<p>Is anyone else here about to be a first year and is worrying about meeting people?</p>
<p>I've tended to be pretty shy all my life, so I'm worried that I'll have trouble making friends.</p>
<p>People in college already - did you have the same fear? How did you deal with it? How did things work out?</p>
<p>Well, I'm in the same boat as you, in terms of being a first year student... but I basically walked into high school the same way. But what I've heard is that people tend to all be in need of friends at the beginning of the school year, so the best thing to do would be to attempt to shed as much of your shyness as possible (it's hard, I know, but just do it... everyone else is in the same boat, so it's REALLY difficult to embarrass yourself), and join someone at the dinner table, or go meet the people on your floor or something.</p>
<p>I have heard, though, that it gets harder after the first few weeks, so don't put it off.</p>
<p>Kheryn, college is a very friendly place meaning that everyone is friendly and that's where you make your GREATEST friends. Well, that's when you make your true friends! You'll have a great time and if you need anything private message me :)!</p>
<p>When I get to college my first day, I plan on asking if any of my roomates care to go explore the campus some more and check out the coeds.. Then ramp through the residence hall real fast and leave the door open = friendly atmosphere and don't box yourself in.</p>
<p>Seems to be a good icebreaker...Also sit by people and ask where they're from if you're out-of-state who knows you may sit next to someone from your own state? Also seems like a good icebreaker.</p>
<p>I myself also plan on joining the Hockey, and Soft/Baseball league.. So I don't know!</p>
<p>I am scared going alone too, but I think I have the right idea..</p>
<p>I just hope none of my roomates are real bums.. and super shy/non-social. </p>
<p>Best of luck to all!</p>
<p>I wouldn't worry about it. I was pretty much as shy as you could get in high school and I did great. Everyone is in the same boat as you, no one generally knows anyone and hall style living is just very conducive to making friends. Just don't be afraid to get involved, try new things, go to things by yourself, etc. It will be okay so don't dwell.</p>
<p>Is it REALLY really hard to embarrass yourself? I have going to a new country to contend with, as well :/.</p>
<p>I only talk to my roomates and one kid that I met here in college. The rest of the people I talk to are kids from my high school.</p>
<p>Trust me, there are so many freaks in college. Just keep a low profile and keep your head down and you'll be fine. Go to class, study, and relax. New people cause drama that you don't need in your life.</p>
<p>Other people just complicate things.</p>
<p>College is such a great place to meet people. I was really shy first semester, didn't really meet anyone, and I got scared I wasn't going to be able to make friends. But second semester I met really awesome people, one of whom is my ex-boyfriend (we are still good friends) and another is one of my best friends in the world now. </p>
<p>Plus through them I met some really awesome people to party with and we hang out and drink and have fun alot. I met some pretty cool people in an organization I'm in too. We have socials together and have fun, hang out in our office alot together, it's cool. </p>
<p>You just have to relax and put yourself out there, trust me, I am not little miss social butterfly, I was like the shyest person ever in high school.</p>
<p>Okay, here's my story. When orientation started, I was always awkardly in the corner of any conversation and it was hard to speak up. I evaluated myself along the lines of "Well, if they call me over to talk, then that means I'm worth talking to!"</p>
<p>Yeah, well. Not many did that. </p>
<p>So, from my corner of obscurity, I watched this guy leave the same dorm, do a quick 90 degree turn, and introduce himself to the first person he saw. That gave me a jump start and icebreakers are seriously an outlet for me. </p>
<p>The first step about meeting people is just slowly throwing away your insecurities. Feel confident. You won't sound dumb, you're not ugly, and realize this - you're finally in college! If you embarrass yourself, it's fine! It makes for great anecdotes.</p>
<p>Good luck. 8D</p>
<p>I'm scared wah!</p>
<p>One thing that could help is if you hear people talking in the hall, just walk out of your room and join the conversation. Nobody will yell at you and tell you to stay out.</p>
<p>Why would you do that? What a weirdo. <em>runs away</em></p>
<p>If you are a guy it's really easy to meet folks. All you have to do is join in some random conversation about sports. Works 95% of the time, even for the shyest people. I met a lot of my close guy friends at college this way.</p>
<p>This sometimes works for girls as well, but there are also a lot of girls who don't like sports so talk about something else, I don't know, maybe makeup or something.</p>
<p>School is another safe topic and it works on both guys or girls...as long as they are interested in doing well.</p>
<p>the only people you'll have a really hard time making firends with are people who have almost all their high school friends there.</p>
<p>or if you don't live on campus if you want to meet people LIVE ON CAMPUS!!</p>
<p>Did I have the same fear? No.</p>
<p>How did I deal with it? Did nothing.</p>
<p>How did things work out? Who cares?</p>
<p>Quite frankly, making friends isn't that big of a priority to be totally honest with you.</p>
<p>You mean it isn't a big priority... for you. </p>
<p>For most, it's a top priority.</p>
<p>I just realized I was being redundant:</p>
<p>"Quite frankly" + "to be totally honest with you."</p>
<p>Yikes.</p>
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<p>Yeah, I don't get the big deal about having and making friends either. Are people on these boards so socially inept that they have to go out of their way to make friends.</p>
<p>Granted it might not be a big deal to me because I have always had a network of 7-10 very close friends, with it increasing to be that size over time. But I cannot remember a certain time in my life where it was like "this person is now my friend". It just sorta happened, they just fell into my life. </p>
<p>To be frank it is kinda weird to me that people go actively looking for friends. It sounds weird and reeks of desperation, and if it is two things that will make people run away from you more than anything else in the beginning, is weirdness and desperation.</p>
<p>Just live life, people will come to you.</p>
<p>My sentiments exactly.</p>