Campus activities on weekends?

[alcook4u]

<p>ahduke99 - I do believe you need to grow up a bit and stop looking at everything around you negatively. I do not care where you go to college there will always be people with different view points. You need to embrace the people around UNC with different view points, you might just learn something. I do not know what kind of atmosphere you are wanting to hang out in, but you may need to bend a little and mature so you can open up to different people. I do not mean you need to drink. You need to be more open minded and quit hoping to find other people just like you. There are a lot of interesting people at UNC, but they will not come knocking on your door. You have to get out there and be positive. My daughter meets someone new everyday, she may not remember their name the next day though. If you meet someone in class, write their name down and become facebook friends - get to know them. You're smart-you will figure it out. You need to become a true tarheel fan-you don't have to like who your family likes. This will give you something to talk to them about when their team loses to Carolina. I have confidence you will be wearing Carolina blue everyday pretty soon. Good Luck!</p>

<p>If anyone is a member of the UNC student alumni association, I believe next weekend 9/22 they are going on a rafting trip to Charlotte for just $50. That seems like a great deal and a lot of fun. That will give you something to do next Saturday-that will be one day taken care of next weekend. Some may say I do not go rafting-step out of your comfort zone and try it.</p>

[annn]

<p>Just wanted to add my 2 cents.</p>

<p>For all potential UNC oos students, DO NOT, i repeat, DO NOT LISTEN TO AHDUKE!!!! Honestly, CC has been the only place I've heard of an OOS student having a hard time fitting in here at carolina. Every OOS student I've met is having the time of their lives, me included. Everyone, and I do mean EVERYONE, is open to meeting people and yes, people still do hang out with their HS friends, but they're also open to hanging out with new friends they've made. Even though I did recently rush and am now in a sorority, most of my friends I've met have been through striking up random conversations. I am now very good friends with my suitemates, who were are all good friends from HS, and also with some guys on my floor and my best memories here so far have been just hanging out with them. I live in the great hinton james and there has been no problem with out of state kids and in state kids mixing and hanging out. I am just completely shocked at how much you hate Carolina... I really think you have a certain mindset and nothing will change unless you change it :)</p>

[ahduke99]

<p>ok, you're right annn. everyone i've met is really open minded and i've see them all the time. do you think i'm a baby? everyone has their own experience. some people love carolina, in fact, most do i'm sure. i have a frend at cornell who loves it and another who hates it and is transferring after this semester. you may have had great luck meeting people and maybe they love you, but that doesn't mean it's been the same for everyone. i probably screwed up chosing to live in granville where most of my floor doesnt socialize. hell, 1/2 my floor are upper classmen. </p>

<p>i did say i was good pals with my suit mates and roommate, but we would've been if it wasnt for the fact we share bathrooms together. please show me these really open people .. i'd love to meet them! because so far i've had the exact opposite experience .. and dont tell me i havent tried hard enough. i strike up conversations and maybe i get a chuckle or two. then they walk off and i never see them again. </p>

<p>i'm thrilled you are loving carolina, ann, i really am. i cant tell you how happy i am for you! but unfortunately, i cant stand this place. again, it may be all about my living situation, but i cant meet anyone in a class of 400 and when i go find others to "hang out" with, it usually involves getting trashed and then stumbling back to their rooms. if there is this whole secret underground scene at carolina that doesnt involve that, please show me. </p>

<p>to be honest, being a girl helps when you are OOS. for one, girls tend to get along easier and make friends quickly. they call each other on the phone months before they end up in college. i would know, i have a sister that does this. you may have a great personality and become friends with the first person you see. that's great, but that doesnt mean everyone is like you. i can name you 5 OOS that i know not on this forum that are about as miserable as i am. two of them come from charleston .. maybe its a charleston thing .. i dunno. </p>

<p>i do know that girls are having an easier time. you can get into parties etc... if you are a guy, good luck. </p>

<p>but i'd love to find this group of kids that ALL OF THEM ARE OPEN TO MEETING NEW PEOPLE!!!! because my roommate and i would love to see this spectacle! i've spoken to many that have flat out ignored me! if you're a girl and half way attractive, i am sure you'll have no problem making friends. no offense, but that's just the way life is. i am being honest with you, not trying to be offensive. but good luck here. i'm glad everything is hunky dory in hinton james. maybe i should venture overthere to meet these open minded folk, cause E House doesnt have many--i spent my time there watching them drink and talk about their high school days.</p>

<p>alcook: i understand the concept of being open minded, and i'm not looking for someone just like me. did you read my previous post? some of my best friends are indians from new york city and i have liberal friends that i love to argue with .. yes many are conservatives too, but i dont just have one type of friend and that's it. i would appreciate it if people would stop assuming i cant be friends with anyone but someone like me--this has been mentioned before. i dont understand how you think i will be great friends with people the complete opposite of me, though. what would be do together? most people are friends with others with common interests in some areas. but hey, everything else is different here, so i guess i follow your logic.</p>

[Atlmom]

<p>Jack: "I mainly asked what Atlanta offered a teenager that Chapel Hill didn't. So now I know . . ."</p>

<p>Obviously I ignored your question as irrelevant to the thread but you again missed the point....If you want a list for your next visit you can start at accessatlanta.com for events but again, not the point of the thread...I simply said what I personally would want...baseball closer that certainly is not what a 18-22 year old would want as they probably are more into the music scene than I. AND i did specifically say that UNC's outstanding athletics sure were exciting to watch. If I was there, I would be at every event....basketball, baseball, lacrosse, soccer, field hockey...not sure about crew...hard to watch.</p>

<p>Back to Chapel Hill and what to do:
There is plenty to do and plenty of people to do it with...it is more about finding a group to do things with. If you are with a group of people you enjoy even the simplest things like watching t.v. together, cooking dinner or playing frisbee on the lawn are fun.... I personally wish the university did more than they do to help more oss along....they recruit them, act personally interested but once here they are pretty much on their own. They do a lot more to bring transfer students (instate or out of state) along by hosting many events for them. There is an ossa group which could do a lot more but .... my suggestion to any having problems connecting start a facebook group invite everyone in the unc network and plan some events....then see who shows up. LIke the post above said, she has a group that plays capture the flag on Fridays....sounds like fun to me. That may not sound fun to you ....but you can always plan your own event. Facebook network is a way to get the word out to a lot of students quickly. There are a lot of people just like you looking to connect with others that share their interests.</p>

<p>AHDUKE, pledge...you have a good group waiting for you. Drop the class, pledge and life will improve dramatically... You probably have lots of AP credit so worry not about the hours so much (dont' drop below 12). Also, it never hurts to ask if you can move from Granville...and negotiate with them about a cancellation fee....there are still places on campus. I am certain they would rather have you out than spreading negative views about their apts...which in the long run could hurt them much more than one tenant being released from his lease.</p>

[annn]

<p>I'm really sorry you feel that way ahduke but I must agree that you're right- being a girl does make it easier. If I meet someone who I think I clicked pretty well with, I will always make sure to do a number swap and see if they want to do lunch or dinner or even just hang out sometime. I can imagine that would be awkward to do with a guy but maybe you should try that sometime? I sent you a PM btw :)</p>

[Futureholds]

<p>Ahduke. My hardest weekends early on in Freshman year were non football weekends when some of my friends went home. It is actually the best time to get homework done that requires more concentration or get your laundry done when there are free driers. However, I would suggest you try some new things if you can not start DU with this pledge class.<br>
1. Even if you are not religious I suggest you check out some of the campus church groups. I was not overly religious but found the people at the Newman center friendly and fun. Granted I mostly saw them on Sunday but they also had special parties and gatherings that were fun. I also got to know several of my TAs and professors well at the Newman Center.
2. Check out the Carolina Forum. They bring speakers to campus. I joined as a freshman (everyone else was upper classman), and got to help host top name speakers who came to campus. We met periodically at the student union and it was a completely different set of friends.
3. In high school, I had never played soccer or lacrosse since I played football, swam and wrestled. In the club sports/intramural league, I had a chance to play soccer and lacrosse even though I knew nothing about them. I also used to go swim laps at the outdoor pool and would run in to the same people there.
4. .There used to be an outdoor adventure type club where you would go for hikes together, camp, skydive (I passed on that one), and rockclimb.
5. Drop by St Anthony Hall and see what is happening over there (across from the Carolina Inn).
6. There ususally is a Fall festival in October on Franklin avenue. I think it is run by the parks and rec people. You can find out about when it is occuring and volunteer to help out at it.
7. I would seriously im the other students who have written in suggestions with offers of hanging out. You would have nothing to loose to play capture the flag even once, go out for pizza,dance, dance, revolution, go bowling etc.
8. do they still have rock and bowl?
9. I am not sure of your major but I was in zoology. You can go to the main building of a major that interests you and read the bulletin boards. The upper classman and grad students frequently advertise great lectures in their fields, social events, offers for research projects or pay for human guinea pigs, etc. I took classes in many fields that weren't my major and would also find interesting things on their bulletin boards like a folklore festival, campus plays, music concerts.
10 Go work out at the gym. Even if you don't want to get in shape you can scope out some possible dates, find a workout partner, or someone to go get coffee with.
11. If you like to meet people from other countries, there is usually always some great non alcohol pot luck parties at the international dorm. They frequently have ongoing special interests groups like Tai Chi, Tae Kwan Do, etc.</p>