Celibacy, who else is practicing it?

<p>And what reactions, if any, have you gotten, either from people in general or from members of the opposite sex? Is celibacy virtually unheard of in dormitories?</p>

<p>I’m celibate, but not completely. I’m still a virgin, but wouldn’t mind having sex with someone before marriage as long as I’m in a relationship with them and the time is right for me. Some of my friends think my self-restraint is cool and the others don’t care either way.</p>

<p>I’m a virgin; I’m staying a virgin till marriage. You’ll find virgins, too!
Don’t worry - everyone makes their own choices in college. If you strongly want to wait, then just wait. Others will agree with your views, I’m sure.</p>

<p>Yes and not unheard of. Try religious people.</p>

<p>Argument against celibacy: Roman Catholic Priesthood.</p>

<p>I rest my case.</p>

<p>See raging atheist responses in this thread as examples of ‘reactions’.</p>

<p>Granted I’m atheist and don’t want celibacy to be a part of my life, but come on. Many people do it for nonreligious reasons.</p>

<p>Unlike the common case in high school, people make their own choices in college. This is especially the case for something like sex.</p>

<p>Personally, I couldn’t care less about whether or not someone’s celibate unless I’m about to have intercourse with them. This is the case with several others, also.</p>

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<p>That’s not a case. Here’s one of similar merit:</p>

<p>“Cheese. Therefore, celibacy is bad. I rest my case.”</p>

<p>Judging from some of the earlier responses, don’t be shocked if this spins into a debate about religions.</p>

<p>Because people really love to talk about their stance on religion and know that you really want to hear it. It makes them feel super sexy. </p>

<p>To answer the actual question, I’m not but I know several people who are. I guess it depends on which crowd you roll with or what type of friends you have on whether or not it becomes an issue. If it is, those aren’t likely people you wanted to have has friends anyway. I frankly could care less what my friend’s genitals are doing and with whom.</p>

<p>Other people really really care.</p>

<p>Well, I’m an atheist, and I’m celibate. [Does celibacy actually have a religious definition only, or are people just associating it with religion since that’s where we hear it most?] I have no interest in sex, and I’d rather wait until I’m in a committed, long-lasting relationship before I get physically intimate with a person. I know plenty of people who feel the same way.</p>

<p>Not intentionally!</p>

<p>Although I’m not a virgin. Sure has been a long ‘dry spell’ though :(</p>

<p>Definitely not unheard of, and most people don’t really care either unless they’re trying to have intercourse with you.</p>

<p>Sure, I’d like to refrain from having sex.</p>

<p>Just like I’d like to refrain from chocolate, a lobster dinner, a free BMW 6-series, watching the Dark Knight, spending time with family and friends, alcohol, a 5 month vacation in Europe, pursuing my passions, falling in love, learning foreign languages, going skydiving, sleeping with Megan Fox…</p>

<p>wait, what were we talking about again?</p>

<p>Oh yeah, sex is very enjoyable.</p>

<p>But I guess I can see why people restrict themselves. There is a conventional fear/ stigma of having many partners, especially with women, I suppose. Also I guess a sexual relationship can make you vulnerable, emotionally.</p>

<p>Those are the big reasons. The Bible is a ****-poor argument (sex = evil, because I said so) but that’s not a “big” reason. The vast majority of Christians have premarital sex anyway.</p>

<p>^tell me where in the bible does it say sex is evil? because I don’t think I’ve ever read that passage before
There’s a whole book of the bible devoted to love talk between a man and a woman using some very sexual language (just an example: “Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread abroad. Let my lover come into his garden and taste its choice fruits.”)</p>

<p>anyways like PlattsburghLoser says, I don’t want this to turn into a religious debate.</p>

<p>but anyways if I wasn’t a Christian, I probably wouldn’t have premarital sex out of my own choice but only because I don’t really have that much of an interest YET. Everyone’s definitely entitled to make their own choices. Personally, putting religion aside, I don’t think I would want to be intimate with anyone unless we’re in a serious relationship.</p>

<p>"But I guess I can see why people restrict themselves. There is a conventional fear/ stigma of having many partners, especially with women, I suppose. Also I guess a sexual relationship can make you vulnerable, emotionally.</p>

<p>Those are the big reasons. The Bible is a ****-poor argument (sex = evil, because I said so) but that’s not a “big” reason. The vast majority of Christians have premarital sex anyway. "</p>

<p>Yes, because people need “valid” reasons for doing/not doing things, regardless of whether or not said actions affect anyone but the person in question… If I want to believe that I need to remain celibate until I am 25 and there is a full moon and my cat has given its tacit approval of the act because a purple and yellow fairy came to me in my dreams and told me it must be so, why shouldn’t I? Because I need to go seek psychotherapy and be “cured” of my excessive individualism?</p>

<p>Why people think that they need the entire human race to validate their perspectives on life, I will never understand…</p>

<p>It’s just a personal choice, Parker. No need to get self-righteous. Would you also apply your statement to people like myself who aren’t big fans of so-called ‘casual sex’?</p>

<p>I’ve been practicing celibacy ever since I accidently weed-wacked my wifes flower bed.</p>

<p>It will pass…</p>

<p>I think the definition of celibacy is confused by some in this thread. Waiting until you’re in a “long-lasting” relationship to have sex is not celibacy. That’s called abstinence.</p>

<p>Celibacy is complete abstinence from any sexual activity with no vision of ever having any. When you are claim you are celibate, you are saying you do not have sex and will not have sex under any conditions. A vow of celibacy, if you will.</p>

<p>Celibacy is the same thing as abstinence, but requires also being unmarried (Someone can be married and abstinent, but not married and celebate). Celibacy does not have to be permanent, just like abstinence.</p>

<p>Because celibacy is so personal, its definition is equally personal and varies from person to person. If somebody who hasn’t has sex in the past 32 minutes wants to proclaim their celibacy, they can.
Whether or not others will acknowledge it by that person’s definition, remains to be seen.</p>