<p>So, I decided on Barnard..Unfortunately I did not get into Columbia (omg, I'm soo stupid, please make fun of me) Haha, sorry, I've read so many stupid threads.</p>
<p>Anyways, I was also accepted to BC, UCLA, NYU, and Wellesley. I know I wouldn't be happy at Wellesley, and BC (from what I've heard) is on par with NYU , and I'd love to go to NYU.</p>
<p>But now, I'm reevaluating UCLA and I really want to go there, but I'm scared to pass up New York City and all the amazing opportunities there (I already have an internship), but I'm from FL so weather is kind of a big deal and I still want to surf.</p>
<p>This sounds so childish but I really don't know what to do. Another thing, is the stigma with Barnard. I want to go to college stigma free, and I can't make this decision. It's literally been a detriment to my health. I had an anxiety attack a few days ago, so please help!</p>
<p>You just have to decide.
This will not be the only time in your life you have to make a big decision that has consequences.</p>
<p>You will choose a major.
You will choose careers.
You will choose jobs.
You will choose a house.
You will choose a spouse.</p>
<p>You’re best off learning to make these big decisions in a remorseless way, evaluating all the relevant info, making the best decision you can, and then just be willing to deal with it, recognizing that you may be wrong.</p>
<p>It’s important, but it’s not the end of your life. You can transfer, if need be.</p>
<p>You evaluate pros and cons of each situation and then you have to choose. Which in no way invalidates any of the pros and cons you recognized. You just have to guess at what may be the best situation for you, in total, all things considered. Evaluating and weighing all the positive and negative aspects. Of which there will be both, in every case.</p>
<p>There is no universal “right” answer here that everyone can tell you, that all people would inevitably choose. It is a personal decision. And you are the person.</p>
<p>It’s tough, but that’s what it’s like out here, sometimes, get used to it.
Wait till you have to make these kinds of decisions with a mortgage and family dangling over your head.</p>
<p>Yeah, i’ve done that a million times. I think I would be the most successful at Barnard but the happiest at NYU or UCLA, if that makes any sense.</p>
<p>There is no such thing as a perfectly mapped out life. Though it might seem that way for some, its really not. All decisions are like the proverbial Y in the road, and you just make a decision and go with it. You close the book on the others, and write them a nice note of thanks. Then go buy the gear for the school you picked and look forwards not backwards. Yes, life is full of decisions and yes, decisions have consequences, many of them unintended or unpredictable. But that is part of the fun. Is it nerve racking? For some yes. Part of growing up.</p>
<p>In my opinion you should go where you think you will thrive the best academically and socially. By the way there is no such thing as a stigma school in my books. Stigmas are for people who let others control their lives. You control your life, to the limited degree anyone can control their life. </p>
<p>Life is often chaotic, full of serendipity and quirky paths. But that is what keeps it so exciting. </p>
<p>Make your decision, get the gear and move on.</p>
<p>This might sound silly, but both NYU and UCLA are good schools. Have you thought about how public transportation is going to affect your life? NYU has access to fabulous public transportation. LA does not. And while UCLA is in a fabulous part of town and both Sunset Boulevard and Wilshire bus routes will take you to the beach in 30 minutes not having a car or access to one is a bit of a hassle. This should not be a deal breaker just a reminder about how life in these two cities that I adore is so different.</p>
<p>I think the “stigma” of Barnard is that they get the Columbia name on their diploma when they graduate even though they didn’t perform “Columbia-level” work, so they essentially “cheat” and aren’t nearly as smart. Or something like that?</p>
<p>There are departments at Barnard that are better than Columbia’s, and departments at Barnard where Columbia students come to take classes, 'cause they don’t have them.</p>
<p>If you’re concerned about weather and still want to surf, and that’s very very important to you then New York City might not be for you. There are days when it hits -10 (with wind) and everyone still goes about their day, and there is absolutely no oppurtunity for surfing. If you’re used to surfing in the Atlantic, going to the Pacific will probably be amazing for you.</p>
<p>I don’t know much about life in LA, but I do know you really need a car to get around. In New York a car can be almost a burden.</p>
<p>It also depends on what you want to study, but I don’t know very much about either school.</p>
<p>If you’re willing to enroll at Barnard, I would recommend Wellesley instead. You have the resources of Harvard and MIT, and you have Boston to top it off. Superior education and an unparalleled alumnae network? Cool beans.</p>
<p>Yeah, I’ve realized UCLA is out of the picture, I just had an immature moment. And, I would never be happy at Wellesley, it’s too far removed from Boston and too much of a traditional womens college.The education isn’t even superior there, USNWR is so stilted.</p>
<p>I’m pretty much now between Barnard and NYU. I love NYU’s location and social environment, but I think Barnard will be better academically. I know I’ll be happy at Barnard I just have to get over a few things.</p>
<p>HAHA this last post made me laugh. I would have gone to UCLA or Wellesley all finances being equal. I would be curious to know what the offers were like.</p>
<p>I love NYC and I feel like the opportunities there would be unmatched. I already have an internship with CBS news for next year. Plus, UCLA would mainly be california residents.</p>
<p>Would it be crazy to choose NYU over Barnard?</p>
<p>To answer your second question-NO it would not be “crazy” to choose NYU over Barnard, but taking classes at Columbia would make me choose Barnard.</p>
<p>As for UCLA, it is mostly CA residents, but there are people from all over the world at UCLA. It is also the best school on your list academically, IMO. There are ample opportunities for doing a variety of things depending on your interests. NOW you will need a car (downside). BUT if CBS news really wants you to intern with them, then you can intern with CBS news here in LA. You might want to look into that. </p>
<p>Overally, I just think UCLA is the strong institution of the choices you have.</p>