CCers: Would you date someone who was less intelligent than you?

<p>For me, yes. Girl doesn’t have to be more intelligent than me, or even at my level, but can’t be dumb enough to not remember things, not perceptive, not talk about the same things over and over…</p>

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<p>I agree!</p>

<p>Basicaly, it’s not really about GPA, just more about motivation.</p>

<p>My boyfriend (not the guy I just talked about, just clarifying lol) is someone I consider to be significantly more stereotypical intelligent than I am. Although I have a good GPA, class rank, ACT, etc., his academics definitely outshine mine. But I don’t know if I’d call myself any less intelligent than him? I still have strong stats and perform well in other areas which is one reasno why we compliment each other so well.
He’s more shy while I’m outgoing. I don’t have a problem with interviews or presentations, whereas he tends to shy away and doesn’t do as well. But on the other hand, he often picks up on subtle themes in English or remembers little things in math while I might overlook them.
We edit each other’s papers and help with homework and studying. Especially this year with college/scholarship essays, it’s been really useful to critique each other. Heck, one Saturday night we got together for a few hours and editted and wrote essays together. Not your traditional dinner and a movie, but our common priority of school really pulls us together.</p>

<p>I like UFO’s post on the first page.</p>

<p>As a guy, I would like someone at a similar level. I think a more controversial question that would spur more discussion would be - would you rather date someone smarter or dumber than you? Just be honest lol. And don’t feel arrogant/submissive or conceited/clueless. I think I’d pick dumber, and I’m a guy. Wondering how everyone else feels</p>

<p>If you look at people’s eyes, you can kind of get a sense of who they are. They say that the eyes are the windows to the soul, after all. I want to know that there’s a light on.
Some people’s stares look really vapid/dull, unfocused…these kinds of people tend to have low IQ’s. (I’m generalizing, obviously. Alternative explanations: they could be tired, or high, or blind. Or all of the above.) Other people’s eyes just look…sharp. I can’t explain it. It’s like they have a lucidity that reflects how clearly they can see and understand the world. The latter is dateable; the former is not. </p>

<p>That’s how I first get a “sense” of a person’s general intelligence. To me, grades and SAT scores are a poor indicator of this; they’re better indicators of ambition. (Ambition isn’t unattractive, though.)</p>

<p>@OP: Imagine if we used ACTUAL measures of intelligence. </p>

<p>“Hey…What’s your GPA? I need to know if I can date you… Oh, a 3.9? Sorry, I only date 4.0’s…” </p>

<p>“I’d love to go out with you, but-oh, how do I say this?- Your SAT score…It’s too low.”</p>

<p>“I only date Republicans.” (My friend has this [t-shirt](<a href=“Date rep Men's Value T-Shirt I only date republicans White T-Shirt | CafePress”>http://www.cafepress.com/+i_only_date_republicans_white_tshirt,311890427&lt;/a&gt; ))</p>

<p>(Responding to someone asking you out like you’d respond to a CC thread…)
“You have a good chance, but your EC’s are weak.”</p>

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<p>^Oh my gosh haha :D</p>

<p>I personally would prefer a guy who is significantly smarter or significant dumber than I am (preferably the former). If a guy is just at my level of intelligence, I’d feel compelled to compete with him academically.</p>

<p>My past relationships were all with guys who were much dumber than I was…lol. Well, not necessarily stupid, but dumb in terms of school grades. They all had ambition, looks (gotta have those sexy abs), and charisma in common though.</p>

<p>On second thought, I have any prospective dates prepare a dossier and I examine their stats. I give them time to get teacher rec letters as well.</p>

<p>Not too smart and not too dumb is preferable. Any girl who is eons ahead of me would probably just make me feel inadequate and any girl too much dumber than me wouldn’t really be worth much to me after the infatuation wore off.</p>

<p>To date me, you gotta be in the Goldilocks zone. Juuuuuuuust right…</p>

<p>Hmm I don’t think it matters TOO much to me, but if they show absolutely no responsibility, that’s a no no :P</p>

<p>It doesn’t matter alright…</p>

<p>it doesn’t matter as long as the girl isn’t incompetent and has a basic knowledge of what’s going around in the world.</p>

<p>As someone else mentions this Is only relating to academically smart people. I for one wouldn’t want to go out with someone who is overly smart and overly ambitious to the poit where theyre self studying 4 AP’s on top of taking 6 at school, or someone who spends 20 hours a week after school ( I actually do know a few of these). As long as I can hold a conversation with you, you could be pulling a .5 GPA for all I care. I know people who have .5 GPA but are goal driven and the reason they have a .5 GPA is because they can barely come to school because they’re working to support their family. </p>

<p>Now the intelligence I do care about is street smarts, social smarts and common sense. It’s no fun to think that I can have an in depth academic conversation with someone but then they don’t know about pop culture, sports, or music; or someone that wouldn’t know how to just walk down a city street and understand the surroundings, you know??</p>

<p>But that’s just me.</p>

<p>“Would you date someone who was less intelligent than you?” I don’t think I’m capable of doing that. I mean, if he is not intelligent, I won’t be able to stand him. </p>

<p>Yet, intelligence is not solely measured by school grades and test score.</p>

<p>I actually like girls smarter than me. I prefer it that way. I like getting emasculated that way.</p>

<p>^ Are you okay??</p>

<p>@JumboSteve, I completely agree with your criteria. Mine is very similar if not identical. But I think intelligence plays into the first bullet point though. I think it varies for different people but I want intelligent conversations, not only conversations about the latest movie.</p>

<p>No, I would not, because men who are less intelligent than I am are more likely to make idiotic statements which imply that “smarter” equals “manlier.”</p>

<p>I need a guy who is motivated- I don’t care about his SAT score being too low, but if he has plans to go to college and wants to make a life for himself</p>

<p>Yes, I would prefer someone with such traits. The more “intelligent” someone is, the more annoying and stuck up they usually are.</p>

<p>No. And I define intelligence as ability to logically think. For example, say I’m talking about gangs. I’d expect the person to be able to respond in a smart way. Yesterday I thought about this and I was able to establish it’s origins, what fuels it but not it’s solutions though. And this was without the help of any internet. I was able to put two and two together. Considering I haven’t read sociological articles on the issue, I conceptualized based on countries and their operation (competition, colonialism, laws, economy etc) and applied it to gangs. This requires minimal knowledge, it merely requires you to be observational. If you didn’t study any history then you could make the link between family structure and gangs or your fellow pupils and their structure and gangs. </p>

<p>I never understood people who factor in awareness of current events, I couldn’t give a **** about current events. As said,Eleanor Roosevelt "Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people. " Also, factoring in grammar really? Humans are always going to have trouble with grammar because we haven’t evolved to write rather to speak hence it’s expected we will have trouble putting things into text e.g. they’re/their. There’s no such thing as proper grammar anyway. Rules like double negative are dumb as ****. As long as you’re able to communicate efficiently, it’s all good. Are you really going to have trouble understanding someone because they made a grammatical error? Come on. That’s more of a reflection on you than them.</p>

<p>Obviously…why would you not</p>