<p>"There's no link between maturity and not wanting to bang your friend. If anything, it takes a lot more maturity to have sex with someone and still remain friends afterwards."</p>
<p>No actually there is a link. The same maturity is required for the situation you mention. I think it is interesting how most males are posting that is not possible and most females are posting that it is. I know for a fact that it is possible as most of my friends are guys and I have never slept with any of them. My best friend of course is a guy. As to the poster that wondered what else girls and guys have in common besides sex...you will learn as you grow up. Also if you don't know how to communicate with the opposite sex, good luck having any kind of real relationship with them at all. I feel like I am wasting my words because these are things you only learn as you gain more maturity. Some people never learn...</p>
<p>One of my best friends is a guy. He and I aren't physically attracted to one another but neither one of us is unattractive. He's more like my big brother. When my grandpa died, he was at my house comforting me before my then boyfriend could even get there. He's good for a date for a dance when I just want to have fun, and he's a great shoulder to cry on and to just hang out and watch a movie with, or go play catch with.</p>
<p>"casual sex doesn't exactly scream maturity."</p>
<p>Says who? </p>
<p>"I think it is interesting how most males are posting that is not possible and most females are posting that it is."</p>
<p>It is possible but if you think you guy friend doesn't regularly have fantasies of just wild hot sex with you than your kidding yourself. The fundamental difference between most men and most women is that most women do not believe you can be friends and have sex while most men can. I'd usually say all but I've met some softies.</p>
<p>I keep my distance from my female friends to avoid developing feelings or sending wrong messages. Although I can be friends with girls, I can never be close friends with girls. I actually, I can't be close friends with anybody; that's just the way I am.</p>
<p>My best friends are mostly guys and i'm not attracted to them, they aren't attracted to me. I think that it's possible in hetero relationships as well. Yes, it's about overall maturity. you can't control who you are attracted to, but you can control who it is that you want to/ or try to bang. Self-control. </p>
<p>Katho- I resent that comment, but for the "most part," you may very well be right. but for every 3 males that are immature about sex, 2 females are just as immature. Its not just the guys.</p>
<p>Robert, I definitely agree that a lot of girls are just as bad, but younger guys (teens/early 20s) really are a lot more immature about it in general. That's just my opinion, though.</p>
<p>I have two fairly close guy friends (and one female friend who's a lesbian) and I've never found it a problem at all. Granted, the one guy lives on another continent so that might not really count, but I don't have any problems with finding things that we have in common to talk about and build a friendship on...if you think guys only talk about football and girls and girls only talk about hair and nail polish, you need to find some more well-rounded people to be around.</p>
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<p>What about finding a guy that understands there's a fundamental difference between males and females that means it's almost never "just sex" for a woman?</p>