<p>During my tenure on CC so far, I've seen countless threads where someone didn't get something (whether it's admissions to Yale, a scholarship, a fellowhip, etc.), and the first thing they blame is either "the system" or "a less qualified black/Hispanic." I've maybe seen ONE thread where the OP said, "Well, I didn't get it this time, but what do you guys think I can do to improve my chances next time?"</p>
<p>This is lame.</p>
<p>Something is wrong with this generation of young adults if the first thing they think of when they fail is the boogeyman of Affirmative Action or a cruel system hellbent on ruining their lives. Now, maybe I'm a naive idealist, but I believe that when we fail in life, we should blame ourselves first.</p>
<p>You didn't get into "Top 25 school." No, it's not that black girl's fault. If you had been so badass during your high school tenure that you stood out amongst your peers, you'd be there right now. Get over it.</p>
<p>You didn't get that internship. It MUST be because you're Asian or White. Well, other whites and Asians got it, so what did they have that you didn't? Something that you didn't, apparently. Get over it.</p>
<p>The SAT is soooo unfair because you didn't do well on it. Nope, you just didn't do well on it because you didn't do well on it. Get over it.</p>
<p>In the real world, sometimes you don't get what you want. Get over it. Instead of whining like a child and further proving that you're immature, act like an adult and say to yourself, "Next time, how can I be so great that there's no way I'll get turned down?"</p>
<p>But seriously, blame liberalism. Liberalism has created a whole generation of young uns who do not take responsiblity for their own actions. People look for somebody to blame instead of trying to improve themselves. This is what happens when you don't keep score in little league games or never tell your children no. In real life there are winners and losers, everyone is not the same.</p>
<p>During my tenure on CC so far, I've seen countless threads where someone didn't get something (whether it's admissions to Yale, a scholarship, a fellowhip, etc.), and the first thing they blame is either "the system" or "a less qualified black/Hispanic....
This is lame."</p>
<p>I agree. I'm also convinced that the reason that those whiners didn't get the opportunities was their lameness. The people who got the opportunities were the ones who were successful because in the past when they missed out on things, they asked, "What actions can I take to succeed next time?" They didn't sit on their butts blaming others.</p>
<p>I think some of this can be attributed to the failure of the parents, who by overly spoiling their children convince them that they don't need to work to achieve success or get what they want.</p>
<p>I take exception to "this generation of young adults." </p>
<p>Sitting down, pouting and blaming other people for failures or insufficiencies is hardly new, and is hardly restricted to "this generation of young adults."</p>
<p>Do you know what the greatest effect of satire is? Forcing the reader to see some of the satirized in himself.</p>
<p>Northstarmom: "I'm also convinced that the reason that those whiners didn't get the opportunities was their lameness. The people who got the opportunities were the ones who were successful because in the past when they missed out on things, they asked, "What actions can I take to succeed next time?" They didn't sit on their butts blaming others."</p>
<p>Or they just had better means (i.e. parents, other connections) to leverage their desires. Life, after all, is not fair...we do not live in a "perfectly competetive" market to put it in economic terms. There are some better equiped people in our society, and whether a person decides to "take action" or not doesn't always=getting what they want. There are times when people need to just chill, take a moment to roll a joint, and just accept their social positioning, and work from there. I hope this makes sense!</p>
<p>so what?
get over it. There's nothing u can do about it. That's the basis of life. You might not have the same amount of money or social status but if u think that someone's gonna feel sympathy for u, u r wrong. Maybe some sympathy at first but ultimately no one.</p>
<p>imiracle911, if you are responding to me, I think you missed my point. </p>
<p>I was responding to northstarmom's statement that seemed to infer that if you decide to ask yourself, "What actions can I take to succeed next time?" that you will be "people who got the opportunities" </p>
<p>My point was basically that it's not this cut and dry...there are a lot more political, social status, money factors that play into it than just this kind of thinking. That's all. Not that I agree with whining. Whining is lame...but so is somebody who continues to magically think themselves into positions that they actually aren't. Not everyone is in a position to be accepted to Harvard, or other highly competetive schools, and as such they should just accept their social position, and move on with life...do the best they can with the circumstances they've been dealt...which if they live in America, are pretty good if they ever stop to think about it.</p>
<p>After all, you can't be let down if you don't expect the world.</p>
<p>lol "blame liberalism"
Did you even get what the OP was saying??
Way to start off by blaming something else.
BTW Liberals don't usually slam AA.</p>
<p>Yeah, it's also AA's fault we have a society full of obese, anorexic co-dependents! If we didn't let so many Mexicans come into our country, our children wouldn't be fat and friendless.</p>
<p>It's not just yung uns, joev, baby boomers are acting the part as well. "Take the coke machine from my kids' school, damnit, or she's headed for fatness." they cry.</p>
<p>when i blame people for getting this and that, instead of me, i get real competitive. I will say stuff like, "she SO didn't deserve it! i deserve it much better! i'm better than her!!!!" and then 2 min later, i'll be like, "i'm going to get her. i'm going to do SO much better than her next time and I'll knock her out with my success. she's gonna go home and cry and kill herself because of me. yeah take that dumb *****"</p>
<p>Blaming people brings out the fire in me. makes me want to succeed even more. Motivates me a lot. I am quite competitive..</p>
<p>UCLAri
yes I try to figure out why I didn't get this/that. And when I can't think of a possible answer, instead of sulking, i make plans to succeed at the next opportunities.
And when I can think of a possible answer, i just remind myself that this is life. gotta live with it and move on to something else.. such as suceeding in something else.</p>
<p>I don't like sulky im-such-a-loser-and-im-going-to-sulk-for-the-rest-of-my-life-boo-hoo people. And i'm pretty sure i'm not one of those people. Sure I get sad at times but this is life. It's just human nature.</p>