College Life & Stuff

<p>Hi i just wanted to ask some stuff cause i'm kind of nervous and afraid.</p>

<p>i don't know what to expect. I'm the first one in my family to go to a college/university.</p>

<p>so how are things?</p>

<p>is it easy to meet/make friends? since universities hold thousands of students i was thinking that you can't really get friends that are close to you because you might not see them all the time in such a huge campus and different classes and life styles. you know like in H.S. where you can create a small group of friends.</p>

<p>what are the activities that most people do besides partying?</p>

<p>Do they have stuff like we had in H.S. such as yearbooks or gradnight?</p>

<p>any other details that you guys wanna throw in would be great</p>

<p>The first couple weeks of any school year are easy to meet people, especially as a frosh. Everyone is anxious to meet people, and simply going up to people in your predominantly freshman courses will be more than okay. Even if you're shy, fake it 'til you make it the first couple weeks and you'll be fine. Ask people to join you for getting dinner, going to parties, playing intramurals, etc, and there should not be any problems. Even just watching tv and playing video games will be totally acceptable invitations...</p>

<p>ohh..so people are cool for the most part. they don't like stare at you and move away ,comment something to their friend or laugh quietly at you.</p>

<p>you realize people wont have that many friends at the start. just be friendly, not creepy, say hi and smile and introduce yourself. probably the best to do this right before or after classes.</p>

<p>seriously everything ive heard is that its so easy to make friends the first few weeks if you're just willing to be a little more outgoing than usual...because everyone is in the same position -- and my sisters always had stuff like grad ball when they graduated and they got yearbooks and whatnot -- other activities i would assume are like the ones in h.s. except now you're in college haha?? going to the gym, playing sports, reading, videogames, movies, etc...</p>

<p>Be open to new situations, join a club, play sports if you are not into partying. They are the best ways to find friends of your type. You will finally find your own niche.</p>

<p>Roommates are a great vector for making friends too...if you get along well with your roommate you can basically "share" the friends you both make and essentially double your circle.</p>

<p>But don't cling to your roommate initially. Sure, if it's 6:30, and you don't have dinner plans, ask him if he wants to grab dinner with you, but if he mentions he's meeting people or doing something, don't invite yourself. If he invites you, feel free to join, but you and your roommate will get along much better if you initially aren't his sidekick or vice versa.</p>

<p>I found the easiest ways to make friends are in class and in clubs.</p>

<p>I made most of my friends from being lost on what a professor was saying which resulted in a conversation that went as:
"Do you get what she's talking about?"
"No, I was staring at her wig."
"<em>laugh</em> Hi, my name is..."</p>

<p>I also made a lot friends from joining a sorority.</p>

<p>Making friends in class and parties are the easiest. And clubs or intramural sports. But I would definitely say class and parties.</p>

<p>aww it's perfectly normal to be afraid. the key to making friends is being very friendly to everyone. don't be afraid to be the first to say hi. i cannot describe to you how great it feels being in a huge school yet being able to wave at nearly every other person you see waking by. You obviously won't be bffs with everyone, but even basically knowing people will make you feel great!</p>

<p>Going out and being social is also a really good way to make friends. My freshman year, I walked around and said hi to every freshman in my building and the guys next door (Ironically, they all went to the same high school, and I was the loner) but it all worked out.</p>

<p>thank you so much guys</p>

<p>I appreciate it this makes me feel more confortable.</p>

<p>;)</p>

<p>I went to a boarding school whose alumni observe it as very similar to college, so perhaps I can offer some credible advice...</p>

<p>Students are excited to have left home and eager to make new friends, so for the first few weeks, chances are you'll be around some folks whom you consider good pals. But as the year progresses, you'll gradually meet other people, and you'll have time to have formulated your friendship feelings, so friendships might very well change. I've seen this frequent among my peers, but certainly it doesn't guarantee that you won't keep the friends you initially made because I know plenty of folks who stay good friends.</p>