<p>Hi im a college freshman at a college that will go unnamed and i have no friends and no social life</p>
<p>at my college there are 4 dorm areas, 3 of which are normal traditional dorms and mine which is a suite style dorm. before i got here, people said the dorm i live in is the worst one because of the suite style and kind of farther from classes as the others, and that its harder to meet people in your dorm because of the suite style and you bond more with your suitemates. </p>
<p>but ever since the first day basically my other 2 roommates have been out all the time. one roommate knew a kid in the dorm so he's been with him since day 1, and the other knew people from the start as well. i knew people from high school, but they were in the other dorms and i didnt want to just stick to them and follow them around. even though i left my door open and such, i didnt meet anyone. basically the only people i know are my roommates' friends and only sometimes do stuff with one roommate's, and me and him and some of his other friends are livng together next year</p>
<p>now, i get sad when i always see these other dorms where people hang out with their roommates and stuff (or other dorm people) and im always the one in my room alone with roommates who dont get back until midnight. also im shy and went to a few parties but the only parties here are frat parties and i couldnt handle being in a situation like that, especially when i didnt know anyone, so i dont go to parties. i just feel like im wasting my parents money since i could have gotten an apartment for 10x cheaper if i wasnt going to meet anyone anyway. </p>
<p>i just wonder if anyone else had this situation and what you did? also, could the fact that i was always alone in the room trying to meet people the first few weeks have been a turn-off to people?</p>
<p>^ This post sounds very familiar. Maybe you are the same person that posted this situation awhile back, maybe not. I guess it really doesn’t matter; what matters is that you are still having the same problem. Anyway, please give some more information about how you’ve tried to fix the situation. Have you joined any clubs and intramural sports? Tried joining any study groups? Tried talking to people in class? What about becoming active in your dorm government or social committee? And of course there is the college counseling center – have you taken advantage of it?</p>
<p>My point is that it’s obvious you have a problem you need to address but how are you working to fix it? And if it’s as bad as you say did you consider requesting a new roommate or dorm?</p>
<p>Join a club or something. If you see ppl from that club in other places make sure you say hi or something and sit with at the dining hall. Try to create a study group.</p>
<p>I often see people on here typing about how they “leave their door open.” Big whoop. I know I wouldn’t just say hey to some random person who’s door is open. You really just have to force yourself on people in a non illegal way.</p>
<p>I was in a similar situation my freshman year. Instead of going out and meeting people, I sat in my dorm room (it was a single) and pouted the whole time and played video games. I had a few friends I had met from orientation that I would hang with and my best friend from high school, but other than that, I had very little of a social life.</p>
<p>So, I’m going to tell you what I would tell myself–just get out of the room as much as you can, and try to talk to some people. Don’t ask everyone you meet to hang out, you’ll come off as desperate, but talk to EVERYONE, and you’ll be able to find something. Easier said than done, but once you start, it’ll get easier to keep it going.</p>
<p>Also, it’s not a bad thing to hang with your high school friends. Just because you’re in college now doesn’t mean you can’t be friends anymore.</p>
<p>Your college dorm situation sounds very similar to mines.</p>
<p>Main thing I have to say: I have lots of friends and a good number of good ones, but none of them are from the dorms.</p>
<p>Go join a club and seek out opportunities. Living together with someone can help you become friends with them, if you can find common ground. However, if not, you better meet people you can better connect with at other places.</p>