Can a girl and a guy be best friends?! w/o a relationship?

<p>if the 2 don't want to **** each other (usually the guy wanting to **** the girl), then sure they could be friends. now it gets to the tricky part where if your girl friend walked into the room and said bang me in 7 different positions, would you turn her down or do it. if you do it then obviously you 2 could never survive a friendly relationship.</p>

<p>There's no link between maturity and not wanting to bang your friend. If anything, it takes a lot more maturity to have sex with someone and still remain friends afterwards.</p>

<p>jags, you must have been reading ladder theory :)</p>

<p>if you have sex with someone and are still friends afterwards wouldn't that make em like a sex buddy or something if they continue to do the same thing?</p>

<p>No. A sex buddy is someone you know and hang out with ONLY for sex. When you call them up, it's explicitly agreed upon by both parties that you're only going to have sex. This is an awesome setup that I have yet to find.</p>

<p>What I'm talking about is a friend you honestly enjoy being around and talking to but know that a relationship with ruin that so you just have sex with each other occasionally and are able to handle any sort of ackwardness that may or may not come with it afterwards. From personal experience, this is also a really good setup if both parties are really mature about it.</p>

<p>As long as they have sex they can be. Relationship isn't necessary.</p>

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<p>lmfao</p>

<p>so true</p>

<p>Yes, a girl and a guy can be best friends. My best friend is a guy. Would I ever want to have any other type of relationship with him besides friendship?Absolutely not.</p>

<p>I ended up having sex with all my girl friends. Not the new ones... not yet. It does take some time, but when the situation comes, you just do it. It's no big deal anyway. Do you ask gay guys whether they can be friends with men without being attracted to them? The same goes for lesbians. This subject is quite pointless.
What are u going to talk about with a girl? How glossy the new lipsticks or how absorbant the "Always"? What common interests do you have? Studies? Well that sucks. Will she argue with you over how nice a girl's buttocks or breasts are? Is she going to "go get girls" with you? Can she compete with you on how many girls you can get? Unless she's lesbian. Is she crazy into sports? Can she compete at your level on a basketball court or on a field? Can she help you out during a fight? And the list goes on.
Of course you can be friends with girls. However, though I cannot speak for every man, let me tell you that the friendship wil never be as deep as the one you could have with a guy. My bestfriends have all been guys, and I am afraid it's going to be that way.</p>

<p>you mean to tell me you've had sex with all your female friends? i'm curious to know what it was like afterwards. were you still friends with them?</p>

<p>Oh yes. With some of them. The friendship stops when they think that now you're in a relationship. And that's bad. But there's nothing akward. We still talk.</p>

<p>So I'm curious how you actually get to that moment where both of you just say alright lets have sex. I mean assuming you are friends with the girl and just friends how does something like that even come up? i always thought that once a girl considered you a friend that it was over, move on to another girl. so how long were you friends with them before ya both hooked up? and who iniates action?</p>

<p>No it pretty much is over. Finding a girl friend that's mature enough to realize when sex is just sex and when it's lovemaking is hard to do. I find that it increases with age. </p>

<p>As for the iniation, it varies.</p>

<p>yeah those set-ups are incredibly hard to find...but you can come close at parties if you know who to go after. of course, u forget about them the next day so it's nothing long-term</p>

<p>I love talking to guys (just talking) because they give importance to things differently. Anw, I refuse to have the door closed or be far away from public sight. Talking to guys is always cool and my best friend is a guy too. (besides the fact that he got crazy over ppl thinking that we have a relationship so we become further apart but we're still friends.)</p>

<p>from personal experience.. guys suck at this.</p>

<p>"So I'm curious how you actually get to that moment where both of you just say alright lets have sex. I mean assuming you are friends with the girl and just friends how does something like that even come up?"</p>

<p>Um...it doesn't come up verbally, it just progresses there after hooking up, like sex with any other person.</p>

<p>most of the time, i don't think it's possible for a guy and a girl to be BEST friends. at least i doesn't seem possible for me to have a guy best friend.
one of my mom's best friends is a guy but it's questionable whether he's gay or not (he's lived with a woman for like 20 yrs or soemthing but theyre not married or anything)</p>

<p>i think generally it's only possible for a guy and a girl to be really good friends if neither of them are attracted to each other. i've tried to be close friends with guys but they always end up wanting to hook up and i dont and then it's awkward and they don't want to just be friends, they want to hook up/go out/whatever.
it's a bit easier if they're going out with one of my friends or something, but then if they have a bad breakup i can't really be friends with them any more so that sucks</p>

<p>if you live with a woman for 20 years, you aint gay</p>

<p>and one of my best friends is a guy, and I got to know him because he dates my closest female friend. there isn't a danger of falling for him, considering i know him through his girlfriend, and it's convenient for both of them, if they need help with each other i'm there. if they break up, i'll still have 2 great friends.</p>

<p>umm yeah you don't know their situation at all. they might as well be roommates. it's not like they're in a relationship. he actually wants her to move out and live in one of their other condos but she's not having it (she doesnt work, he supports her financially and will continue to if she moves out)</p>