<p>I think it's possible for a guy and a girl to be good friends, maybe even best friends, but there's always going to be some tension there (if they're both straight) that wouldn't be if they were both of the same gender. I've been close friends (not best, I have to say) with guys before, but one of them is a childhood friend, so you end up being more like siblings or relatives (and we're not really close anymore), two of them I ended up being attracted to and/or were attracted to me, one of them I'm currently dating, and the last one is still just a friend. I don't think he'll be ever more than just a platonic friend to me, and I'm pretty sure he feels the same, though he's not the type of guy who would show it even if he didn't. On the other hand, I said the same thing about the guy that I'm currently dating...so.... Basically, I have a lot of casual guy friends, but the close ones usually turn out to be more than friends, or at least there's an underlying awkwardness.</p>
<p>I do think it's important to have friends of the other sex though, just to get a different point of view on things. I find my guy friends in general take less energy to hang out with, I'm more relaxed and outgoing around them, when you just want to talk about things that are not emotionally/personally related they make better listeners (plus, they tend to be, in my opinion, less judgemental), and they're easier to joke around/goof off with. However, for more personal/emotionally related things, I still find my girl friends better for those kind of things.</p>
<p>^ Could you give some examples? What do you talk about? Hairdresses? Makeups? You watch Tyra together? As I said before, everybody isn't alike. But there's one thing I am sure of: A TRUE VIRIL MAN CANNOT HAVE A GIRL AS BEST FRIEND. Guys who have girls as "best friends" are pussies. Period.</p>
<p>Believe it or not, there are girls, who even with their best girl friends, do not spend all their time talking about girly things such as make-up, clothes, etc.</p>
<p>Hmmm.. I know a girl who has a very close guy friend. They are basically like brothers and sisters though so i don't know... HOWEVER she has gone out with her other close guy friend for like 2 years so who knows what might happen.</p>
<p>I think it might be easier if they ALREADY went out with each other and got over each other and isn't interested...?</p>
<p>Some of my closest friends are boys who have girlfriends who aren't me, so I assume that's fairly safe. Only one or two of my single guy friends has asked me out. I went on a couple of dates with them, but I told them I wasn't interested in a relationship with them, and we are still good friends.</p>
<p>The guys I'm friends with wouldn't just start trying to hook up with me, they would ask me out first, and if I said no, they would respect that.</p>
<p>I think that its possible. I won't give a large overdrawn response, but if two people, (hetero boy and girl) can come to a compromise that neither is attracted to the other and they just like each others company then its possible. That simple.
It doesn't mean that the guy is a "pussies[y]." It just means that that guy knows how to control his hormones- something not often found in teens today. </p>
<p>BTW It takes maturity to recognize maturity.</p>
<p>I have tons of guy friends and I've hooked up with almost all of them, mostly just making out and it hasn't made anything akward. For the most part it was just a drunken thing, but I have also dated several of them and we are still friends and some of them I'm friends with their current girlfriends. I also have a very close guy friend (my ex) and we hang out all the time and talk but we also still hook up (friend with benefits, but we don't have that name outloud, lol), we just realized the whole dating thing didn't work out. I think that guys and girls can not have a strictly platonic relationship, there is always those feelings at one point in the relationship. And when all of your friends drink like whoa it makes it even worse. But they can be friedns and hook up without things getting weird.</p>
<p>
[quote]
^ Could you give some examples? What do you talk about? Hairdresses? Makeups? You watch Tyra together? As I said before, everybody isn't alike. But there's one thing I am sure of: A TRUE VIRIL MAN CANNOT HAVE A GIRL AS BEST FRIEND. Guys who have girls as "best friends" are pussies. Period.
[/quote]
</p>
<p>If you think guys only talk about football and girls and girls only talk about hair and nail polish, you need to find some more well-rounded people to be around. But I repeat myself. Your conversations must be really dull.</p>
<p>Had a conversation with my guy friend last night concerning the internet, computers, music, congressmen, and pennies, incidentally. Maybe next time I talk to him we will talk about what it takes to be a "real man", and what multitude of awful horrors would unfold if it was discovered that he is not in fact a real man. His wife would probably leave him, for starters.</p>
<p>there's a lot of things you can talk about. who said girls can't talk about football with guys or guys avoid the topic of makeup with girls? i'm sure a lot of guys wouldn't mind getting a girl's perspective on things and vice.</p>
<p>I'm telling you girls right now, no matter how "mature" you think your close guy friend his with you or how sensitive and sweet he is, there is a 95% chance that he thinks about giving it to you in the dirtiest possible way on a regular basis.</p>
<p>I totally agree with ICrisis on that one. It seems that during the second semester of Senior year A LOT of guys tell their female friends at least half of what they've been thinking over the years...eh. </p>
<p>I guess they feel like it's their last desperate attempt...and since most people don't stay in touch after high school there's not as much to lose at that point.</p>
<p>please katho, they just move in for the grope. at least the slick ones!</p>
<p>unfortunately guys that hang out with girls that they may not find attractive cause they aint easy on the eyes may eventually see more than looks and fall for them. so even in those situations, no one is safe.</p>