<p>Jmmom,
wow....I am in awe of the tone of the responses you have received. I hope you are able to bask, however briefly, in the care and concern demonstrated in this thread. Your patience and interest and solid advice offered to so many others is coming back to you from your cyberfriends..... the underlying, unsaid aspect of this post is what seemed to be a structured 4 year view of your son's life is turning out to be the antithesis of that.....and the title "changes fill my time. that's all right with me" is about your son's away message, not YOURS! I wish you patience as you come to accept the unknowns of his life and the unknowns his life introduces into yours. Whenever I find myself at these types of junctures, I repeat over and over that "the only thing in my life I can control is my attitude"...... you, Jmmom, deserve a big round of applause as you weather these active seas with grace... you are witnessing his maturation with all of the give and take of this experience. Wishing you peace of mind!</p>