Class of 2019 Rejections, Denials etc.

OK, I haven’t posted here yet. A lot of you have seen my posts elsewhere and are probably sick of hearing the story, but for those who don’t know it and are still on the fence and/or waiting for that first acceptance, I felt your pain last year. They don’t call me (and my D) a Class of 2018 Survivor for nothing. Here is a partial post from last year (after the horror was all over!). It proves there are happy endings out there where you least expect it:

"D applied to: NYU Tisch (early decision – sister is an NYU Gallatin student), CMU, The New School (acting), Pace, Wagner, Molloy/CAP 21, SUNY Purchase, UCLA, UC Irvine, AMDA New York. All except for Irvine were audition programs.

Prescreen : Pace – passed
Auditioned on Campus: NYU, The New School, Pace, Purchase, Wagner, Molloy/CAP 21, AMDA
Auditioned at NY Unifieds: CMU
D did not attend UCLA audition because she was in the emergency room that day (she’s fine now, but it was scary). They were nice about it and allowed her to send in a tape…but D changed her mind about going to school in CA and chose not to submit it.

"Re-directed”: Wagner, Pace – both with huge scholarship lures.

Waitlisted: SUNY Purchase

Accepted: AMDA, Molloy/CAP 21
Rejected: EVERYWHERE ELSE
Final Decision: MOLLOY/CAP21

Her Wagner audition was a NIGHTMARE, putting it mildly. Had a sleepless night in a hotel (I had to call the manager at 3:00 a.m. to get the folks next door to shut up; should have known there would be trouble in a place where they put earplugs on the pillows!). Very disorganized, even though it seemed like every student they had was there helping out. About 200 applicants were there. They divided the kids into three groups. My poor D was LAST to go in her group. By that time, she was hungry and exhausted, and the auditors weren’t even listening by that point. They rushed her through and only let her do one song and one monologue. She came out of there in tears. Then she was shuffled off to audition for a scholarship from the music department, but the Theater department didn’t bother to tell her dad and me… In fact, they seemed to have no idea where my D was! Totally disorganized and poorly run! This was her dream school, and now the dream is dead…there is no way she got in. But if the audition was any indication, I’m glad about it…they couldn’t care less about their students. The ride home that day was one of the worst experiences of my life…me trying to drive through NYC traffic, complete with potholes, ahead of yet another storm, and D sobbing the whole time.

So what happened?: Talent is not enough…D thought because she is the diva in HS, she would have no trouble. I tried to tell her that the process is very competitive, etc., but she interpreted that to mean that I had no faith in her and she stopped listening to me. D’s biggest problem was allowing herself to be intimidated at auditions; it was the wrong time to discover that there are other talented kids out there, too. She thought everyone else was better than she was. What they really were was better prepared! Her dream school was first NYU (although she came out of the audition saying the current students were mean to her and she didn’t want to go there), and after she was rejected there, Wagner. Both auditions were train wrecks, but Wagner’s was an annihilation worthy of its own entry on this thread. Her confidence was in shreds after that. She wanted to give up and go to Wagner anyway for a non-performance major, or to AMDA, which did accept her.

After I posted about the Wagner audition nightmare on CC, another poster told me about Molloy/CAP 21. I pretty much forced D to audition only one week after Wagner; she fought tooth and nail. I thought she would intentionally blow the audition for spite, but her dad and I secretly hovered outside the door when she sang…and she nailed it! I give a lot of credit to the two CAP 21 audition evaluators…they let her warm up and were very encouraging. D came out of the audition all smiles. One month later, she was in artistically as well as academically. We were not sure about the Molloy part, but our campus visit yesterday sealed the deal…they are pouring money into the place yet the tuition is thousands less than the competition; the brand-new 550-seat theater is state-of-the-art; and the professors really care – the student/teacher ratio is 10 to 1! D also got a huge merit scholarship because her grades are amazing."

This is the end of last year’s posts.

Fast-forward one year: D loves Molloy/CAP 21; she has a foot in both worlds – college life and conservatory training. She’s been in 2 Equity shows already. She and her pals could have gotten housing in NYC for next year, but chose to stay on the Molloy campus in a suite. Oh yes, it was a happy ending, and a happy beginning, too. So hang in there; good news is coming!

EastchesterMom…I’m glad you posted that stuff again at THIS time in THIS cycle. I know how stressed out everyone is at this time, and they really need to know that something works out in the end and that a year from now, the kids will be happy some place. It’s going to be OK.

Still haven’t heard from Montclair State. On-line status says all documents have been in since March 3rd. Says nothing about her audition which was 2/3. Is it possible she is still in the maybe pile???

From my experience… There is a lot of inadequacy in the admissions dept. at Montclair. They lost our info and blamed us… But had on file one of the items that was sent in the packet I had mailed with a tracking number to them. Really? How did that get there if I didn’t send the other stuff? I am very forgiving of human error, but the lack of taking responsibility for it on there end was quite frustrating. One woman in particular was extremely rude and condescending. I finally through up my hands and was like screw you, I don’t want my kid going to your mean old school in Jersey anyway!
(actually, the director of the program was pretty cool, and my D had a very positive audition with him…)
Stinks the paper pushers couldn’t get it together. Her profile still shows things are missing… Ugh

A lot of these schools are not super-duper at the administrative stuff.

While the admission office is the first point of contact, try hard not to judge the entire school based on that, because once your child attends, they will have no contact with the admissions office. It’s all the other stuff that is going to matter.

My kid applied and auditioned at a school that would not admit to the MT program until the students have been admitted to the university. Admissions has lost the transcripts numerous times, even after I made an appointment and hand delivered them! They have also added things on my kid’s academic profile that my kid never did. The school has already completed their MT acceptances and my kid is still not admitted to the university because they claim the transcript is missing. We totally wasted our money applying to that school.

They were one of a few schools that had misplaced items in my D’s file. Frustrating… It’s a good thing that my D has been somewhat obsessive about checking schools to make sure her file is/was complete.

Huh, well… Should I do anything?

@4461flmom she is at Tisch. She did her first two years at Meisner and liked it a lot. She did her final studio at Stonestreet (film and TV) as the feedback she received was that she would most likely get work on camera. She had the opportunity to take voice and dance as electives and there are plenty of private teachers and dance classes in NYC. As she’s moved through the process, she’s discovered that she is more drawn to producing/writing and casting than acting and has had great opportunities to do internships in those areas. Her own reflections about her road are bittersweet. She feels sad that she didn’t get to take more academic classes, particularly in literature (those classes are pretty hard to fit in/get into) and wonders what it would have been like if she went to a different kind of school (she turned down a couple great BA programs because she had her heart set on a BFA). But that’s life, isn’t it? That said, she made great friends at NYU, had caring, passionate teachers and learned a lot about herself and what she wants for her life. Kinda the point of college I guess! As my screen name suggests, I am doing this process for the 4th kid now–and it really never gets any easier. The waiting is the hardest part, for sure, maybe only second to watching your child be devastated. But they do all move on and figure things out. And usually they are pretty happy once they get to wherever they go. And, if not, that’s what transferring is for. Or even making a different plan. (Yes, had another one leave school when she was signed by a manager and began working so much that school was no longer an option. And that one wasn’t even in a BFA acting program, so go figure!) You sound like you are a loving, caring, supportive mom and your D has that to always fall back on–way better than a college acceptance, for sure! Sending lots of hugs and good thoughts!

When my daughter was applying to Montclair, we had frustrations with the admissions office, too. For example, we wanted to visit (this was after she was accepted, but we hadn’t seen the school yet) and they said there was no one who could give us a tour. That was insane. So I finally took a leap and bypassed them and dealt only with the people in the MT department, and it was like the skies opened. Nothing but help and friendliness from staff and students. My daughter is a student there now and we haven’t had any problems since, JSYK. And hey, watch the Jersey comments! I grew up there, and Montclair is in a GORGEOUS area.

@Calliene‌ I’ve visited NJ, def. an underrated great place. I was just venting my frustrations Sorry to offend you in the cross fire. :)>-

Two electronic “no’s” today…OCU and Rider. Moving on…

Sorry @MTRaleighmom‌ . Sending you and D a big hug from S and I.

I feel for you @MTRaleighmom! Waiting on the snail mail for BW and Hartt! And, it would be nice if the phone would ring from Ball State. Hang in there!

Sorry @MTRaleighmom‌

Let’s just make the no’s a drinking game.

At least that way I’d pass out and not have to think about D’s college.

Ugh.

Praying for everyone waiting! Trying to look at the rejections as good news for others waiting! She is blessed to have an acceptance. @Divamamacita‌ sending vibes of positivity to your phone and mailbox!!! @KaMaMom‌ I’m going to enjoy a giant margarita when this is all over!

Shoot, I would be up to 7 shots then and I would feel no pain.

Just junk mail today! ARGGGGH!

All junk mail for us too. I will take that over a rejection any day, now pass the Tequilla.