Can't choose which college to attend

<p>Okay so I have two options basically. Both schools are pretty much the same academically and they're the same price. School A is 30 minutes from my house and so many people from my high school go there. It's also considered to be trashy and it's in somewhat of a bad area and I don't really like the campus, but the school is well respected throughout country. School B is 6 hours from my house and I love everything about the campus and everyone I know who goes there has nothing to complain about. </p>

<p>I am torn between where to go. School A is very close to a major US city and I think i'd take advantage of that and have an internship sometime during college. Also, I LOVE my house and I LOOOOOOVE my dog and I would feel so guilty for leaving him here because i'm the last of my siblings to go to college and my dog would be so bored (and please don't refute this because I know my dog would be extremely bored). I also feel that it would just be an overall easier transition to college from high school and if I ever needed anything I could get in my car and come home in under a half hour.</p>

<p>I love everything about school B besides the location. It is close to a city, but the city is extremely small compared to the city close to school A. I love the campus so much more than school A, and judging on the facebook groups consisting of over 1000 future students (and I know probably doesn't mean much), I like the students at school B a lot more than school A. Also, I think the social life is better at school B. I also did roomsurf. com and I thought all of the people from school B were relatively "normal" and I would be friends with them, but school A had a lot of people who I wouldn't really socialize with. My only real problem is the distance. I feel like I would be abandoning my dog for one, and I also feel like moving away from where I'm already established would set me back in life (It's hard to explain). I also have a good friend moving across the country to go to a school in the city close to school A and I feel like i'd be there often. </p>

<p>Academically speaking, I think that it would be easier for me to do certain things (like double major and take summer courses) at school A because it's near my house.......The only good thing about school A is that it's close to my house, and I think that every once and a while I would love to just go home sometimes.</p>

<p>aggggggggh I don't know what to do. Do you have any advice? I know it's my decision in the end, but where would you go? How can I pick a school? How will I not feel like I need to change my mind?</p>

<p>Also, I don't want to convey to anyone that I'm absolutely in love with school B or anything, I like it and all, but i'm not one of those people who found a college they NEED to go to.</p>

<p>I’d go to school B. As for the internships in city A, wouldn’t you be able to live at home and do them?</p>

<p>“I feel like moving away from where I’m already established would set me back in life”</p>

<p>You seem to be fearful of starting fresh in an environment where people do not know you. So perhaps this is a reason for being bold and moving six hours away (not far really, an easy drive for Thanksgiving and breaks). </p>

<p>Being away from home will give you the chance to grow into an independent person, with more self-reliance, and coping skills. Students who stay close to home continue to rely on old patterns of parental support, and do not have to build strong bonds with new college friends as they have mom, dad and high school friends to cling to.</p>

<p>While it is nice you care about your dog’s feelings, your parents will be around to walk him,and will have much more time to spoil him as you will be gone.</p>

<p>School B, because at A you’re not going to like the school and it will just make you hate it and always go home and you’ll probably dread going back to school on Monday. </p>

<p>Yeah, distance is something to think about but I think it’s worth it from what you’re saying. </p>

<p>I had that decision too. I had it narrowed down to 2 schools, 1 that was 4 hours and 1 that’s 8 house from home. The 4-hour one I would have taken a car to school and come home on a couple weekends because it was a easy 4-hour drive (same major freeway for the majority of those 4 hours, easy to drive). However, I chose the one that’s 8 hours from home, and if you like the school so well, you probably won’t always feel the need to go home but will be glad those few times you are home, it works out anyways. It can be difficult with the distance since my parents can’t help me if I need something and bring it to me, but I’m fine with it, I don’t think I would have rather been at the 4 hours away school. </p>

<p>6 hours is still fairly drivable though. 8 hours is too, but it’s kinda painful…I fly home for breaks, at least I have so far.</p>

<p>AWWH. I totally understand you about the dog thing! )’: )’:
Reckon, I think you should still choose school B.
I usually thought that distance was something that HELPS someone gain better independence, but I guess not, LOL.
I know the feeling you get when you’re just like, “I’d rather be home…” but trust me, the more you’re at home, the more attached you’ll be. I feel like when you go home, (saying that you choose school B) it should only be during the holidays, and Idk, I feel like that makes everything feel and worth it so much more? </p>

<p>I’m going to put my story in here and I’m going to tell that I’m choosing my school based on FA and maybe consider the financial aid a factor to you?</p>

<p>Good luck! (’: I’m sure you’ll be happy whereever you go.</p>

<p>You can’t judge a school’s entire population based on just 1,000 students (and I’m assuming that you haven’t read all 1,000’s Facebook pages), nor can you do so from websites like ■■■■■■■■.com. At any large enough school, most students will find a contingent of people they would like to be friends with. And who cares if there are a lot of people you wouldn’t want to socialize with? The most important thing is that there are people who you DO want to socialize with.</p>

<p>Regardless, you don’t real seem to like School A. You only like the location.</p>

<p>Your dog will be fine. Presumably your parents will care for him, and you can see him on breaks. You have to grow up some time.</p>

<p>College is a time for making new friends and new ties. That’s not to say that you HAVE to move miles away from your natal home in order to do that, but it also means that you may hold yourself back if the only reason you won’t attend a school that may be a better fit for you is attachments to old friends.</p>

<p>School B. </p>

<p>Trust me, the “fit” (the environment, the people) is more important than anything. I’m at school 10 hours away and although there are times its hard to be so far away, it’s absolutely the best choice. </p>

<p>Go where you’ll be happy, you will make friends and a new life at school B. Home and your dog will be even more special to you when you visit, and it makes it all the sweeter.</p>

<p>School B FTW!</p>

<p>B.</p>

<p>Loving your pets is not a reason to go home every weekend for the next 5-10 years/lifespan of pets.</p>

<p>School B! The change would be good for you. You may think doing things would be “easier” at home, but there’s more familial distractions at home. School would be more academics and social-life focused. The resources, such as study groups and the library, are indispensible. And like PrincessMahina said, you can intern when you’re at home in the summers.</p>

<p>School B fo-sho. The only inviting factor seems to be location. In the long run, it seems as if school B will provide you more happiness because of its overall stability compared to school A. </p>

<p>Good luck with wherever you go, though!</p>

<p>I think you already know that school B is the better option :)</p>