<p>just be open about it. my best friends are very open about the fact that they'd like to bang me given the chance. don't create a situation and there won't be a situation.</p>
<p>^HAHAHAHAHA, wow. That's honesty for you. I'm not sure if many guys would fess up to such thoughts. :eek:</p>
<p>lol </p>
<p>My guy friends and I had/have the same understanding...six of them reminded me frequently "just in case" for the past couple of years...idiots.</p>
<p>I've had a thing for one of them for years...but his parents freak when he even thinks of dating a girl that doesn't go to their church. Neither of us wanted to put up with that mess, so yeah.</p>
<p>Most guys would want to bang most girls, unless the girl is really really ugly and fat.</p>
<p>why does it matter about looks and the body type? peaopl can be firends with who they want to be without the looks comming into the friendship</p>
<p>^^^^true, but optimistic^^^^</p>
<p>This is an incredibly amusing thread...</p>
<p>why is it amusing lol</p>
<p>because it assumes that people on CC actually have friends, let alone friends of the opposite sex</p>
<p>I think that once you cross the line with the guy like hooking up,making out, and etc. you can't be friends again unless you want to create a more awkard situation. I think it's more beneficial to try to be friends with the guy than hooking up because you can probably learn alot from him! Like naturem the guy tends to fall for the girl in the long run esp. if the girl is his friend and very attractive. As the girl if you keep saying to developing a relationship it comes across as playing hard to get making the guy want you even more. In the long run, I think friendships are more beneficial because love fades away after a while and with friendships you can still rekindle the fire if it fades away. That's just my two cents though ;D.</p>
<p>i see what your saying and it true</p>
<p>My absolute best friend is a guy, and I used to think it was totally platonic, but recently he's been getting jealous when I hang out with other guys, (when he never used to really), telling me all their bad qualities and why I shouldn't be interested in any of them. And he's been getting really awkward and silent at parties where he knows I've hooked up with someone or that I like someone else who's there. </p>
<p>It's funny because I always thought we were the standard for the totally platonic girl/guy friendship, and it's true we've never really done anything (as it'd be like borderline incest in my opinion), but I think a relationship like ours (was) can only be a temporary thing, and it'll generally be the guy to screw it up.</p>
<p>"and it'll generally be the guy to screw it up."</p>
<p>True in so many aspects of life... </p>
<p>;)</p>
<p>To the OP...sure, if he's homosexual.</p>
<p>It doesn't work otherwise! A straight guy will eventually end up wanting more.</p>
<p>okay i talk about everything with my best friend <em>whos a guy</em> but i asked him if he wants to do anything sexual with me and he says sometiems so yeah i think you can honestly have a realtionship where sometiems the straight guy will want to do stuff cuz hes a guy duhhhh and you can talk about it saying i can ruin our friend ship aka thats what we talk about and it works out it sorta easy tohavea realtionship with aguy if you jsut talk about things and stuff duh</p>
<p>I have a lot of female friends and I actually prefer hanging out with them because they're more understanding and more willing to have a nice chat than the guys who aren't into all that.</p>
<p>I spent an hour and a half just chatting with one of my female friends. I think it's great that we weren't a couple or anything because we could just talk about anything with no pressure or whatnot.</p>
<p>haha the only time ive seen this idea truly work was this weird matrix with my high school friends where girl 1 was dating guy 1 and girl 2 was dating guy 2, and then girl 1 was best friends with guy 2 and girl 2 was best friends with guy 1. hahahaha it sounds so confusing. but i guess you could say both relationships were serious enough that each person's significant other was their best friend too.</p>
<p>Hmmm, I must disagree with all those saying it isn't possible for a guy and girl to be in a relationship. It almost all depends on what type of guy he truly is. Some guys, sure, they only want will look for the play and that is it.</p>
<p>But what about the guys who are already in a relationship? What about the guys who are only interested in just one person? Part of this thread I believe stems off from that ladder theory that someone posted up, but the fact is.. thats only working for the guys that want to bang every girl they find attractive. When I was in a relationship, and even when I wasn't, some of my best friends were girls. Girls that, sure, I found attractive, but wouldnt a) want to do anything with while dating someone else and b) want to do anything else while my mind was set with trying to date someone else.</p>
<p>Maybe the concept of crushes and trying to date one particular girl that a guy finds special is beginning to become old fashion, but its certainly there. But yah, back to my point, it all depends on who the guy is, but guy/girl friendships definately do happen. :)</p>
<p>my best friend is a guy.. and we've been best friends for awhile now.. i have a boyfriend and he doesn't have a girlfriend and there's no sexual tension between us or anything like that and it's very platonic. we're almost like brother and sister. i hang out with him and his brothers and his other guy friends all the time almost like i'm one of the guys. i especially like that they let me play football with them. :)</p>
<p>I definately agree with Tooya. Ladder theory is only partially true. Ladder theory assumes that every guy out there is looking for only hook ups. While that "seems" to be the case, many guys actually find sluttiness a turnoff. So the theory that the easier to hook up with a girl the more attractive is not always true. I personally can think of a few real life examples of this.</p>
<p>Still I think it is quite rare for a girl and guy to be best friends with no strings attached. I think the most likely way is when they met when they were real young. At a later age, its much harder since attraction is one reason that a lot of guys not all guys approach girls.</p>