<p>I agree emphatically with alh, post #91; but I also agree with geomom, post #105. I think that for a bright and academically engaged student at a “top” school, college tends to be much more congenial (rather than “easier,” exactly). </p>
<p>The emphasis on understanding tough material in depth tends to be much more comfortable for such students than the heavy demands to accomplish a load of shorter, generally less-challenging assignments that are piled up. I have the impression that some high schools are not like this, but even the highly rated ones, such as the one that geomom’s son attended, can feel like this to a strong student. Also, most semesters, it is not necessary to schedule classes that require getting up at 6:15 am or even earlier, and this in itself can make the work more comfortable.</p>
<p>In high school, I think that a student can legitimately have the feeling that no matter how much is accomplished, it is never “enuf” for admission to most “top” schools (to borrow the term used by Ben Golub at Caltech). Even for the students who realize that they do not need to go to a “top” school to have an excellent education, and whose parents are not operating in “special snowflake” mode (Pizzagirl’s term), there is still a certain amount of pressure that results from this situation.</p>
<p>Then, too, many students will find a wider variety of EC’s on offer in college, and will have the opportunity to select groups that fit their interests extremely well. A student who is involved in university research will find that the work moves at the pace of the project itself (often fast), but there is less need to meet deadlines for Intel, Siemens, etc. There might be some pressure to meet grant deadlines, but that’s usually reserved for the faculty members, Ph.D. students, and post-docs.</p>
<p>So altogether, it makes for a happier experience, though not really “easier.”</p>
<p>It is also interesting that there have been times recently when the list of non-sticky threads in the Parents Forum has been topped by this thread and the one about students dropping out of STEM majors because they are “so darn hard.”</p>