<p>and where do bi people come into this?</p>
<p>I had a friend and roommate who was gay when I did a summer program. As long as they arent flamboyant or hitting on me, I dont care.</p>
<p>of course they are. It depends on the type of person you dorm with. If its a liberal who is very open to people then ull be fine as long as u dont try to hit on them. If you end up with someone who is very religious, u may have some problems.</p>
<p>I'm a lesbian and most of my friends are straight females. </p>
<p>Whatever your sexual orientation, you are friends first and foremost with people you find interesting and fun. Because sex isn't necessarily a motive for friendship, sexual orientation doesn't have a monopoly on who you like to hang out with.</p>
<p>That said, it appears somewhat rarer for straight guys to have platonic relationships with females than for straight females to have platonic relationships with men...so I can see why some guys might not quite grasp the concept of a platonic relationship with a gay male, either.</p>
<p>yeah my two friends are best friends and one girl is bi/but mostly lesbian she claims. They are still really good friends.</p>
<p>I go to school at Darmouth and have several gay and lesbian friends. I even have a friend who is openly transgender. There are several open lesbians in my sorority. One of my best friends (a girl) is dating a guy who mostly hangs out with gay guys. </p>
<p>I don't judge people based on their sexual orientation, identity, expression, etc.</p>
<p>Also we are just finishing up our first PRIDE week! Yay!!</p>
<p>well i personally prefer to have diverse friends, it makes things more interesting. </p>
<p>i'm a lesbian, and my best friend is a straight girl. i also have platonic relationships w/ other lesbians (and non-platonic lol ;-) ), and i have gay male friends, and lots of straight male friends (they're great, so easy to be around, dont have to impress anyone, less drama), and trans friends, and i have friends who much older than me, and younger than me, and different ethnicities, and religions, and i love it. friendship is great.</p>
<p>(oh btw...yea i guess i sound like a hippy...berkeley born and raised whatcha gon do)</p>
<p>One of my pledge brothers in my fraternity is gay. One of my little brother's (biological brother) roommates/pledge brother is gay. It's really not that big of deal.</p>
<p>My circle of friends consist mostly of girls (straight or otherwise) and gay guys. This is because when I was going through the coming out process (which I had to repeat in the transition to college) and advocating for an LGBT-related cause (I'm part of a human rights organization and had a duty to establish a chapter at the university), I needed supporters, which were easiest to find in the groups I mentioned. Because I've known these people since the beginning of the year, I've developed my strongest friendships with them. However, I'm past the stage where I feel like I could be close friends only with girls and gay guys. Most of the time, though, I'm not the one doing the avoiding, and I don't blame the other party because when we do converse, the conversations do not flow well, especially if social topics are involved. I do have a straight guy friend I click with because we could discuss certain things forever. In this (exceptional) case, I actually feel closer to the straight guy than the gay one, only because I like the gay friend, so I'm still kinda nervous around him. And because I spend a lot of time with the straight guy friend, he has unintentionally masculinized* me (strange because I've spent a lot more time this year around girls and other gay guys... maybe my brain just welcomed his influence or that I actually became more masculine on my own?). I didn't force myself to change.. I just did. The dynamic between the three of us is kinda weird because I think my gay friend likes my straight friend, so I can't help being envious of the straight one sometimes. There's some tension there but nothing overt (I'm not the kind who would strain a friendship over this, especially since I have no reason to envy the straight guy in the first place). The weird thing is that the more masculine I became, the more my gay friend liked me (I was neither masculine nor feminine before), so in a way, the influence the straight guy has had on me helped me attract the gay guy. Even weirder, the gay guy is bringing in another straight guy to room with us next year (to be honest, I don't know if the straight guy knows he will be rooming with 2 gay guys).</p>
<p>I would say that as gay guys first come into terms with their sexual identity, they gravitate towards girls and other gay guys, but once they're confident with it, they would have less difficulty pursuing friendships with straight guys. However, this pursuit does not mean their friendships with straight guys will necessarily be as strong (on this note, I will disagree with the people who say that sexual orientation has little influence on one's interests and identity, both of which influence the type of people they would form the strongest friendships with). It really depends on the people. I would say that the more intellectual the gay guy and the straight guy are, the more compatible they potentially are.</p>
<p>*Social scientists would probably agree that straight guys are more "masculine" than gay guys overall, overtly or otherwise, although exceptions exist.</p>
<p>what if we turn this question around?</p>
<p>Can straight guys and straight girls be friends?</p>
<p>... see how stupid that sounds?</p>
<p>No gay friends here.</p>
<p>There are 4 gay bros in my frat of just under 50.</p>
<p>0 in my frat. 0 nationwide as well, unless one or two slipped in secretly.</p>
<p>^ l0l??</p>
<p>Which is that? There a question about it on your rush exam?</p>
<p>it's fine... as long as they don't start hitting on you --> then you tell them that you aren't comfortable with that and if they really are your friends then they will stop :)</p>
<p>there's plenty laserprecision, they're just hiding it.</p>
<p>laser is in denial l0l</p>
<p>No I'm not in denial...unless they're hiding it. It's just a no-bid characteristic. It's not like the huge greek orgs where over 50% of rushees get bids.</p>
<p>Absolutely. I have several lesbian friends and I'm straight- they don't hit on me just because they really value my friendship with them and either one of us want to mess it up.</p>
<p>As for straight guys with straight girls... oh, I don't know... it's tough here where I am studying abroad.... LOL</p>
<p>^ I think straight-straight friendship are quite possible....</p>