<p>My daughter is head over heels in love with her bf. He claims they can make it work. So far so good. But I can't help but think someone is going to get hurt. Most likely my daughter. After all, he is the one away at college while she is still in high school. She is a senior and trusts him completly. My question is can a guy be faithful while being away at school?</p>
<p>Depends on the guy. Depends on how he sees her. Does he feel the same way about her? If he really did then it wouldn't be an issue.</p>
<p>Yea, as long as he feels that way about her...</p>
<p>It's not that tough for most guys to keep it in their pants if they are mature.</p>
<p>He tells her he loves her, nothing will get between them etc. He calls alot and comes home for more weekends than I thought he would. But the bottom line is he is away where she really will not know if something happens and she is here where he knows everyone. Everyone thinks when you are away at college it is a time to get to know people and opportunities to hookup are everywhere. He seems to be mature and straightforward but the mother in me is bracing for something happening.</p>
<p>Can????? It is possible if that is what you are asking. In the end it is her decision....I mean if she is a senior she should be able to handle most relationship issues. Actually I would never discuss such intimate relationship details with my parents. She is going to college herself soon and will have to make some decisions....I'd say just let her deal with it as it is her problem. She'll probably meet lots of new people at college next year if things do "go south" as some people like to say, so hopefully in that case she wouldn't fall into a deep depression or anything.</p>
<p>There really isn't anything you can do about it, so I would attempt to stop worrying about something that is uncontrollable on your part. I'm in a relationship with a girl that goes to a different college about 2 and a half hours away and neither of us has a car so we don't get to see each other very much. I'm quite confident that both of us will stay true to the other. It really is not hard to stay faithful if you truly care about the person you're involved with.</p>
<p>I am a worry wart.</p>
<p>I posted a rather long reply, but it got eaten by the damn login system.
Here's the main points:</p>
<p>Interesting. I'm in the same situation you describe - a Freshman in College with a girlfriend of over a year, who's a senior in high school. Her parents don't know about us, and would act to end our relationship immediately if they ever found out. White male, Asian female, we've all heard the story. </p>
<p>I spent a long time agonizing over my decision about where to go to school - and eventually chose the closest, cheapest school over larger, better ranked universities because, in part, of her. I have no intentions of cheating - atlhough this is college, and there have been opportunities. I have also seen almost every single other relationship (at least among the men) dissolve within these first 3 months. </p>
<p>We both have all A's, and work steady jobs. We find time to see eachother as often as possible, and I would never make the decision to throw everything I have with the girl I love away because of someone at school. </p>
<p>That said, it depends on the individuals. Most people, if I may, are neither as dedicated or mature to be able to handle that kind of relationship for any period of time. I plan to buck the statistics, but most don't. </p>
<p>Hopefully your daughter and her boyfriend can work things out amongst themselves - but however it turns out, it's their relationship, not your own. You can't protect her from eventualities - you can only offer your support and perhaps sympathy should it end. In a way, I suppose my situation lends itself toward promoting fidelity - we're both together because we work hard at it - there's no easy way out, and won't be until she heads off to school next fall. </p>
<p>Whatever happens, good luck to them.</p>
<p>Can he? Yes.
Will he? Probably not.</p>
<p>Look, he'll probably cheat at some point. He may or may not tell her, and she may or may not find out. That doesn't mean it can't work out. In the end though, relationships cause pain. If she's never been hurt before, she will be at some point. Everyone is. Support the relationship as well as you can, but in the end support your daughter. That's all you can and should do.</p>
<p>No absolutely not. (Honestly, this question is way too general, completely a situational sort of thing)</p>
<p>It's very easy and rewarding. 400 miles hasn't stopped my love.</p>
<p>How's her bf look like? if he's one of those unattractive, lame, nerdy guy then he would probably stay faithful to her since there isnt any option for him.</p>
<p>but if he used to be popular in high school, or good looking, or athletic, social, he is going to cheat for sure, one drunken party is enough to loosen his pants.:)</p>
<p>They all can, but most of them don't want to. That's the long and short of it.</p>
<p>I am a sophomore in college, and several of my sophomore guy friends are still in relationships with their high school girlfriends (not still in hs, at different schools, but it's similar). I don't know if they will stay together, but they've lasted over a year.</p>
<p>Two points:
1. The odds are against you.
2. It's probably still worth trying to make it work.</p>
<p>Nope and nope. If he says he is, he will probably be lying about it, or is just a major tool who can't get any. If the latter is true, then you will be good to go. If not, he is cheating the first chance he gets. College shouldn't be about boyfriends and girlfriends, it should be about panty raids and random hookups.</p>
<p>I second post #17.</p>
<p>It really depends on the guy. All your daughter can do is trust that he won't cheat on her. But honestly, if a guy in college finds a girl there that he feels like he can't go on without, he will just break up with your daughter. I've seen it happen plenty of times in just the few months I've been in college.</p>
<p>Her bf is not a hunk,but he is decent looking and was very popular in HS. He was not a player or anything with the girls but he was well liked. Played football, belonged to clubs, good student, admired etc. Also he was the one that wanted to make sure that this was not just a summer romance and was upset if anyone thought otherwise. But I realize once you get to college things can change.</p>
<p>I would be so horrified if my mom posted this!!! Why don't you let her worry about it???</p>