot guy is going to see you with no makeup in sweats as you grab some early breakfast but you’re too tired/know them too well to give a rat’s ass after awhile. Living in a community 24/7 surrounded by your peers, you come to just be yourself after awhile and others will see your strengths and imperfections and visa versa. Healthier in my opinion. It’s easier to develop brother/sister type friendships at BS.</p>
<p>@creative1:</p>
<p>The brother-sister friendship is totally true! I feel really close with guys, as friends, but I would never date them. You can have relationships with the opposite sex without being judged.</p>
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<p>Sigh. @laughalittle: You sound like all the girls at my son’s school. Well, there’s always college…</p>
<p>I mean date the guys I’m friends with! Sorry guys! I like guys at prep school…don’t get me wrong…but if I’m friends with them, then I don’t want to date them. I just see past the superficial “hotness” and go straight for the brains and personality.</p>
<p>Imagine if two CCers met at boarding and started dating…</p>
<p>Could happen.</p>
<p>With who exactly?</p>