Bullied and beaten...in middle school!

<p>This story is shocking on so many levels and has weighed heavily on my heart for the past week. I do not live in this town, but it's a place where very little violent crime occurs and even less ethnic/racial tension. It's a story that I think needs to be told and examined on a larger scale, since it seems that the politics of life in a small community have taken precedence over the welfare of children.</p>

<p>The 12-yo son of a pediatrician was savagely beaten at the bus stop last Wednesday morning and spent several days in the hospital, after being transferred to a larger trauma center where he underwent surgery to install rods and pins in his leg. He has a broken femur as a result of being attacked by several middle-schoolers who beat him with tree branches. The backstory (from one of the parents) is that there were at least a dozen other kids at that bus stop who witnessed the attack and apparently did little or nothing to stop it. Following the attack, ALL of the kids, except for the beaten boy, got on the bus and said NOTHING to the driver and the school was unaware of the incident until a teacher overheard students discussing it. I truly hope that it's because they were too intimidated to speak up in the presence of the bullies, and not that they were so indifferent to another child's suffering. The result was that the young man simply laid there in pain until a passing neighbor noticed him and stopped to render assistance and alert his mom.</p>

<p>The bad guys in this story also happen to be the 7th and 8th grade sons of a NYS Trooper, a NYS Senator, and an ER doctor, which adds another element of surrealism to the story. In one case, I'd say the apple fell very close to the tree, but that's another story and I don't imagine this is something that they saw coming either. Strangely though, it took days for the police department to show up to take a report. I first heard about it Wednesday evening and searched regularly for news of the boy's condition. There was absolutely no media coverage, even in their local newspaper, until Monday when the story broke based on a tip to the Syracuse network affiliate, after which the local paper finally ran a small story. There has been no further coverage. The school superintendent professed sorrow, although he was not entirely truthful when he implied that it's the first incident of this nature that's occurred during his tenure, but stated that it's not their responsibility since it didn't happen on school grounds. So far no formal charges have been filed and only one of the little trolls has been suspended...for three whole days. I understand that the father of the victim was told that it's possible no charges will be filed.</p>

<p>Meanwhile, the toll it's taken on this very nice family is visibly awful, which is certainly understandable. They suspected their son had been bullied earlier, but the boy would never tell on his classmates and initially even tried to say that he had "fallen" at the bus stop. The bullies have apparently been calling their son a "terrorist" - his parents are Armenian-born Catholics, and have been citizens and active community members for many years. His dad is a well-known pediatrician and Chief of Staff at the local hospital. He also spends a few days each week in a satellite office serving a rural area lacking any other healthcare services for children. Until last year, the boy attended a Catholic elementary school in the same town, along with many of his current classmates. In short, it seems his ethnicity was just an excuse to taunt and pick on a bright, quiet kid who does not appear to be as big or strong as some of the other boys his age.</p>

<p>I previously would have said it would never happen there...not in a million years and not with those kids, anyway. The entire incident and the way it is being handled makes me feel ill and I wonder if morality and justice are more than words anymore. How can a coordinated and pre-meditated assault, stemming from an ethnic bias, be given a pass? In the eyes of the law, is it somehow okay for kids to hate until they're a certain age, say 14...or is it only okay if their parents are well-connected? And what will these kids turn into in 10 years if they're behaving like heartless little monsters already?</p>

<p>Thanks for listening...I'm sure the family would appreciate your prayers if you are so inclined. Here's a link to the coverage:</p>

<p>Oneida</a> Police, school district investigating alleged bus stop attack - NewsChannel 9 WSYR</p>

<p>How a 13/14 year old boy can break the largest bone in another boy’s body and not face charges is beyond any reasonability. And I don’t give a rat’s a$$ what daddy does.</p>

<p>OMG how horrible!!! I hope they can no longer keep a lid on the story and the perpetrators get what they deserve.</p>

<p>Sick. I hope the boy can go to a different school after this. I’d be moving out of that town if it were my kid.</p>

<p>That is just one of the most awful stories I’ve ever heard. That is so heartbreaking. I’m glad, at least, it is now public. I hope the instigators will get what they deserve.</p>

<p>If its true, the attackers belong in a youth facility (that is, jail) for a substantial period of time. As Napoleon said when he shot the general, to encourage the others.</p>

<p>[Oneida</a> middle schooler recounts attack (video) - oneidadispatch.com](<a href=“http://www.oneidadispatch.com/articles/2010/11/16/news/doc4ce2b5a0e9db6003817924.txt?viewmode=fullstory]Oneida”>http://www.oneidadispatch.com/articles/2010/11/16/news/doc4ce2b5a0e9db6003817924.txt?viewmode=fullstory)</p>

<p>This newspaper article indicates the school is investigating quite completely, although it was off property, and may be preparing to press more charges once investigations are complete. Principal spent the entire Veterans’ day holiday weekend on the phone to pin down the full story. School is working with police department.</p>

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That’s a tragedy. I hope the careful investigation of the school and police result in significant consequences for the bullies.</p>

<p>That’s sick…no,insane!The perpetrators of the crime should face trial in court,not to mention thorough follow up in the form of punishment by the institution they attend.Really,if you have to be violent,if you have to bash some one,there always are other solutions and ways to do it.Football is one way.Boxing and active wrestling are other ways.</p>

<p>I wish that we could believe a full and fair investigation will be done. But, what the school and PD said to a reporter, and what they say to the parents, are two different things. There seems to be some back-pedaling going on when they communicate with Dr. D and his wife. Although I am acquainted with them (and he actually saved my child’s life some years ago, so am forever indebted to him), my perspective comes from a close colleague who is witnessing first-hand the effect this is having on them daily and who is also having a hard time dealing with it. I believe their atttorney has been pressing for answers and is not getting anywhere so far. Which, of course, is a source of great frustration to the community and the victim’s family and the delay is only spawning separate incidents, to no one’s benefit. </p>

<p>Normally kids would be suspended pending investigation if the principal suspected they were involved in any serious code violation, especially fighting. In a neighboring district, my 3rd grade nephew was immediately suspended for a day, along with 3 others, following a relatively minor bus incident. The “full” investigation (really, it doesn’t take that long to interview a handful of kids) exonerated him and revealed that he was actually the target of the bullying and was simply trying to defend himself. The bullies, who were 4th and 5th graders, received additional punishments, including the loss of bus use, and counseling. The whole thing was resolved within a day or two. So, after a week goes by and it’s obvious that there was a very serious incident, and the victim has identified the parties responsible, isn’t it reasonable to expect that the school would have taken action already?</p>

<p>Again, no counseling. Jail. IF the report is true, this is not the kind of the run of the mill bullying that is becoming a national obsession. It is a violent attack by a group of young thugs–no matter who their parents are. No different from an attack by an organized gang of inner city children.</p>

<p>Shocking! You described a community just like ours. My HS son was just volunteered to speak to our middle school students about Facebook bullying, which has become a problem here. We’ve got to contain it before it moves out on the streets. Please keep us posted on the outcome.</p>

<p>This is just heartbreaking. I surely hope the family will seek the recourse they are most certainly entitled to. This is just unreal that such a think would take place without maximum punishment to the ones who did this. This boys life is forever changed, and what it does to a family…just tragic.</p>

<p>Just want to say in light of this article, our school just learned of a fantastic never before done documentary on an insiders life with bullying, its called the “The Bully project” by Lee Hirsch. It is unreal in one word. You must google it and see the trailer, make sure you have plenty of tissue around, this is beyond heartbreaking and hits home to anyone with a beating heart, regardless of whether or not you have dealt with it on a personal level. Awareness must be raised as well as a ZERO tolerance for this at any age.</p>

<p>Will keep this family in my prayers.</p>

<p>Keeping this family in my prayers…</p>

<p>Someone needs to release this story to a national news channel…this issue is being addresses across the country but won’t truly be eradicated until EVERYONE is on board…</p>

<p>agree with all that legal action should be taken…</p>

<p>This was done off school property, so maybe this is not the school’s business. HOWEVER, what occurred here is CRIMINAL in nature, and the “alleged” perpetrators should be arrested and prosecuted in the family (juvenile) court. (Unfortunately, they are not old enough to be prosecuted in adult court, or they would be subject of a penalty of up to 7 years in jail.) They should be enjoying some time in a juvenile detention facility. Perhaps that would “cure” them. :rolleyes: Spoken as a former prosecutor in NY.</p>

<p>ETA-Atomom, I’d like to see these little darlings as the ones who need to look for school elsewhere, not the victim.</p>

<p>I witnessed a state trooper in that area torment his divorced wife for years with the help of his fellow troopers. It has forever changed my views and my families of State Police.</p>

<p>An 18 yr old HS’er was senselessly stomped to death by 4 teens a week or so ago in a random act of violence. Apparently a fight broke out at a house party, and a girl hit a guy. He wouldn’t hit her back but vowed to take it out on the next male who walked by. This young man happened to walk by… returning from a play he had watched at his church… on teen bullying [Bobby</a> Tillman’s sudden death and? a haunting question | ajc.com](<a href=“http://www.ajc.com/news/bobby-tillmans-sudden-death-740109.html]Bobby”>http://www.ajc.com/news/bobby-tillmans-sudden-death-740109.html)</p>

<p>What a very sad story.</p>

<p>These stories are heart wrenching. The cruelty is nearly unbelievable.</p>

<p>My son was bullied, on a far less violent scale, in middle school. We did everything right yet got almost no help. Pulling him out of that school and homeschooling him for 7th and 8th grade is something we’ll never regret.</p>

<p>To this day I do not understand how adults can be so indifferent to children’s suffering. Then they wonder how it escalates to this level?</p>

<p>This is so upsetting. It doesn’t surprise me that the other kids didn’t tell what happened. They know what happens to “squealers” and they probably did not want their legs broken. Interestingly, my S begged me not to report the bullies in his middle school (hitting him with belt before school door was open) and my older D agreed. They told me of many cases of “it getting worse” for the guy being bullied…calling him mamma’s boy and going for payback, etc. </p>

<p>Hopefully, the truth will come out and the consequences will fit the situation.</p>

<p>YNN is airing an update on the story this morning…his poor mom looks like she hasn’t slept in days and said that one child made a call from the bus stop, apparently to the boy’s mother, and offered a little comfort prior to getting on the bus. I’m a bit perplexed as to why none of these kids went to a neighboring house (this is an area where pretty much everyone knows their neighbors) to summon help but relieved to hear that the school has finally suspended all three bullies, I’m sure amidst growing pressure from the community. It will be a travesty if these kids don’t get expelled. Hopefully the public will not let this fade away until the PD and Family Court does their job as well.</p>

<p>[Three</a> students suspended for alleged bullying incident, no arrests made yet - YNN, Your News Now](<a href=“http://centralny.ynn.com/content/top_stories/524217/three-students-suspended-for-alleged-bullying-incident--no-arrests-made-yet/]Three”>http://centralny.ynn.com/content/top_stories/524217/three-students-suspended-for-alleged-bullying-incident--no-arrests-made-yet/)</p>