In my fairly small class of 30 people I just found out that there is this cute girl in the class. I sat in front so I had no idea that there was this cute girl sitting in the back. The problem is that it has been over a month since the semester started and everyone sits in the same seat. If I just go up and sit next to her it would be really weird since everyone sits in the same seats. Plus she will probably know I like her right? I would also be taking someone’s seat but I don’t care if they will hate me, I’m just worried about how she will think about this. There usually aren’t any empty seats so that person would have to sit in my original seat or take someone’s seat. Also how should I start things. Should I ask if anyone is sitting here just to be polite? Or should I just be confident and take the seat and be like how’s it going?
Why not just catch her after class or something? I hate it when someone takes the seat I always sit in.
I agree with the above. Wait for her before class, say “I have been meaning to ask if you want to form a study group, or are you interested in studying for the test?” Something casual. Or catch up with her after she leaves class, and be sure to say hi, and smile.
I would also be annoyed if someone suddenly sat in the seat I usually sit in, and also think the girl might find it too obvious.
Are there usually open seats at the back? If yes, arrive two or three minutes late to class one day. Quietly slip into one of the empty seats. At dismissal / class break time, ask her if you missed anything in the first few minutes.
Pro-tip: introverts tend to be more territorial about seating. Extraverts often don’t care.
Edit - just saw that there aren’t usually empty seats. Oops.
if she’s not interested it will be very annoying to have a guy just try to force himself to be physically closer to you , it’s predatory af don’t do it. especially if you sit down while she already sat down, because she doesn’t have any power to just get up and move as she would if you had been sitting down first and she arrives and thinks “ok ill sit somewhere else today then.” don’t put her in that position, trust me it’s really annoying.
i don’t think the whole “ask her after class” thing works either since as you said you sit in the front and she in the back so chances are you’ve never even met each other so it’d be awkward and random af to have someone suddenly ask just you specifically to join a study group a month in, especially someone who you never even knew was in the class with you.
chances are she has a boyfriend if you think she’s that attractive to sit next to (you keep referring to her as “cute girl” and dont seem to know anything about her personality or person besides that she’s ‘cute’ and you’re thirsty)
honestly i would just forget about her it’s already too late, anything you do now will just impair on her sovereignty and be obvious.
if you’re truly desperate and then just ask the entire class if they want to form an online study group and pass out a sheet of paper for everyone to write their name/email/phone # or just ask if anyone wants to join and hope she signs up. if she doesn’t sign up then yeah forget about her honestly.
if she does, that doesn’t mean she’s dying to meet you, so don’t treat that as some big ego boost. would you think any girl (example: an unattractive one, or dudes) are interested in you because of that? no. but at least from there you can start to talk to her and be in her circle of acquaintances and work from there to become actual classmates / study friends and what not.
or if you see her in the hallway before/after class just make small talk about the class (blah blah how did you do on the test what was the homework today i forgot) but at least in a way that is obvious that you both just got out of the class and are obviously in the same class (not too late that it seems like you just followed her around the hallways and asked a minute too late after class has scattered away) and if you do see her later on in the day or in the hallway or whatever but it’s not obvious you both just got out of class (cuz remember she might have no idea who you are just as you didn’t know) just say “hey you’re in my [insert class here] class right?” and then just start from there
Start slow. When you are leaving class or coming to class ask a class-related question…“Did you have problem with the second homework problem?” “What did you get for #4?”
Maybe if she starts to recognize you you could ask her if she wants to get together to study for the midterm.
definitely think you have nothing to lose by letting her finding out that you are interested in her. Worst case scenario youll be in the same position you were in earlier (plus chances are she wouldn’t remember you a year from now)
But ideally itll be the gate way for you to get a girl (BEST OF LUCK)
Your best shot is to say hi to her on the walk over to class, or if you see her in the dining hall or library or something. Stick with the standard opener “Aren’t we in the same math class?” and go from there.
Taking a seat next to her in class, given the situation you described would have about a zero percent chance of ending well.
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